Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy of it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down ALL CONSERVATIONS you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! GOOD LUCK !!!! , from NJ mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated 9/1/04), AUTISTIC and 4yr-(hearing) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy of it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down ALL CONSERVATIONS you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! GOOD LUCK !!!! , from NJ mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated 9/1/04), AUTISTIC and 4yr-(hearing) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy of it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down ALL CONSERVATIONS you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! GOOD LUCK !!!! , from NJ mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated 9/1/04), AUTISTIC and 4yr-(hearing) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 I agree with this. Do you have the School's Student Handbook? Shame on the teacher AND the school. Re: bullying > check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy of > it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down ALL > CONSERVATIONS > you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! > > GOOD LUCK !!!! > > > > , from NJ > mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing > impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated 9/1/04), AUTISTIC > and 4yr-(hearing) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 I agree with this. Do you have the School's Student Handbook? Shame on the teacher AND the school. Re: bullying > check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy of > it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down ALL > CONSERVATIONS > you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! > > GOOD LUCK !!!! > > > > , from NJ > mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing > impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated 9/1/04), AUTISTIC > and 4yr-(hearing) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 Yeah I have it. I think they are out to make my life as difficult as possible, they seem very reluctant to work with me on anything. But, if that's the price for my kids getting an education, they can hate my guts... Debi > I agree with this. Do you have the School's Student Handbook? Shame on the > teacher AND the school. > Re: bullying > > > > check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy > of > > it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down > ALL > > CONSERVATIONS > > you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! > > > > GOOD LUCK !!!! > > > > > > > > , from NJ > > mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing > > impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated > 9/1/04), AUTISTIC > > and 4yr-(hearing) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 Yeah I have it. I think they are out to make my life as difficult as possible, they seem very reluctant to work with me on anything. But, if that's the price for my kids getting an education, they can hate my guts... Debi > I agree with this. Do you have the School's Student Handbook? Shame on the > teacher AND the school. > Re: bullying > > > > check with the school. there should be a CODE OF CONDUCT and get a copy > of > > it. I am sure they have a ANTI -BULLYING policy !!!! Also.. write down > ALL > > CONSERVATIONS > > you have with this teacher .. she sounds like a real " WINNER " !!!! > > > > GOOD LUCK !!!! > > > > > > > > , from NJ > > mother to ,2, born with Low imperferate anus and hearing > > impaired(conexin 26) - wearing a Nuclues 24 cocchlear implant(activated > 9/1/04), AUTISTIC > > and 4yr-(hearing) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 > That said, my girl ain't gonna be no stepping > stone for anyone, as far as I'm concerned. Do I > teach her to fight? Do I teach her to remain > docile? What do I do? Teach her words, NOTHING PHYSICAL. Fighting back gets people in trouble. And teach her to report ANYTHING bullying to the playground monitor or her teacher as soon as possible, in addition to you. If they give her or you the tattle tale garbage, talk to the school. Make it perfectly clear that bullying wont be tolerated and your child is no one's verbal or physical punching bag. No child should be afraid of school, or anyone there. Give a hug from me and tell her I am praying for her. Kassiane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 > That said, my girl ain't gonna be no stepping > stone for anyone, as far as I'm concerned. Do I > teach her to fight? Do I teach her to remain > docile? What do I do? Teach her words, NOTHING PHYSICAL. Fighting back gets people in trouble. And teach her to report ANYTHING bullying to the playground monitor or her teacher as soon as possible, in addition to you. If they give her or you the tattle tale garbage, talk to the school. Make it perfectly clear that bullying wont be tolerated and your child is no one's verbal or physical punching bag. No child should be afraid of school, or anyone there. Give a hug from me and tell her I am praying for her. Kassiane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 Thanks for this and the seizure stuff. She's reporting to me daily, I think my reaching out to the girl is helping for Jess. The girl was sitting alone and lunch as punishment. I walked over and said, " Hey, I'm Debi, 's mom. I want to thank you for being 's special friend. I can tell you're a cool girl and it means a lot that you want to be her friend. " Then I complimented her on her dimples. I used this approach before and it worked wonders. The things are telling me now is that T seems to have accepted Jess, but is still bullying 's friends. Of course, if this kid feels a need to take up with Jess she might very well be jealous of anyone else wants to play with. <sigh> Girl stuff. I've always told her to never hit and she's never been a physically agressive kid. One of the first grade teachers told me she was bullyed for years and she finally knocked the crap out of her aggressor and was never bothered again. I was telling her about a little girl picking on Jess last year and she said, " Tell to knock the $*** out of her, but you didn't hear that from me. " lol. