Guest guest Posted December 28, 2008 Report Share Posted December 28, 2008 I found this group by accident yesterday while searching on the internet for help regarding my daughter's symptoms. This may be long, so forgive me in advance. My husband had OCD while younger, he says he still has some struggles, but has never been on medication, never seen a doctor for the symptoms. While younger, he did the " 123's " as his parents called them, blinked a lot, touched his bed from side-to-side before going to sleep...and many other rituals to prevent something bad from happening to his mom. He said when he got older, he read a book called " How to Stop Worrying and Start Living " which changed his life. He still struggles with " sick thoughts " sometimes that he is able to manage, and tells me it is not something that controls his life anymore. I did not even realize that he had this problem until we noticed OCD symptoms in my son and that is when he shared with me his struggles when he was younger. We have 3 children. DS-10, DD-7, DD-3. We noticed OCD tendencies in my son about 2 years ago. Probably there were symptoms earlier, but noticed the sick thoughts symptoms two years ago. When he was younger, he could only wear shorts, was extremely uncomfortable in new situations or any sort of change. His room has to be just right but is also messy. Of course he's a kid. He collects everything from bottles to bugs. He has saved every Lego he has ever made since he started making Legos at 6. His only ritual that I am aware of is his bedtime routine at this point. The OCD area of concern with him is the need to tell me everything. If he's done something wrong, or feels it was wrong, or has a sick thought, he needs to confess it to me in order to feel better. Also, he gets sick thoughts like his dad. For example, he once told me a few years ago that he imagines he's shooting people as we're driving on the street, and he hates the thought and feels terribly guilty afterwards. He also imagined the priest getting shot one day during Mass. He felt terrible guilt about these thoughts until his dad told him he was the same way and that it was just part of his brain getting stuck in a weird place. When my son first told me these things, I thought he had been playing too many video games, even though he was only allowed to play for 2 hours a day on weekends only. And then they are only E games, but even the E games can be violent. Anyway, at first I thought it was a video game issue, until my husband told me about his own OCD symptoms. DS seems to be okay right now. In fact he hasn't had to share any thoughts with me in a while, and once we told him about " talking back " to his OCD, and not letting his OCD bully him, he has seemed to improve a great deal. I think he was relieved to know he wasn't the only one who had this problem since his dad had the same struggles. So he seems to be okay...for now. Presently, our concern is our daughter who is 7. She has always been into numbers and so I thought she was just good at Math. However, recently we noticed that she is touching the inside of mouth with her tongue from side-to-side. DH noticed it actually. He asked her what she was doing, and she said she has to touch both sides even. If she touches one side, she must end on the other side. She also shared with me a few weeks ago that she was special and different from her friends in that nobody does what she does...which is to take steps evenly, so if she starts on one foot she must stop on the other foot. She thinks it's funny right now. Told me she does it because she has to....that it would feel weird not to do it, wouldn't feel right to her. DH told her to end on an odd number every once in a while, just to mix it up. Of course, he is concerned. To him it is a big red flag for OCD. She also must say her bedtime routine just right. Saying her prayers just right. Those are the only symptoms I have noticed with her at this point. First of all, do you think this is OCD or just normal kid stuff? If it weren't for DH I wouldn't have noticed dd's quirks. Ds's weird thoughts were definitely worrisome to me though. Sorry so long. We have not bee to any doctor at this point. The kids do well in their studies; it does not seem to affect them in their daily living and so dh did not want to put them on meds or anything like that. But I am looking for behavioral tools to help them. I need to know what to say when I notice an OCD thing. I also want to know what NOT to do, so as to not make it worse. Thank you for your advice, and I look forward to perusing the archives for more insight. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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