Guest guest Posted December 10, 2008 Report Share Posted December 10, 2008 Hi Kathy, Micah's not much of a groomer either. But his isn't OCD related, that I know of. He just hates baths, hates to comb his hair, and brush his teeth. When Micah turned 11 he started having trouble with dandruff....he'd never had it before, and we washed his hair 2-3 times per week. Turns out it was because of increased oil production due to puberty. We got him Redkin dandruff shampoo and that took care of the problem, now he washes it 3 times a week, and the dandruff is gone. He's also getting pimples, but washes his face daily. I made it easy for him, I got him pre soaped pads, I also got him Stridex pads. He doesn't like to do it, I have to remind him each and every day. But, even though he is taking good care of his skin he's still getting pimples, some of them just aren't avoidable, no matter how much he washes, in fact washing too much can make them worse, as it increases oil production. I still nag Micah, some times multiple times....and some times I threaten to come in and wash him myself, that usually gets him moving, up to a snails pace! My daughter (now 23) who doesn't have OCD was the same way, but once she reached the later part of Jr. High it all changed. Once the boys started being interested taking care of herself took on new meaning, it wasn't something she did just to get her mom off her back. I'm not sure what can be attributed to having OCD, and what's just being a pre-teen. But I think if its teen stuff it will get better in time. I wish you the best, In a message dated 12/9/2008 3:19:02 P.M. Central Standard Time, gkathy40@... writes: She is reluctant to take care of herself in the grooming department. Though she struggles with thoughts in the shower (at times) and always feels better after she takes them, it is very difficult to get her to take 2 showers a week. Her hair is stringy and she is getting dandruff. She " forgets " to brush her teeth, has to be nagged to brush her hair and she is getting pimples because she won't take care of her face (she is 11). No matter how I approach this (soft and loving or hard with facts) she just won't budge. I am going to discuss this with the doctors but wonder if anyone else has had similar problems. She is very sloppy and takes no pride in herself. She is a well liked kid at school but they are 6th graders and I am afraid it is going to start affecting her socially. **************Make your life easier with all your friends, email, and favorite sites in one place. Try it now. (http://www.aol.com/?optin=new-dp & icid=aolcom40vanity & ncid=emlcntaolcom00000010) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2008 Report Share Posted December 11, 2008 HI, I have two with OCD, ages 12 and 7, and they are both very difficult in the grooming area also. I will say that my daughter has improved dramatically now that she is in 7th grade. With the little " boyfriends " and all, it has made a HUGE difference!!!!! Before I had to literally brush her teeth for her. She had an expander in her mouth and wouldn't brush. Well now, she brushes. I could barely get my daughter to wash her hands after using the bathroom. I had to go and physically wash her up in the shower until she was 9. I explained lovingly to her that people don't like bad breath, dirty hands etc. She still has shower issues because she had a fear of sharks in the water.She will get in and get wet, than I have to coax her to wash , but a timer works well for that. I have definetely found that getting older helps this problem. Now for my son!!!!! I have tried the threats ,the punishments, etc. Nothing would work. We had tantrums every bath or shower. I use the timer with him also. This way it's not ME nagging him. You have this much time to wash... It's worth a try! Hugs Judy ________________________________ To: Sent: Wednesday, December 10, 2008 10:21:57 PM Subject: Re: self esteem Hi Kathy, Micah's not much of a groomer either. But his isn't OCD related, that I know of. He just hates baths, hates to comb his hair, and brush his teeth. When Micah turned 11 he started having trouble with dandruff.... he'd never had it before, and we washed his hair 2-3 times per week. Turns out it was because of increased oil production due to puberty. We got him Redkin dandruff shampoo and that took care of the problem, now he washes it 3 times a week, and the dandruff is gone. He's also getting pimples, but washes his face daily. I made it easy for him, I got him pre soaped pads, I also got him Stridex pads. He doesn't like to do it, I have to remind him each and every day. But, even though he is taking good care of his skin he's still getting pimples, some of them just aren't avoidable, no matter how much he washes, in fact washing too much can make them worse, as it increases oil production. I still nag Micah, some times multiple times....and some times I threaten to come in and wash him myself, that usually gets him moving, up to a snails pace! My daughter (now 23) who doesn't have OCD was the same way, but once she reached the later part of Jr. High it all changed. Once the boys started being interested taking care of herself took on new meaning, it wasn't something she did just to get her mom off her back. I'm not sure what can be attributed to having OCD, and what's just being a pre-teen. But I think if its teen stuff it will get better in time. I wish you the best, In a