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2005 Report Share Posted September 20, 2005 Thanks for this and the seizure stuff. She's reporting to me daily, I think my reaching out to the girl is helping for Jess. The girl was sitting alone and lunch as punishment. I walked over and said, " Hey, I'm Debi, 's mom. I want to thank you for being 's special friend. I can tell you're a cool girl and it means a lot that you want to be her friend. " Then I complimented her on her dimples. I used this approach before and it worked wonders. The things are telling me now is that T seems to have accepted Jess, but is still bullying 's friends. Of course, if this kid feels a need to take up with Jess she might very well be jealous of anyone else wants to play with. <sigh> Girl stuff. I've always told her to never hit and she's never been a physically agressive kid. One of the first grade teachers told me she was bullyed for years and she finally knocked the crap out of her aggressor and was never bothered again. I was telling her about a little girl picking on Jess last year and she said, " Tell to knock the $*** out of her, but you didn't hear that from me. " lol. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 12, 2008 Report Share Posted September 12, 2008 e, I'm so sorry this is happening. Bullying is so awful. I've heard some in here talk about it, and I hope they share something that worked for them. We had our son go to a private Christian school, when he was in first grade. Our experience was that it wasn't any better than the public schools, with stuff like that. It was just more expensive. In fact, in some ways it was worse with behavior stuff. They admitted they had many kids there who were kicked out of public schools, due to behavior problems. And some of the kids were out of control. I wish I had some answers for you. I can feel the desperation in your message. ( We've homeschooled for many, many years, so didn't deal with that issue. Our son had a lot of socialization through homeschool functions, homeschool groups, and neighborhood kids, but only had one incident of being bullied. It was a neighborhood kid. Josh wrestled the kid to the ground, sat on him, and told him to knock it off because he wasn't going to fight him. lol The kid stopped. I thought that was rather clever. I swear sometimes it seems kids zero in on the shy ones, or the ones who are struggling with self esteem. I remember that from my own days in school. I understand what your son is saying,. . his feelings on it. But, it can't be allowed to continue either. What does his therapist suggest you do? If it were me, I think I would talk to the school and let them know his feelings on it, but tell them to watch the situation and intervene as needed. BJ > > My son started a new Catholic school for 6th grade this year because > he was getting bullied at his public elementary school so i thought > it would be better than the public middle school.so did his > therapist.So guess what hes getting bullied at the catholic school > already he did make some freinds but he is getting bullied all thru > lunch and in homeroom. Now my son is not a bad looking kid so I > really dont get this other than the fact he doesnt have self > esteem,is very self concious and it SHOWS I think tehy pick up on > that and pounce on him. I am at the end of my rope I do not knwo what > to do he does not want me to tell school he siad then it will be > worse and he will look like a sissy. Also the academics are > frustrating him he said he doesnt know any of it it is way advanced > from the public school so he ha sthat then the bullies and I didnt > mention he fell off his scooter and broke his wrist and its th wrist > he writes with.I need help i dont know what to do and I feel > overwhelmed I dont know if I should pluck him out of that school and > put him in the middle school and then I think well what if tahts > WORSE what if he gets in fight caus ethats what happened in grade > school someone picked on him and he punche d them......but if i leave > him here hes gettoing bullied daily as well as academic meltdown i > dont know what to do please help...also they dont know he has ocd i > didnt tell the catholic schoo,l > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 I have to say my daughter has been picked on for years, and she isnt a unattractive child, but she does have low self esteem and that is usually the first thing other children catch on to......she too is in the 6th grade and I made it a point to tell the school staff first off that she has ocd, as well as all her other disorders! And I have made it a point to let them know I will not tolerate the abuse from the other students! Physically or verbally! And I have even went as far as to let them know if one of the children put their hands on my child I have given her the go ahead to start swinging! I realize violence isn't the answer, and my daughter isn't a violent kid at all, but I do want her to know and the staff to know if it comes down to it..........She will defend herself! She actually hasn't had to but once....a girl had been harrassing her for months and telling her she was going to beat her up and my daughter finally got enough of it, and chased her down.....the girl took off running and crying once my daughter stood up to her...most kids do! And my kido threw her shoe at her, hit her in the back of the head......and was bawling. And my daughter hasnt had a problem out of her since! So standing up to the bully usually helps if he can get up the courage to do so! Peggy Subject: bullying To: Date: Friday, September 12, 2008, 3:24 PM My son started a new Catholic school for 6th grade this year because he was getting bullied at his public elementary school so i thought it would be better than the public middle school.so did his therapist.So guess what hes getting bullied at the catholic school already