Re: self-acceptance

[Guest guest]

I recently came across the book Attractor Factor by Joe Vitale. Its about

the Law of Attaractions and gives you a process anybody can use to help

overcome these types of situations. You can get the audio version from

Audible.

I love my audible subscription and am glad recommended it. You sign up

from the link she gives in the podcast and get one free audio book. Then

they are running a special of $7.50 a month for three months, 1 credit a

month. So four audio books for $23. My first four items were all $20+ books

each. Its a great deal and I highly recommend it.

You can also get several of the other books recommended by and on this

site, including The Four Day Win, another step by step process to change.

Randy

[Guest guest]

Well, I don't know if this will help, but one thing that has worked for me

in terms of self-acceptance is 'lowering the bar'. I have held myself to

this ridiculously high standard for as long as I can remember... one that,

realistically, no one could meet. It took me many years (and a lot of

therepy to see this. Finally, a few years ago, my psychologist told me I

needed to lower the bar, not raise it! I thought he was nuts, because I was

so obviously falling short in so many ways and felt that I would only be

'good enough' if I could somehow take it to a higher level... We worked

over this concept for awhile, and I came to understand that lowering the bar

didn't mean giving up or being anything less, just giving myself a break. I

don't have to be perfect in any way and I don't have to be all things to all

people and I don't even have to beat (or eat!) myself up over mistakes I

make, because I have 'lowered the bar' of my expectations for myself. The

best thing about it is that by doing so, not only do I feel so much better

about who I am, but also, I actually feel that I am able to perform at a

much higher level now that the pressure is off. Now, instead of wondering

" who am I to be great " , I can say " I am great! "

oxox

Patti

> Hi everyone,

>

> I have been away from the group for a while. I'm not sure why. This

> journey has been very up and down for me, though my weight is

> dropping. I am up to the podcasts about self acceptance and I am

> struggling with this concept. I am trying to figure out what the gift

> is from my objection to self acceptance. I don't know that this is.

> I'm not even sure I have one, but what I do know is that I have never

> accepted myself as I am and I worry I don't have the tools to do it.

> I honestly don't know how to accept myself as is. I've never done it.

> Never, never, never. How, after 37 years of self criticism, do I

> find the tools to accept myself? What does it mean to accept myself

> as is. I truly beleive that if I can learn to love myself as I am, in

> this moment today, I can do anything, but I don't know how to start.

>

> Jenn

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>

[Guest guest]

Patti, thank you. I like this and will give it a try. I too have been

seeing a therapist and I'm noticing that a lot of us IOWL folks do.

Hmmmmm....now that I'm seeing the weight loss as a symptom of a larger

problem for myself, as it likely is for others, it seems little wonder

that any of us have sought out professional help. Rather than renew

through steps one or two, I had an anxiety attack and went straight

for renewal route three - professional head shrinking

Thanks,

Jenn