confrontational question tags?

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I am wondering if what is known as " confrontational question tags "

can be associated with Asperger's or autism in general.

I have for a while now realized that people oftentimes get offended

by my making a statement followed by a question. For example, if I'm

in a store looking at some items and there is a " 25% off " sign but

it's a bit ambiguous as to which products it applies to (e.g., one

side of the display table, both sides of the table?), if there is a

store clerk nearby, I might point to the ones I'm not 100% sure about

and say, " These are on sale, too. Right? " rather than just directly

asking, " Are these also on sale? " While store clerks themselves

(being in the business of servicing customers) usually do not act

offended, I have had others with whom I have dealt in life to become

offended and think I'm trying to tell them " how things are " rather

than ask their opinion. However, for me, it's more like I'm asking it

indirectly. Why I do this, I don't know, but it feels more natural

for me. However, I feel shocked when people are offended and feel

that I can't do anything right (a negative theme I tend to fall back

on if I don't watch it).

I have noticed this for some time now and have tried to work on it. I

never had a name for it until today when I was reading an article

about regional accents in England (i.e. Estuary English and Cockney)

which stated that many people who use these accents engage in

these " confrontational question tags " and gave a couple of examples

similar to what I've described above.

Has anyone else experienced this or know whether this relates to

Asperger's and/or autism in general?

Thanks.

P.S. Sorry I've not been participating in a while. I went on a trip

in June and just haven't gotten back into the swing of things until

now.