Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 Personally, I would be offended. What is wrong with my child being in a helmet/band? Are they embarrassed by it? I might offer to take it off for a few pictures but I would never remove it for the entire day given that the band protocol is for it to only be off for one hour a day. If anyone questions it, ask them if they asking teenaged family members to remove braces from their teeth the day of the wedding. I see having a band as the same as having braces - it is there to correct something and shouldn't be removed just for a wedding. Molly California Nicolas, 20 months, tort & plagio, STARband 4/25/06-9/12/06, Graduate! , 4 , 7.5 Wedding I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 My mom has already asked me if we could leave Jack's helmet off the day of my brother's wedding next month. I told her no way, but that I'd take it off for the formal part of the family portaits. My daughter is the flower girl and I'm a bridesmaid, so that I can understand. I got some wedding stickers and will put " Congratulations Uncle Bobby & " or something on it in honor of the day. No way will we leave it off though. I know my mom hates it and it is so easy to just take off, but we have it for a reason and it doesn't work if it's off! She understands and wasn't upset at my answer, but if she was then I'd definitely be annoyed! If we weren't a central part of the wedding it wouldn't come off at all. , mom to Hannah (DOCgrad) and Jack (DOCbanded) Cape Cod, Ma http://hannahsnoggin.typepad.com > > I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested > that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 What a great idea to decorate it with a note of congratulations to the bridal couple! Molly Re: Wedding My mom has already asked me if we could leave Jack's helmet off the day of my brother's wedding next month. I told her no way, but that I'd take it off for the formal part of the family portaits. My daughter is the flower girl and I'm a bridesmaid, so that I can understand. I got some wedding stickers and will put " Congratulations Uncle Bobby & " or something on it in honor of the day. No way will we leave it off though. I know my mom hates it and it is so easy to just take off, but we have it for a reason and it doesn't work if it's off! She understands and wasn't upset at my answer, but if she was then I'd definitely be annoyed! If we weren't a central part of the wedding it wouldn't come off at all. , mom to Hannah (DOCgrad) and Jack (DOCbanded) Cape Cod, Ma http://hannahsnoggin.typepad.com > > I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested > that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? > For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 I would leave it off for the official wedding portraits, but not candids etc. If you really want you can leave it off for the ceremony, but I probably wouldn't. It would definitely be on at the reception. -christine sydney 17 mo starband grad > > I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested > that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2007 Report Share Posted June 21, 2007 P.S. Someone posed the same question last year. You can see the responses that she got: Plagiocephaly/message/143696 Wedding I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Personally I'd be Ok with it. I don't think my dd's band defined who she is and these photos are not going to be hanging on my walls - these are memories for another Bride. If that is what the family wanted I'd totally go along with it. The pics will only take but a few min.  Jen and Luli - 18 mo. Left Tort - Right Plagio - Hanger Band Grad - CA tallulah jayne www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jens5th/ Wedding I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 I have to amend what I first said - For some reason when I read it I thought it said for the photos. I would NOT take it off all day for a wedding - but I WOULD take it off for the pics. Hope that clarifies what I said. :-D  Jen and Luli - 18 mo. Left Tort - Right Plagio - Hanger Band Grad - CA tallulah jayne www.babiesonline.com/babies/j/jens5th/ Wedding I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 I would assume that they are uninformed as to how the helmet actually works. They may not know that the child needs to wear the helmet as much as possible to try and catch all the growth activity and that we don't know exactly when that will occur. They may think that the helmet works when it is on but there is no downside to having it off for an extended period. Do you think the main reason they want him to have it off is for photos? I could see them wanting to have his whole beautiful head in photos that will be around long after the helmet is a distant memory. If that is the case, you can just tell them he needs to keep it on as much as possible, but that you can take it off for the photos. That would be very reasonable. If they are just embarrassed in general and want him to keep it off for the whole wedding, then they just need to get over it. Ask them if they would request that a family member have the braces on their teeth removed just for the wedding? Colleen mom to Logan 6 mos - Starband 5 weeks dotsbug <dotsbug@...> wrote: I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requestedthat your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? Sucker-punch spam with award-winning protection. Try the free Beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 I'd be mad and offended at such a rude request. I would never ask someone to remove something religious, medical, or other necessity, it isnt like an unliked fashion accessory. But then again my parents emphasized growing up that the world doesn't revolve around me and that a childs needs come before all else. Sorry if this seems harsh but I just cannot even imagine anyone in my family that would actually even suggest it. I guess it is all in the way we think. On 6/21/07, dotsbug <dotsbug@...