Guest guest Posted May 9, 2002 Report Share Posted May 9, 2002 Imelda and Bertha... I've printed out your replies to my concerns about my husband so I can reread them. They were so helpful. Thanks for caring. Eileen --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2004 Report Share Posted June 5, 2004 Totally agree with you Malini. A choice between two careers is quite restrictive. I can also remember a couple of alumni from our batch who had been pushed into medicine by their parents purely to follow in their footsteps and would have preferred something else. I guess not having to compete with your father's reputation by choosing a different profession can also help to resolve any surviving Oedipal feelings from childhood. I remember being introduced to R.K. Laxman's son when I was in my teens and he jokingly warned me not to follow in my father's profession; even though he was not a cartoonist but a reporter, since they worked for the same newspaper he was forever seen as RK's son rather than a good journalist in his own right. I am sure Ashok, Dilip, Sanjay and all the other children of our respected staff members, who joined the medical profession as well will have their own views. Nadu'82 lpfree wrote: As you say we need to broaden our horizons and get away from the concept that only medicine/civil services etc are the jobs to be in. Having said that I do not know of any 'bhooka' doctor. it is hard and the competition in India is phenomenal. I think we talk about dignity of labour...karmanye vadikaraste maa phaleshu....etc but who practices it? here in the UK even the cleaner in the hospital is proud of the job they r doing. We have consultants in our hospitals whose sons are working as porters (guys who take things from place to place- patients etc). dad and son meet in the corridor, say hello. there is no hitchkitchahat. we need to broaden our outlook. cheers Malini With regards Lakshmi Prasad (lp1960@... ) Depression Dear Neeti, I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In fact, this has nothing to do with me. The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and considering other options. When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything about that! In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of affairs! At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! Kishore Shah 1974 PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's a promise! ------------------------------ Website: www.mgims.org ------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2004 Report Share Posted June 5, 2004 Totally agree with you Malini. A choice between two careers is quite restrictive. I can also remember a couple of alumni from our batch who had been pushed into medicine by their parents purely to follow in their footsteps and would have preferred something else. I guess not having to compete with your father's reputation by choosing a different profession can also help to resolve any surviving Oedipal feelings from childhood. I remember being introduced to R.K. Laxman's son when I was in my teens and he jokingly warned me not to follow in my father's profession; even though he was not a cartoonist but a reporter, since they worked for the same newspaper he was forever seen as RK's son rather than a good journalist in his own right. I am sure Ashok, Dilip, Sanjay and all the other children of our respected staff members, who joined the medical profession as well will have their own views. Nadu'82 lpfree wrote: As you say we need to broaden our horizons and get away from the concept that only medicine/civil services etc are the jobs to be in. Having said that I do not know of any 'bhooka' doctor. it is hard and the competition in India is phenomenal. I think we talk about dignity of labour...karmanye vadikaraste maa phaleshu....etc but who practices it? here in the UK even the cleaner in the hospital is proud of the job they r doing. We have consultants in our hospitals whose sons are working as porters (guys who take things from place to place- patients etc). dad and son meet in the corridor, say hello. there is no hitchkitchahat. we need to broaden our outlook. cheers Malini With regards Lakshmi Prasad (lp1960@... ) Depression Dear Neeti, I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In fact, this has nothing to do with me. The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and considering other options. When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything about that! In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of affairs! At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! Kishore Shah 1974 PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's a promise! ------------------------------ Website: www.mgims.org ------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2004 Report Share Posted June 5, 2004 Dear All, I would call this a self imposed depression. Why do people see only one profession when there are immense opportunities in the other professions too. I understand that being a doc my father also wanted me to carry on in his chair. But he gave me the flexibility to explore my options. While I was searching for options in the US I came across many scholarships being offerred in the field of education, journalism, social sciences etc. In the US you can make a career in History or Geography even Photography. If you watch the Discovery channel and are interested in any of those studies in Oceanography go for it. Just forget the 10 years of medical school in addition to 2 years of court cases. If you are genuinely interested you might find a well paid, well respected profession that you will thoroughly enjoy. There is struggle in every field. If you join a field of your interest you stand a better chance to excel and enjoy it. Any 4 year degree after 10+2 is recognised in the US. You need to appear for the GRE and TOEFL in addition; to be admitted for a MS/PhD course. I sincerely request people to come out of this depression and think ahead. I wish you good luck. Chetan 95 batch. Keep Smiling lpfree wrote: As you say we need to broaden our horizons and get away from the concept that only medicine/civil services etc are the jobs to be in. Having said that I do not know of any 'bhooka' doctor. it is hard and the competition in India is phenomenal. I think we talk about dignity of labour...karmanye vadikaraste maa phaleshu....etc but who practices it? here in the UK even the cleaner in the hospital is proud of the job they r doing. We have consultants in our hospitals whose sons are working as porters (guys who take things from place to place- patients etc). dad and son meet in the corridor, say hello. there is no hitchkitchahat. we need to broaden our outlook. cheers Malini With regards Lakshmi Prasad (lp1960@... ) Depression Dear Neeti, I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In fact, this has nothing to do with me. The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and considering other options. When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything about that! In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of affairs! At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! Kishore Shah 1974 PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's a promise! ------------------------------ Website: www.mgims.org ------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2004 Report Share Posted June 5, 2004 Dear All, I would call this a self imposed depression. Why do people see only one profession when there are immense opportunities in the other professions too. I understand that being a doc my father also wanted me to carry on in his chair. But he gave me the flexibility to explore my options. While I was searching for options in the US I came across many scholarships being offerred in the field of education, journalism, social sciences etc. In the US you can make a career in History or Geography even Photography. If you watch the Discovery channel and are interested in any of those studies in Oceanography go for it. Just forget the 10 years of medical school in addition to 2 years of court cases. If you are genuinely interested you might find a well paid, well respected profession that you will thoroughly enjoy. There is struggle in every field. If you join a field of your interest you stand a better chance to excel and enjoy it. Any 4 year degree after 10+2 is recognised in the US. You need to appear for the GRE and TOEFL in addition; to be admitted for a MS/PhD course. I sincerely request people to come out of this depression and think ahead. I wish you good luck. Chetan 95 batch. Keep Smiling lpfree wrote: As you say we need to broaden our horizons and get away from the concept that only medicine/civil services etc are the jobs to be in. Having said that I do not know of any 'bhooka' doctor. it is hard and the competition in India is phenomenal. I think we talk about dignity of labour...karmanye vadikaraste maa phaleshu....etc but who practices it? here in the UK even the cleaner in the hospital is proud of the job they r doing. We have consultants in our hospitals whose sons are working as porters (guys who take things from place to place- patients