Re: is not asking for help an autistic trait?

[Guest guest]

" No, it's not going to progress, because I have no intention of

remaining in this group. Unfortunately, I think the internet fosters

an

environment that attracts people who have this incessant need to feed

their ego by " proving " how " right " they are, and I don't want to be

part of that kind of environment. I'm not going to sit here and defend

my own sense of right and wrong over and over and over again. "

In other words: " If I can't be right, I am going to quit the group

and go and nurture my ego. "

I just would point out that the issue being discussed (that of the

flap at the supermarket) does not one way or the other impact my ego -

whether I am right or wrong- and I doubt it affects others' egos

since the issue, in the overall scheme of things, is comparatively

trivial.

The only one whose ego is affected by this discussion appears to be

you.

Administrator

[Guest guest]

You do realize she left the group a few days ago, don't you?

Why is it that when information is presented in a black-and-white, factual, no judgment, no emotion way that some people feel the need to attribute negative emotion to it in order to justify lashing out at the person who takes the time to provide the black-and-white, factual information in the first place?Play online games for FREE at Games.com! All of your favorites, no registration required and great graphics – check it out!

[Guest guest]

Do you remember when I posted that I had responded to her and that my

messages had NOT posted? It would appear that they finally posted.

Raven

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> You do realize she left the group a few days ago, don't you?

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[Guest guest]

" You do realize she left the group a few days ago, don't you? "

Yahoo is having psting problems. Messages written days ago are only

showing up now.

Administrator

[Guest guest]

I have that problem with not knowing what my feelings are. I know I am feeling something but I have a problem describing it and not sure what feeling it really is sometimes...it is called alexithymia (not sure of the spelling). My psychiatrist told me about it.~Subject: Re: is not asking for help an autistic trait?To: FAMSecretSociety Date: Wednesday, October 22, 2008, 8:14 AM

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> In answer to that question, it might be a psychological thing judging

by

> what you have said below. My parents also made me tough out all sorts

of

> things with the result that I don't know what my feelings are lots of

> the time and I also that I make myself suffer moreso than other people

> do.

That's a good point, and I'm going to bring that up with the

psychologist. I never thought about it as "not knowing what my feelings

are," but that's a good way of describing it. It was like I wasn't

allowed to have feelings, so I didn't. Or maybe I was embarrassed of

having feelings. Not sure, but whatever the cause, I have not acted in

my own best interest because of it, and I'm often misunderstood as "not

caring" about things because I'm too outwardly stoic.