Unsupported Beliefs and ABC Theory

[Guest guest]

Good morning all! First of all, thanks to leann, kjohn and patti for

all their feedback on emotional eating. You guys are great! It's

been awhile since I've been able to sit down at the computer but I

have been working on the podcasts and journalling. Thought I'd share

some thoughts on re-framing or changing my unsupported beliefs.

These are often talked about in the podcasts as limiting (self-

defeating) beliefs that need to be looked at in order to uncover and

heal the real reasons for over-eating.

As I worked on my own, I discovered that they are indeed VERY

difficult to name and own!! Others have mentioned they feel the need

for professional guidance on this. Of course that is a great idea

because when one is surrounded, it is always wise to call in extra

troops and get all the support you need at that moment. However, for

me, I know that I can be either my own worst enemy (or my own best

friend!), and I also know that with HONEST CONSISTENT effort (and

support) I can stop getting in my own way.

Epiphany: I decided that my Job #1 on this was to just MONITOR. Not

fix, not problem-solve, avoid or overeat, just try to be mindful and

NOTICE them. I remembered from a psych class Albert Ellis' " ABC

Theory " . This is Activating Event + Beliefs = Consequences.

However, my (limiting) beliefs are often unknown to me and also

uncomfortable to look at! However, my true point of personal power

is right there: I can change these beliefs if I want to. So I found

some questions to ask myself to verbalize my beliefs:

What was going thru your mind?

What were you telling yourself?

Were you aware of any thoughts?

What were you saying to yourself?

What was your inner voice saying?

What was on your mind at that time?

Are you aware of what you're thinking right now?

What are you afraid will happen if....

What does this mean to you?

What does this say about you?

After a couple of weeks of working on this I am beginning to get a

clearer picture of my self-defeating patterns (for " away from "

motivation) and beginning to see relief in negative consequences

(overeating), and also to see that I CAN change!! Plus see areas

where I need to improve my communication skills (a new goal / " toward

motivation " ). I am so grateful to for putting out these

podcasts (has everyone voted??) Gosh it's great to have choices in

life.

Happy Thursday!

Reninth

[Guest guest]

Good Morning Reninth!

I'm so proud of how much work you are doing here! You've really set

yourself on a path that can only lead you to good things.

I find that I have trouble journaling-I think that I'm afraid to see

my true feelings written down on paper, and yet I believe in the power

of journaling-for other people! LOL

Keep on going, and keep us all in the loop!

Have a great Halloween

KJ

>

> Good morning all! First of all, thanks to leann, kjohn and patti for

> all their feedback on emotional eating. You guys are great! It's

> been awhile since I've been able to sit down at the computer but I

> have been working on the podcasts and journalling. Thought I'd share

> some thoughts on re-framing or changing my unsupported beliefs.

>

> These are often talked about in the podcasts as limiting (self-

> defeating) beliefs that need to be looked at in order to uncover and

> heal the real reasons for over-eating.

>

> As I worked on my own, I discovered that they are indeed VERY

> difficult to name and own!! Others have mentioned they feel the need

> for professional guidance on this. Of course that is a great idea

> because when one is surrounded, it is always wise to call in extra

> troops and get all the support you need at that moment. However, for

> me, I know that I can be either my own worst enemy (or my own best

> friend!), and I also know that with HONEST CONSISTENT effort (and

> support) I can stop getting in my own way.

>

> Epiphany: I decided that my Job #1 on this was to just MONITOR. Not

> fix, not problem-solve, avoid or overeat, just try to be mindful and

> NOTICE them. I remembered from a psych class Albert Ellis' " ABC

> Theory " . This is Activating Event + Beliefs = Consequences.

> However, my (limiting) beliefs are often unknown to me and also

> uncomfortable to look at! However, my true point of personal power

> is right there: I can change these beliefs if I want to. So I found

> some questions to ask myself to verbalize my beliefs:

> What was going thru your mind?

> What were you telling yourself?

> Were you aware of any thoughts?

> What were you saying to yourself?

> What was your inner voice saying?

> What was on your mind at that time?

> Are you aware of what you're thinking right now?

> What are you afraid will happen if....

> What does this mean to you?

> What does this say about you?

>

> After a couple of weeks of working on this I am beginning to get a

> clearer picture of my self-defeating patterns (for " away from "

> motivation) and beginning to see relief in negative consequences

> (overeating), and also to see that I CAN change!! Plus see areas

> where I need to improve my communication skills (a new goal / " toward

> motivation " ). I am so grateful to for putting out these

> podcasts (has everyone voted??) Gosh it's great to have choices in

> life.

>

> Happy Thursday!

> Reninth

>