Then MAKE if for you WAS: Not for me

[Guest guest]

Jaden wrote: " I joined this group to talk about being an adult with

AS, and trying to learn more from others in my shoes. This group

really seems to be more about politics and the news. I really don't

think this is the group for me. Thanks for welcoming me in, but I

really just don't belong here. "

Let's see ... you joined to talk about being an adult with AS and yet

the discussions YOU started had nothing to do with AS. What's more,

you didn't CHOOSE to being any new discussions pertaining to what

it's like to be an adult with AS.

YOU bear the brunt of the blame for not having your needs met.

If you want to talk about something, then create the discussion

rather than wait around for someone else to do that for you.

I see a common behaviour in the little you have posted -- you like to

complain about how your needs are NOT being met whether it's in your

music career or a discussion group/forum et al.

Jaden if everyone sat around waiting for everyone else to read their

minds and then fill their needs, nothing would get done.

Oh wait a minute ... that IS what usually happens in the world save

for a handful of active people who actually implicate themselves in

the world, in society, in their community, et al.

Raven

[Guest guest]

Hi Raven:

Thank You for the reminder that we each need to take what action we can to bring about what we need or want in a situation.

Of course there are no guarantees that what we do will bring about the desired change but we each still need to do what we can.

I believe that a strong organization is formed by strong individuals banding together to work both for the common good and for individual well being or satisfaction. (any altruism I have seems to be tempered with soem self interest)

renaissanzelady

If you want to talk about something, then create the discussion rather than wait around for someone else to do that for you.Jaden if everyone sat around waiting for everyone else to read their minds and then fill their needs, nothing would get done.Oh wait a minute ... that IS what usually happens in the world save for a handful of active people who actually implicate themselves in the world, in society, in their community, et al.Raven

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[Guest guest]

renaissanzelady wrote: " ... <snip> ... I believe that a strong

organization is formed by strong individuals banding together to work

both for the common good and for individual well being or satisfaction.

(any altruism I have seems to be tempered with some self interest) ...

<snip> ... "

I think you have a very balanced approach with regards to this. While

it is important to work for the common good, it is also important to

take care of one's own needs as well. One cannot sacrifice everything

one is in the name of doing what is best for the many. Even moments

stolen away to meditate is still time for one's own well being, as it

should be.

The trick in life is to balance both sides of the equation so that

nothing is askew.

Thank you for adding your comments to this subject.

Raven