Re: Question for

[Guest guest]

Ilene,

The kids go with their father up to her house. We

have been separated/divorced since 1994. Nada,

manipulator that she is keeps in contact with her

ex-son-in-law and speaks to our children when they are

at his house.

Nice - huh?

I hired a lawyer years ago to try to prevent them for

going to nada's house, gave all the reasons:

alcoholic, verbal abuse, lying, .... Her husband, my

step father is also a lawyer. He called my lawyer and

convinced my lawyer that I was the one with the

problem (accused me of being a cocaine abuser which I

don't even use). He did it for her, my loving nada.

So, they go up there. How much longer, who knows. I

don't know if nada is better or worse, but my daughter

who is 11 asks a lot of questions of her, and then

asks me the same questions. She is confused, but

seems to believe me. My son, 16 really doesn't want

to go anymore. My nada refuses to have them there

alone, my ex husband, their father, must be there at

all times. Nada says that she can't handle them

(implication that I am a bad mother) - but they are

both pretty good kids and are really no trouble.

At least their father is there, he doesn't allow

certain behavior from nada. (He is finally waking up

to her problems!)

--- ilene@... wrote:

>

>

> How did you cut ties, but your kids still go to her

> lake cabin? Do they

> communicate with her?

> Thanks for the supportive answers to my questions

> and comments. I do think it's

> a ridiculous amt of money to be taking the letters

> to my doc to read. They

> don't say anything new. At first they confirmed the

> BP factor, but now they are

> just a waste of time.

>

> Ilene

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Ilene,

The kids go with their father up to her house. We

have been separated/divorced since 1994. Nada,

manipulator that she is keeps in contact with her

ex-son-in-law and speaks to our children when they are

at his house.

Nice - huh?

I hired a lawyer years ago to try to prevent them for

going to nada's house, gave all the reasons:

alcoholic, verbal abuse, lying, .... Her husband, my

step father is also a lawyer. He called my lawyer and

convinced my lawyer that I was the one with the

problem (accused me of being a cocaine abuser which I

don't even use). He did it for her, my loving nada.

So, they go up there. How much longer, who knows. I

don't know if nada is better or worse, but my daughter

who is 11 asks a lot of questions of her, and then

asks me the same questions. She is confused, but

seems to believe me. My son, 16 really doesn't want

to go anymore. My nada refuses to have them there

alone, my ex husband, their father, must be there at

all times. Nada says that she can't handle them

(implication that I am a bad mother) - but they are

both pretty good kids and are really no trouble.

At least their father is there, he doesn't allow

certain behavior from nada. (He is finally waking up

to her problems!)

--- ilene@... wrote:

>

>

> How did you cut ties, but your kids still go to her

> lake cabin? Do they

> communicate with her?

> Thanks for the supportive answers to my questions

> and comments. I do think it's

> a ridiculous amt of money to be taking the letters

> to my doc to read. They

> don't say anything new. At first they confirmed the

> BP factor, but now they are

> just a waste of time.

>

> Ilene

>

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Ilene,

The kids go with their father up to her house. We

have been separated/divorced since 1994. Nada,

manipulator that she is keeps in contact with her

ex-son-in-law and speaks to our children when they are

at his house.

Nice - huh?

I hired a lawyer years ago to try to prevent them for

going to nada's house, gave all the reasons:

alcoholic, verbal abuse, lying, .... Her husband, my

step father is also a lawyer. He called my lawyer and

convinced my lawyer that I was the one with the

problem (accused me of being a cocaine abuser which I

don't even use). He did it for her, my loving nada.

So, they go up there. How much longer, who knows. I

don't know if nada is better or worse, but my daughter

who is 11 asks a lot of questions of her, and then

asks me the same questions. She is confused, but

seems to believe me. My son, 16 really doesn't want

to go anymore. My nada refuses to have them there

alone, my ex husband, their father, must be there at

all times. Nada says that she can't handle them

(implication that I am a bad mother) - but they are

both pretty good kids and are really no trouble.

At least their father is there, he doesn't allow

certain behavior from nada. (He is finally waking up

to her problems!)

--- ilene@... wrote:

>

>

> How did you cut ties, but your kids still go to her

> lake cabin? Do they

> communicate with her?

> Thanks for the supportive answers to my questions

> and comments. I do think it's

> a ridiculous amt of money to be taking the letters

> to my doc to read. They

> don't say anything new. At first they confirmed the

> BP factor, but now they are

> just a waste of time.

>

> Ilene

>

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Keep us posted as best you can. If you're not here for a couple days, I

suppose we can guess the power's out.

We are about two get two inches of rain up here which is supposed to be

the remnants of Gustav.

Administrator

During Hurricane Isabel, several trees went down in the yard and the

car was also damaged and we were without power for 2 weeks. Not only

that, but it was days before we were even able to drive through the

neighborhood because of all the fallen trees. That's why I want to get

a hotel room early and have a place for the car. If I get stuck here, I

can always walk out to get to a place where the car can reach and walk

back to check on things.

I'm hoping that it track more to the east and we won't have to worry

about it.