Tears flow for young bully victim Elijah Vetma

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Tears flow for young bully victim Elijah Vetma

Danny Lannen

09Jun08

PORTARLINGTON mum Jan Vetma hopes one powerful thing comes of her son

Elijah's brave testimony of a friendless life tormented by bullying.

Elijah, 12, a sufferer of Asperger and Tourette syndromes spoke out

in Saturday's Geelong Advertiser through a letter which touched

hearts, induced tears and inspired adults.

He said four years of bullying and isolation had led him to

contemplate suicide.

Elijah's mum said his return to school at Bellarine Secondary College

tomorrow might be a defining time with a rich reward.

" It would be lovely if he could get a friend out of it, " she said

quietly.

" That would be nice, one friend. "

About 15 strangers took time to phone the Vetma family and share

encouragement after reading of Elijah's hardships dealing with

disability and relentless bullying.

Readers also poured their empathy and concern into a bundle of

letters and text messages to the Geelong Advertiser.

Adults said he was amazing, young people offered to be his friend,

parents identified with challenges.

Mrs Vetma said airing the story had given Elijah a lift.

" We did get a few phone calls at home, " Mrs Vetma said.

" Most people were very encouraging for him and wanted us to hear

their story as well ... to let him know that he's not alone and that

they feel he has been an inspiration for them as well. "

The effect had been affirming.

" I think he's quite excited because he feels somebody's listening to

him where they haven't before, " Mrs Vetma said.

" He feels important which doesn't happen very often and it has given

him a real boost, which he needs. "

Mrs Vetma again praised efforts of staff at Bellarine Secondary

College's to help Elijah.

Elijah's father Mick said the story's exposure of difficulties living

with disabilities had been welcome.

" I think what it has helped to do is for people to see that there are

these unsung people in the community, " Mr Vetma said.

PEOPLE experiencing personal problems can call Lifeline on 13 11 14,

SANE Helpline on 1800 187 263 or the n Suicide Helpline on

1300 651 251.