Re: Being honest about Pain

[Guest guest]

Ray:

Very important message about comparisons of pain. I tend to think, however,

that those of us with chronic pain are so much more sensitive to others that

we are almost " genetically " programmed to worry about others more than

ourselves. You are absolutely correct when you say that each person's pain

is the most important problem to them in how it makes us feel and limits our

activities.

Thanks for your message. I will always try to be honest with how I am doing

with my pain - and other things.

Glad to hear you had such a good day. Your family is very lucky to have you

in their lives, as are we.

{{{and pain-free wishes}}}

Carol

" In the little decisions of life, use your mind; in the big decisions of

life, use your heart. " [author unknown]

[Guest guest]

Everyone, I agree with what Ray and Carol say, and give thanks daily for

finding such compassionate folks on this list. Happy holidays this weekend!

Re: Being honest about Pain

> From: MsVVarrior@...

>

> Ray:

>

> Very important message about comparisons of pain. I tend to think,

however, that those of us with chronic pain are so much more sensitive to others

that we are almost " genetically " programmed to worry about others more than

> ourselves. You are absolutely correct when you say that each person's

pain is the most important problem to them in how it makes us feel and limits

our activities.

>

> Thanks for your message. I will always try to be honest with how I am

doing with my pain - and other things.

>

> Glad to hear you had such a good day. Your family is very lucky to have

you in their lives, as are we.

>

> {{{and pain-free wishes}}}

> Carol

> " In the little decisions of life, use your mind; in the big decisions of

> life, use your heart. " [author unknown]

>

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[Guest guest]

Carol,

At 10:51 PM 5/27/99 -0400, you wrote:

>we are almost " genetically " programmed to worry about others more than

>ourselves.

I quite agree with this observation, and would add that we generally become

programmed to deceive ourselves and others about the extent of our pain and

related difficulties.

Ken

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/30/99 5:20:47 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

kturbin@... writes:

<< and would add that we generally become

programmed to deceive ourselves and others about the extent of our pain and

related difficulties. >>

Ken:

Right on!! I rarely let people hear or see what level of pain or difficulty

I have. However, several coworkers know - somehow - when I am having

problems and are very empathetic.

{{{and pain-free wishes}}}

Carol

" In the little decisions of life, use your mind; in the big decisions of

life, use your heart. " [author unknown]