he did make some freinds but he is getting bullied all thru lunch and in homeroom. Now my son is not a bad looking kid so I really dont get this other than the fact he doesnt have self esteem,is very self concious and it SHOWS I think tehy pick up on that and pounce on him. I am at the end of my rope I do not knwo what to do he does not want me to tell school he siad then it will be worse and he will look like a sissy. Also the academics are frustrating him he said he doesnt know any of it it is way advanced from the public school so he ha sthat then the bullies and I didnt mention he fell off his scooter and broke his wrist and its th wrist he writes with.I need help i dont know what to do and I feel overwhelmed I dont know if I should pluck him out of that school and put him in the middle school and then I think well what if tahts WORSE what if he gets in fight caus ethats what happened in grade school someone picked on him and he punche d them......but if i leave him here hes gettoing bullied daily as well as academic meltdown i dont know what to do please help...also they dont know he has ocd i didnt tell the catholic schoo,l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 The other thing I would have my son do is to befriend the bully. Invite him to something fun -- Usually bullies feel horrible about themselves and try to project that onto someone else. Sometimes that can be much more successful than getting the kid into trouble with the school, at least at that age. in TN From: e <cinnamongirl1215@ aol.com> Subject: bullying To: @ yahoogroups. com Date: Friday, September 12, 2008, 3:24 PM My son started a new Catholic school for 6th grade this year because he was getting bullied at his public elementary school so i thought it would be better than the public middle school.so did his therapist.So guess what hes getting bullied at the catholic school already he did make some freinds but he is getting bullied all thru lunch and in homeroom. Now my son is not a bad looking kid so I really dont get this other than the fact he doesnt have self esteem,is very self concious and it SHOWS I think tehy pick up on that and pounce on him. I am at the end of my rope I do not knwo what to do he does not want me to tell school he siad then it will be worse and he will look like a sissy. Also the academics are frustrating him he said he doesnt know any of it it is way advanced from the public school so he ha sthat then the bullies and I didnt mention he fell off his scooter and broke his wrist and its th wrist he writes with.I need help i dont know what to do and I feel overwhelmed I dont know if I should pluck him out of that school and put him in the middle school and then I think well what if tahts WORSE what if he gets in fight caus ethats what happened in grade school someone picked on him and he punche d them......but if i leave him here hes gettoing bullied daily as well as academic meltdown i dont know what to do please help...also they dont know he has ocd i didnt tell the catholic schoo,l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2008 Report Share Posted September 13, 2008 Hi. My story comes from the complete opposite direction that yours does. :0) My DD had been in Catholic school from pre-K until 5th grade <<--last school year. Her school closed due to a $2,000,000 debt. We decided at that point to give public school a try. She started 6th grade a few weeks ago. You are completely right that public school, at least our experience, is behind what Catholic schools are teaching. From the work that our DD is bringing home it is at least one year behind her previous Catholic education. Our experience with Catholic school is that the kids are still bullies. They just look neater in their uniforms while doing it, lol. Also, if your son has ANY learnin/behavioral issues, then Catholic school is not the place to be. We have found that the majority of teacher's can only teach one way. Public education has teachers attend diversified professional seminars so that they can teach and reach a wide range of learning abilities and personalities. Meaning, if you don't fit exactly into the square peg then you're going to struggle. They don't have the same layer's of resources that public education does. Please don't get me wrong, there are wonderful aspects to both, however, Catholic schools are just out of date as far as helping/dealing with any deviation. Again, I'm speaking from our own experience as well as the general consensus of the families that our DD went to school with. I hope this helps ~ good luck. Love and Light, Jen bullying My son started a new Catholic school for 6th grade this year because he was getting bullied at his public elementary school so i thought it would be better than the public middle school.so did his therapist.So guess what hes getting bullied at the catholic school already he did make some freinds but he is getting bullied all thru lunch and in homeroom. Now my son is not a bad looking kid so I really dont get this other than the fact he doesnt have self esteem,is very self concious and it SHOWS I think tehy pick up on that and pounce on him. I am at the end of my rope I do not knwo what to do he does not want me to tell school he siad then it will be worse and he will look like a sissy. Also the academics are frustrating him he said he doesnt know any of it it is way advanced from the public school so he ha sthat then the bullies and I didnt mention he fell off his scooter and broke his wrist and its th wrist he writes with.I need help i dont know what to do and I feel overwhelmed I dont know if I should pluck him out of that school and put him in the middle school and then I think well what if tahts WORSE what if he gets in fight caus ethats what happened in grade school someone picked on him and he punche d them......but if i leave him here hes gettoing bullied daily as well as academic meltdown i dont know what to do please help...also they dont know he has ocd i didnt tell the catholic schoo,l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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