Guest guest Posted January 22, 2001 Report Share Posted January 22, 2001 Wow... i am sorry to hear about that graduation thing, and in words it sounds like such a little thing, but really it wasn't little at all... See I have been dancing since I was 3, and my nada knows how much dancing meant to me,,, it was my life, and i loved every minute of it, not only because it kept me out of the house, but because i actually enjoyed it, however knowing this, she would not let me, took my keys and would not let me dance,,, took me out of all classes completely... I competed 3 or 4 times a year,,, and then she just cut me off altogether.... from something i really loved...I tried to convince myself that it was better this way... but you made me revisit her terrible decision affecting MY life... sorry for venting!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2001 Report Share Posted January 22, 2001 wrote: << Wow... i am sorry to hear about that graduation thing, and in words it sounds like such a little thing, but really it wasn't little at all... See I have been dancing since I was 3, and my nada knows how much dancing meant to me,,, it was my life, and i loved every minute of it, not only because it kept me out of the house, but because i actually enjoyed it, however knowing this, she would not let me, took my keys and would not let me dance,,, took me out of all classes completely... I competed 3 or 4 times a year,,, and then she just cut me off altogether.... from something i really loved...I tried to convince myself that it was better this way... but you made me revisit her terrible decision affecting MY life... sorry for venting!!! >> I refer to the things like this that my nada did to me as the game of " If you want it, you can't have it. " And, after awhile, I ended up with no wants at all. One of my 'wants' that I shared with her was that I wanted to go to medical school. SQUASH!! No more want. My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I could fix her (but I never told HER that). Edith .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2001 Report Share Posted January 23, 2001 In a message dated 1/22/01 6:34:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, wondrrkid@... writes: << My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I could fix her >> I want to go to med school also... i have wanted to do this for a while, and dumb me... i told her about it... obviously that was shot to hell... she is trying everything to keep me from going where i want to go to college... I have decided that i just won't discuss any of my wants with her anymore... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2001 Report Share Posted January 23, 2001 to Edith and : " if you want it, you can't have it " - boy, do I remember that one, especially when I was a teenager and wanted all the teenage clothes and stuff. If my nada deemed it a fad, I couldn't have it, just on general principles. I remember having to agree to play in the school orchestra before she would let me buy a school jacket which I desperately wanted. sure didn't want to play in the orchestra - that was her thing. Lissa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2001 Report Share Posted January 23, 2001 good decision catherine....i had a chance 14 years ago to go away to university; one of the best universities in Canada with a scholarship...nada went absolutely balistic made all kinds of threats about my leaving until i finally caved and stayed right here at home and boy do i have regrets! go to any college u want and enjoy it! the worst thing is having regrets...good luck and pursue YOUR dreams not your nada's >From: smattie474@... >Reply-To: ModOasisegroups >To: ModOasisegroups >Subject: Re: Re: education >Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001 15:53:05 EST > >In a message dated 1/22/01 6:34:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, >wondrrkid@... writes: > ><< My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I could > fix her >> > I want to go to med school also... i have wanted to do this for a while, >and >dumb me... i told her about it... obviously that was shot to hell... she is >trying everything to keep me from going where i want to go to college... >I >have decided that i just won't discuss any of my wants with her anymore... > > _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2001 Report Share Posted January 24, 2001 > > " if you want it, you can't have it " - boy, do I remember that > one, especially > when I was a teenager and wanted all the teenage clothes and > stuff. If my > nada deemed it a fad, I couldn't have it, just on general > principles. Isn't that strange - I wasn't allowed to have any 'fad' clothing either. In fact, nada always dressed me like she and her nada dressed. I was 14 before I owned a pair of denim jeans - they weren't considered 'nice' or 'dressy'. I didn't have kid clothes to play in and get dirty in. I was encouraged not to follow any trends, which I suppose could be looked at in a positive way (don't just follow, but make up your own mind) however nada carried it to the extreme in herself (don't be normal, be waaaay crazy, and get attention). From time to time I would get a tummy upset, probably 24 hour virus or mild food poisoning. Nada always proudly told me I was having a 'Nervous Breakdown' and the cause was mental strain. Like she wanted me to be nuts like her. , who's NOT nuts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2001 Report Share Posted January 25, 2001 I don't know how many people were actually discouraged by their nada from going to college. Her standard reply was, " I've managed this life ok without a college education. " She was divorced when I was 3, brother at 6 and sometimes working 2 jobs - creating the perfect latchkey kids. When I had an opportunity to become a flight attendant, her comment was, " You will have no home base - you will never feel like you have a home. " So, she told her friend that had arranged it for me that I wasn't interested. When I had an opportunity to get transferred only 40 miles south (I finally went with my gut to do it.) she refused to call me even telling me that she didn't even want to write down my phone number and most certainly wasn't going to travel that " far " to see me. Well, needless to say, I did go to college, nights but have not achieved a degree. Started working late teens and never went after it full-speed. I see now how munipulating her comments were and not knowing any different I followed her negative guidance. I truly take full responsibility for not going - I believe everyone has the power to follow their dream, it's just easier to blame someone that makes the road bumpy. Not that I'm saying any one of you is not taking responsibility - I just know that for me, getting away from the blame helps to shed many fleas. ---- Original Message ---- From: smattie474@... To: ModOasisegroups, Subject: Re: Re: education Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001 15:53:05 EST >In a message dated 1/22/01 6:34:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, >wondrrkid@... writes: > ><< My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I >could > fix her >> > I want to go to med school also... i have wanted to do this for a >while, and >dumb me... i told her about it... obviously that was shot to hell... >she is >trying everything to keep me from going where i want to go to >college... I >have decided that i just won't discuss any of my wants with her >anymore... > > > >~ People joining this list must read the guidelines and agree to >them before posting. To get off the list, send a blank message to >ModOasis-unsubscribeeGroups. Send questions & concerns to >ModOasis-owneronelist. " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the >table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2001 Report Share Posted January 25, 2001 I don't know how many people were actually discouraged by their nada from going to college. Her standard reply was, " I've managed this life ok without a college education. " She was divorced when I was 3, brother at 6 and sometimes working 2 jobs - creating the perfect latchkey kids. When I had an opportunity to become a flight attendant, her comment was, " You will have no home base - you will never feel like you have a home. " So, she told her friend that had arranged it for me that I wasn't interested. When I had an opportunity to get transferred only 40 miles south (I finally went with my gut to do it.) she refused to call me even telling me that she didn't even want to write down my phone number and most certainly wasn't going to travel that " far " to see me. Well, needless to say, I did go to college, nights but have not achieved a degree. Started working late teens and never went after it full-speed. I see now how munipulating her comments were and not knowing any different I followed her negative guidance. I truly take full responsibility for not going - I believe everyone has the power to follow their dream, it's just easier to blame someone that makes the road bumpy. Not that I'm saying any one of you is not taking responsibility - I just know that for me, getting away from the blame helps to shed many fleas. ---- Original Message ---- From: smattie474@... To: ModOasisegroups, Subject: Re: Re: education Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001 15:53:05 EST >In a message dated 1/22/01 6:34:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, >wondrrkid@... writes: > ><< My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I >could > fix her >> > I want to go to med school also... i have wanted to do this for a >while, and >dumb me... i told her about it... obviously that was shot to hell... >she is >trying everything to keep me from going where i want to go to >college... I >have decided that i just won't discuss any of my wants with her >anymore... > > > >~ People joining this list must read the guidelines and agree to >them before posting. To get off the list, send a blank message to >ModOasis-unsubscribeeGroups. Send questions & concerns to >ModOasis-owneronelist. " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the >table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2001 Report Share Posted January 25, 2001 I don't know how many people were actually discouraged by their nada from going to college. Her standard reply was, " I've managed this life ok without a college education. " She was divorced when I was 3, brother at 6 and sometimes working 2 jobs - creating the perfect latchkey kids. When I had an opportunity to become a flight attendant, her comment was, " You will have no home base - you will never feel like you have a home. " So, she told her friend that had arranged it for me that I wasn't interested. When I had an opportunity to get transferred only 40 miles south (I finally went with my gut to do it.) she refused to call me even telling me that she didn't even want to write down my phone number and most certainly wasn't going to travel that " far " to see me. Well, needless to say, I did go to college, nights but have not achieved a degree. Started working late teens and never went after it full-speed. I see now how munipulating her comments were and not knowing any different I followed her negative guidance. I truly take full responsibility for not going - I believe everyone has the power to follow their dream, it's just easier to blame someone that makes the road bumpy. Not that I'm saying any one of you is not taking responsibility - I just know that for me, getting away from the blame helps to shed many fleas. ---- Original Message ---- From: smattie474@... To: ModOasisegroups, Subject: Re: Re: education Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001 15:53:05 EST >In a message dated 1/22/01 6:34:37 PM Eastern Standard Time, >wondrrkid@... writes: > ><< My real reason I wanted to become a doctor was to find out how I >could > fix her >> > I want to go to med school also... i have wanted to do this for a >while, and >dumb me... i told her about it... obviously that was shot to hell... >she is >trying everything to keep me from going where i want to go to >college... I >have decided that i just won't discuss any of my wants with her >anymore... > > > >~ People joining this list must read the guidelines and agree to >them before posting. To get off the list, send a blank message to >ModOasis-unsubscribeeGroups. Send questions & concerns to >ModOasis-owneronelist. " Stop Waking on Eggshells, " a primer for >non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the >table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2008 Report Share Posted March 6, 2008 I agree. When I was dx'd in 1991 it was because I knew I'd had hepatitis & thought it was hep b. I wanted to know if it was active. You'd think with my history of i v drug use, liver problems (they had to take me off the pill because of neg liver reactions) & hep a infection as a child my doctor would have suggested a hep screen but I had to ask for it! Even then, when it came back negative for hep b, I was relieved! Then I got the HCV+ result & didn't know what to think. I had to educate myself. I researched HCV at the library & went on-line there too. Over the years I've come to know more about the dragon than most of the doctors I know! It's become very important to me to educate people so I'm never quiet about it. Everyone I know knows that I'm HCV+, how I got it and anything they want to know ( a lot of stuff they don't want to know too I bet) I advise everyone to get tested whether they're high risk or not. It's better to know than to live without any idea your liver could be damaged! Sorry, I got on my soap box there for a minute :-) Hugs, SuZie Doyle wrote: It makes me mad that people are afraid to talk about the things that are most needed to be talked about. I never really knew about HCV until I had it. It is not talked about the way it should be. No one I told knew about it they just all thought it was like aids amd I was going to die right away. Good luck D . Next time I'm coming back as a cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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