Re: Re: Thanks BJ...Im smiling...

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ohhhh....that's so good BJ, that's all of Micah's, that I know of. Unless

there's things he's not telling me. afraid of the dark....I wonder if that's

just kid stuff. He loves horror movies, so that may be part of the dark thing.

BJ, do you remember how many appts it took to really get things under

control?

In a message dated 12/2/2008 11:33:43 A.M. Central Standard Time,

BJClosner@... writes:

A word of encouragement, . When Josh started his CBT/ERP, the

stuff that needed to " feel just right " , was the easiest for him to

overcome. The stuff with the anxiety attached was a bit harder. So,

if Micah has a lot that needs to " feel just right " , it might go quick,

like it did for us. ) Here's hoping. . .

BJ

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>>afraid of the dark....I wonder if that's just kid stuff. He loves horror

movies

Kate is nine and is still very attached to her nightlight. The therapist said

lots of people are afraid of the dark and if she has to have a nightlight the

rest of her life it's no big deal. He felt that was one little piece of

" security blanket " that he's totally not concerned about. Hopefully our kids

will out grow the need for nightlights but it's one thing I've decided not to

get stressed over!

And, by the way, she loves scary books. We don't allow scary movies yet and,

again on her therapists advice, she doesn't watch television (especially news

programs!). Again, though, she's only nine so it's pretty easy to enforce.

Beth

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Kate told a couple of her closest friends about her OCD. That has really

helped when they do something that they think is funny but that drives her

bats (pretending to be a wolf and chewing on the leg of her desk for

example). Kate freaks at first then glares at them and asks them to stop

-- and they remember that Kate is funny that way about certain things so

they stop.

Her best friend wants to have a sleep-over for her birthday in January.

The friend's mom asked me if I was okay with that, which I am. But Kate's

not necessarily okay with that. It was so nice that this mom realizes

Kate's issues because this gives us time to work on a little ERP over the

next six weeks. She hasn't been able to spend the night even with Grandma

& Grandpa in a long time . . . although she's tried. She keeps chickening

out at the last minute which makes her feel bad ( " Grandma will think I

don't like her! " " I really want to be brave but I can't! " ).

So, we'll do some " sleepover practice " over the next several weeks and,

hopefully, by the end of January she will graduate to being able to spend

the night at her friend's house. The mom even suggested we should have

Kate spend more time after school or on the weekend at her house . . . get

her used to the little siblings (she has a thing about germy, drooly

toddlers).

Sorry . . . I straggled off topic once again!

Beth

> It was okay with Josh for us to tell a few friends of his, over the

> years. Kids can be pretty funny sometimes, in their reactions. I

> usually just mentioned that Josh had OCD, and that it could make him

> do some quirky things. The typical response was, " Oh, okay " . It was

> like a little mental shrug, then they were ready to play video games.

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> It seems so many kids are affected by something anymore that a lot of

> kids are pretty accepting of most anything. That's been our

> experience anyway.

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> On the other hand, some kids can be cruel and use things against you,

> so we were careful about who we told. We made sure it was someone

> that Josh was pretty good friends with, who was a caring person.

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>> You know that's a good idea BJ,

>> Micah's never had a friend spend the night, but he wants to.

>> The kids still don't know he has Tourette's, I wonder if he should

> wait. He

>> can hold his tics back for the most part at school, but at home he

> lets loose.

>> I would think his friend would need to know, or it might scare him.

> One of

>> Micah's tics is yelling Osha...Dosha...its so funny, we all get a

> chuckle out

>> of it, including Micah, its made something so hard easier to deal

> with.

>> And the OCD...I don't know how we would handle that with a friend that

>> doesn't know about it.

>> Micah's are all touching things over and over, kind of hard to

> explain to a

>> 12 year old.

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>> In a message dated 12/2/2008 11:40:29 P.M. Central Standard Time,

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>> When he would have a friend overnight, I would pave the way for him,

>> making it easier by saying, " Josh, I'm going to leave this light on so

>> you boys don't step on each other during the night, in case one of you

>> have to get up and use the bathroom " . Took the pressure off of the

>> situation, without having to try to explain anything. )

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