Help!!!

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is very strong and very strong willed seven year old with

developmental delayes and wobbly gross motor. He is non verbal ans

has a hard time mastering signs. Scary combo. Since cannot

communicate well I can understand why he may behave frustrated

like, But he is now way to difficult for me to handle. My

daughter is ADHD so I know how one with ADHD acts, but of course

also have developmental disabilities. His fit throwing has

increased to the point now where I cannot redirect his energies at

all. When he has his " fits of rage " for lack of better terms, he

tries to hurt me or who ever is near by. Sometimes he doesn't even

know the person they are just walking by at the wrong time. He

grabs and throws what ever he can reach at that moment and does not

calm down until he is ready. I can not redirect his attention.

He also has " fits of orneriness " . When he seems in a good mood

but begins to pinch, pull hair, hit or has even been known to bite

and scratch out of pure Orneriness. He thinks it is funny. There

are times when he gets " out of control " hyper active. He spends

sometimes an hour or more obsessively climbing on chairs, rolling

around, trying to hang on me, throwing toys, trying to grab other

things to throw, and sometimes shake his head no till he's dizzy.

I have to let him wear down any kind of intervention seems to make

him more intense or I end up getting hurt. One day when I was on

the phone he was playing with sister (11) in the same room as I was

in, out of the blue he came up behind my chair, grabbed my hair and

pulled me down. I have no understanding why, except he may have

been frustrated that sissy would take him outside to play.

Meal times are very unhappy most of the time due to

never wanting to sit down. Also he throws food and dumps his drinks

on purpose the tries to eat and drink our dinner. Reminds me of

Helen Keller except I don't tolerate it. Although I do not know how

to really handle situations as this. We take his food away and tell

him he has to wait a while to eat. Then he still won't sit in the

living room while we eat he tries to get into stuff to get my

attention so I cannot enjoy my meal. Restaurants are a joke. My

mom took my grandma, my daughter, and I to dinner a Shari's

last Saturday. After about 5 min he then started standing up on the

seat and I had a hard time getting him to sit down, then He kept

trying to crawl out on the booth right over my lap. I took him

outside for a walk until our food came and then we went back into

eat. He would not sit down instead while I was trying to wrestle

him to sit down he was intentionally trying to put his feet on the

table to knock things over. I then told my mom to get my food to go

and bring it to the car where I put in his car seat, which

is always a struggle, and he watched me eat. Then I fed him 30 min

later.

has also started to wander off, getting more brave and

as the staple in his head will prove his behavior and I not knowing

how to handle it is getting us both hurt.

I watched a video today called " Day By Day Raising the child with

Autism/PDD by Joan F Goodman And Hoban. Although does

not have a diagnosis of Autism he has always exhibited some of the

challenging behaviors and I have always figured what works for

autism child is worth trying on any developmentally delayed child.

Any way the girl in this video does everything like . To the

tee. never acted unaware of people when he was little and

loves people, But he is non verbal and age 7 with a mentality in

some thing of a 3 year old. Also he is like having terrible 2s

times 10 right now. And transitions are horrible fits even getting

out of the car it seems. Even though he barely focuses on an

activity but bounces from one thing to another with no real intent

It is still hard to get him to do something that is not his idea.

It is true he act the worst with me his mother so no one believes

the way he acts.

If any one can offer advice on what I can do to try to cope with

these very aggressive behaviors I would appreciate your comments.

Thank you