message dated 12/9/2008 3:19:02 P.M. Central Standard Time, gkathy40sbcglobal (DOT) net writes: She is reluctant to take care of herself in the grooming department. Though she struggles with thoughts in the shower (at times) and always feels better after she takes them, it is very difficult to get her to take 2 showers a week. Her hair is stringy and she is getting dandruff. She " forgets " to brush her teeth, has to be nagged to brush her hair and she is getting pimples because she won't take care of her face (she is 11). No matter how I approach this (soft and loving or hard with facts) she just won't budge. I am going to discuss this with the doctors but wonder if anyone else has had similar problems. She is very sloppy and takes no pride in herself. She is a well liked kid at school but they are 6th graders and I am afraid it is going to start affecting her socially. ************ **Make your life easier with all your friends, email, and favorite sites in one place. Try it now. (http://www.aol. com/?optin= new-dp & icid= aolcom40vanity & ncid=emlcntaolco m00000010) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2008 Report Share Posted December 11, 2008 Thanks for all the comments everyone! ~~Kathy gkathy40@... http://www.myspace.com/clearingachannel yahoo messenger id gkathy40@... Courage is not living without fear. Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway. -Chae Subject: Re: self esteem To: Date: Thursday, December 11, 2008, 4:52 AM HI, I have two with OCD, ages 12 and 7, and they are both very difficult in the grooming area also. I will say that my daughter has improved dramatically now that she is in 7th grade. With the little " boyfriends " and all, it has made a HUGE difference!! !!! Before I had to literally brush her teeth for her. She had an expander in her mouth and wouldn't brush. Well now, she brushes. I could barely get my daughter to wash her hands after using the bathroom. I had to go and physically wash her up in the shower until she was 9. I explained lovingly to her that people don't like bad breath, dirty hands etc. She still has shower issues because she had a fear of sharks in the water.She will get in and get wet, than I have to coax her to wash , but a timer works well for that. I have definetely found that getting older helps this problem. Now for my son!!!!! I have tried the threats ,the punishments, etc. Nothing would work. We had tantrums every bath or shower. I use the timer with him also. This way it's not ME nagging him. You have this much time to wash... It's worth a try! Hugs Judy ____________ _________ _________ __ From: " ccfcrwmcaol (DOT) com " <ccfcrwmcaol (DOT) com> To: @ yahoogroups. com Sent: Wednesday, December 10, 2008 10:21:57 PM Subject: Re: self esteem Hi Kathy, Micah's not much of a groomer either. But his isn't OCD related, that I know of. He just hates baths, hates to comb his hair, and brush his teeth. When Micah turned 11 he started having trouble with dandruff.... he'd never had it before, and we washed his hair 2-3 times per week. Turns out it was because of increased oil production due to puberty. We got him Redkin dandruff shampoo and that took care of the problem, now he washes it 3 times a week, and the dandruff is gone. He's also getting pimples, but washes his face daily. I made it easy for him, I got him pre soaped pads, I also got him Stridex pads. He doesn't like to do it, I have to remind him each and every day. But, even though he is taking good care of his skin he's still getting pimples, some of them just aren't avoidable, no matter how much he washes, in fact washing too much can make them worse, as it increases oil production. I still nag Micah, some times multiple times....and some times I threaten to come in and wash him myself, that usually gets him moving, up to a snails pace! My daughter (now 23) who doesn't have OCD was the same way, but once she reached the later part of Jr. High it all changed. Once the boys started being interested taking care of herself took on new meaning, it wasn't something she did just to get her mom off her back. I'm not sure what can be attributed to having OCD, and what's just being a pre-teen. But I think if its teen stuff it will get better in time. I wish you the best, In a message dated 12/9/2008 3:19:02 P.M. Central Standard Time, gkathy40sbcglobal (DOT) net writes: She is reluctant to take care of herself in the grooming department. Though she struggles with thoughts in the shower (at times) and always feels better after she takes them, it is very difficult to get her to take 2 showers a week. Her hair is stringy and she is getting dandruff. She " forgets " to brush her teeth, has to be nagged to brush her hair and she is getting pimples because she won't take care of her face (she is 11). No matter how I approach this (soft and loving or hard with facts) she just won't budge. I am going to discuss this with the doctors but wonder if anyone else has had similar problems. She is very sloppy and takes no pride in herself. She is a well liked kid at school but they are 6th graders and I am afraid it is going to start affecting her socially. ************ **Make your life easier with all your friends, email, and favorite sites in one place. Try it now. (http://www.aol. com/?optin= new-dp & icid= aolcom40vanity & ncid=emlcntaolco m00000010) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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