Re: College / OCD-----Congratulations!!!!!!

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First of all, I hope you gave your son a big congratulations on carrying it

off.? When I spoke with him, he told me that he was going to classes, even

though I understood from you that he wasn't.? I am thrilled that he was able to

get through the first semester even if he couldn't finish one class.? Three

cheers for you for being a terrific dad and to him for achieving this tremendous

accomplishment while having such a heavy burden of much OCD issues and

depression.? Your son does know that you love him.? He was willing to talk to

me, rather than just tell me to mind my business so he is open to hearing

something that might help.? Have you asked him why he won't sign this paper?? It

might be counterproductive to be punitive about it just at a time when you find

out that he really was going to classes and putting in the effort.? This is

probably a time to take him out for dinner and tell him how proud you are of him

for making it through with all he is also coping with.?

Keep letting him know that you are on his team.? Let him know how much you want

him to succeed.? He is lucky to have you for a dad because many divorced dads

might have taken the easy way out and ignored the whole situation.? Keep up the

encouragement and keep letting him know you love him and want to help him.?

Clearly you are making a difference.

Great going to the both of you!!

College / OCD

My Son just finished his first semester in College, he went from not

going to school to hopefully pulling it out, atleast in three

classes, he did have to drop one class.

My question and problem, I've been helping and making sure he is

signed up for classes, this means I've had to have my dad go with him

to see the counselor (twice recently) I've been paying for school,

his housing, books and sending him food and spending $$. I had been

saving this money for this purpose for several years.

My problem is in order for me to talk to any teacher, counsler he has

to sign this one simple form which allows me to talk to the teacher,

school etc about my son and his work. Up to this date he refuses to

sign it.

I feel like Hey I'm paying for this you are going to sign and or I'm

not going to pay. Am I being unrealistic???

It's at the point he's got about a 10 days before the college office

is off on break, I'm thinking about drawing a line in the sand and

saying you have to do this or you are not going to school, in the

future if he pays for college he can take permission away.

What do you all think??? Worth it or not??

Thank you,

Tim