> wrote: I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requestedthat your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? -- -SAHmommy and leader to; -rising G & T 6th grader, Jr GS, soccer, cello-rising 2nd grader, Brownie; ADHD w/ anxiety-cosleeping, baby signing, loving to learn always with 2 yr old flairph-cosleeping, babywearing, breastfeeding, all over the place already; mild plagiocephaly/facial assymetry, repositioning until 8/4 " you may never see that stranger again but you'll have the same kids for the rest of your life, so who should you care about impressing? " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 I would kindly explain to them that it is necessary for him to wear it to receive maximium correction. Tell them it was prescribed by a doctor to be worn 23 hours a day. Good luck. My dad also wanted my daughter not to wear her band at family functions and pictures. BUt She wore it anyway. It is a part of her life and we are thankful she received the correction she did. Angie and Jenna Wedding I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requestedthat your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 Wow...someone asked you to take off the helmet? I think that is completely up to you. We took off my son's helmet for 'special' occasions, but again, that decision was up to us as his parents. If it really bothers them, take it off for the official pictures and ceremony, but tell them it will be on for the reception, if that is what you want. > > > > I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requested > > that your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 22, 2007 Report Share Posted June 22, 2007 I have to agree with some others. If your son is a part of the bridal party and/ or will be in the formal pics, then I would leave it off for the ceremony and the pics. But if your son will not be associated in these events in any way then I would keep the helmet on throughout the entire wedding. Did your family members happen to say why they wanted the helmet off? , NYdotsbug <dotsbug@...> wrote: I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requestedthat your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2007 Report Share Posted June 23, 2007 Hello Everyone! Thank you all for the great advice/feedback on this issue that I was dealt. After I was faced with this I did some thinking and came up with a fair compromise with my family. My husband, myself and my four year old are in the wedding. My son (he's a twin) is not but even still there will be a lot of attention on us....it 's not like we're just attending. I'm still not sure why this request was made, but I'm sure we can all agree on the real "true" reasons...I do understand in a way, but my feelings were hurt. I think weddings truely bring out the worst in people!! And that this request was made from minds that aren't thinking clearly...I think regret will set in someday to the family members who requested this of us. So I will survive this and let it pass. That's all I can do. Being a Mom in general teaches one a lot about life, but being a Mom with a child with a medical need teaches one even more. Thanks for your support! Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 23, 2007 Report Share Posted June 23, 2007 Just curious, what was the compromise that you came up with? Molly -----Original Message-----From: Plagiocephaly [mailto:Plagiocephaly ] On Behalf Of DL CarrenoSent: 23 June 2007 8:17 AMPlagiocephaly Subject: Re: Wedding Hello Everyone! Thank you all for the great advice/feedback on this issue that I was dealt. After I was faced with this I did some thinking and came up with a fair compromise with my family. My husband, myself and my four year old are in the wedding. My son (he's a twin) is not but even still there will be a lot of attention on us....it 's not like we're just attending. I'm still not sure why this request was made, but I'm sure we can all agree on the real "true" reasons...I do understand in a way, but my feelings were hurt. I think weddings truely bring out the worst in people!! And that this request was made from minds that aren't thinking clearly...I think regret will set in someday to the family members who requested this of us. So I will survive this and let it pass. That's all I can do. Being a Mom in general teaches one a lot about life, but being a Mom with a child with a medical need teaches one even more. Thanks for your support! Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2007 Report Share Posted June 24, 2007 He will wear his helmet during the wedding & reception and take it off for formal pics. Food fight? Enjoy some healthy debatein the Answers Food Drink Q&A. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2007 Report Share Posted June 26, 2007 Hi there - I would leave it off. I actually take my son's band off for family parties and all. I want them to see the real him and it's only off for a few hours, which won't hurt his progress. But, of course it's up to you! I can see how it can come off as offensive. I always have made the decision to leave it off and my family has never asked.dotsbug <dotsbug@...> wrote: I have a question. What would your reaction be if your family requestedthat your son not wear his helmet at a family wedding? For more plagio info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 26, 2007 Report Share Posted June 26, 2007 I think that's a great compromise... I probably would have been offended at the request as well...after all, your son's helmet is a part of his life for the time being. We were eager to decorate it and take as many pictures as we could with our son in his band...so that we can remember the journey that we took with him, knowing we made our decision to do what was best for him. now has a nice, round head, which we are thankful for! , mommy to (DOC band grad) > > He will wear his helmet during the wedding & reception and take it off for formal pics. > > --------------------------------- > Food fight? Enjoy some healthy debate > in the Answers Food & Drink Q & A. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2008 Report Share Posted September 19, 2008 Hey guys, I just have to share... I know I told you guys a while ago, I was getting married. Well, I did. It was spectacular. I couldn't have imagined it going better. I got married at Tower Hill Botanical Gardens and they were so helpful. Whether I needed a stool or just someone to hold my hand, they were always there. Oh, and I don't know if you guys remember me asking about shoes... I thought I was going to end up wearing my New Balances... but about a week before the wedding, I found some white pumas. They were perfect. I didn't have to worry about slipping, or tripping over my shoes (just my own feet... lol which I didn't do!) Anyway, here's the link: http://picasaweb.google.com/photopia/LizAndChrisWedding# Liz Believe in yourself, you can do anything you put your mind too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2008 Report Share Posted September 19, 2008 Hi Liz, Best Wishes and Congratulations! I am so happy for you and Chris. And the good news about shoes, no tripping, etc. The photos are wonderful - I love your dress and the flowers, pearls and the Botanic Garden setting. I can just imagine what a special day this was! Ten years ago when you joined you were 14, I think, in high school - wow, then college, then grad school, working and now married:) Time flies and it is a pleasure to be part of your life! Happy trails, Gretchen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.