etc). dad and son meet in the corridor, say hello. there is no hitchkitchahat. we need to broaden our outlook. cheers Malini With regards Lakshmi Prasad (lp1960@... ) Depression Dear Neeti, I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In fact, this has nothing to do with me. The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and considering other options. When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything about that! In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of affairs! At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! Kishore Shah 1974 PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's a promise! ------------------------------ Website: www.mgims.org ------------------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Depression > > > > > > > Dear Neeti, > > > > > > I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. > > > > > > Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In > > > fact, this has nothing to do with me. > > > > > > The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a > > > few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children > > > appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them > > > have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. > > > > > > Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their > > > sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently > > > cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in > > > a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to > > > any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that > > > would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and > > > considering other options. > > > > > > When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be > > > calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot > > > help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. > > > > > > I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children > > > doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni > > > enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of > > > Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence > > > works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything > > > about that! > > > > > > In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. > > > However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally > > > conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many > > > suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of > > > affairs! > > > > > > At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await > > > the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious > > > parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! > > > > > > Kishore Shah 1974 > > > > > > PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind > > > compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's > > > a promise! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Depression > > > > > > > Dear Neeti, > > > > > > I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. > > > > > > Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In > > > fact, this has nothing to do with me. > > > > > > The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a > > > few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children > > > appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them > > > have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. > > > > > > Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their > > > sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently > > > cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in > > > a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to > > > any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that > > > would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and > > > considering other options. > > > > > > When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be > > > calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot > > > help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. > > > > > > I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children > > > doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni > > > enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of > > > Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence > > > works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything > > > about that! > > > > > > In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. > > > However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally > > > conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many > > > suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of > > > affairs! > > > > > > At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await > > > the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious > > > parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! > > > > > > Kishore Shah 1974 > > > > > > PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind > > > compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's > > > a promise! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Depression > > > > Dear Neeti, > > > > I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. > > > > Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In > > fact, this has nothing to do with me. > > > > The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a > > few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children > > appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them > > have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. > > > > Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their > > sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently > > cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in > > a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to > > any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that > > would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and > > considering other options. > > > > When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be > > calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot > > help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. > > > > I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children > > doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni > > enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of > > Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence > > works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything > > about that! > > > > In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. > > However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally > > conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many > > suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of > > affairs! > > > > At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await > > the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious > > parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! > > > > Kishore Shah 1974 > > > > PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind > > compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's > > a promise! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Depression > > > > Dear Neeti, > > > > I don't know how you do it. But you can predict my moods uncannily. > > > > Actually for the past couple of days, I have gone into depression. In > > fact, this has nothing to do with me. > > > > The matter of fact is that the 12th standard results were declared a > > few days ago. I have quite a few friends who have their children > > appearing for the Medical entrances. Almost uniformly, all of them > > have been grossly disappointed by the performance of their progeny. > > > > Their reactions have been varied. Some have cursed and ranted at their > > sons / daughters. Some have blamed a fever which had conveniently > > cropped up during exam time. One of my friends, who is a professor in > > a medical college, has vowed to offer his job free for a lifetime to > > any medical college which will take his daughter for MBBS. Sadly, that > > would not be sufficient. Others are resigning themselves to fate and > > considering other options. > > > > When I face a personal adversity, I can smile it at its face and be > > calm. However, when my friends suffer, and I am helpless and cannot > > help them in any way, I do get extremely depressed. > > > > I wonder if we should change our whole attitude. Making our children > > doctors should not be our only aim in life. Some of our Alumni > > enquired with me about any preferences in admission to children of > > Alumni. I had to disappoint them. Others wondered if any influence > > works. My guarded reply was, maybe, but I would not know anything > > about that! > > > > In the US and else where, there are so many options to consider. > > However, here in India, though the options exist, we are mentally > > conditioned to think of only Doctors and Engineers. I read of so many > > suicides of unsuccessful candidates every year. What a sad state of > > affairs! > > > > At present, the only thing that I can do is chew on my nails and await > > the results of the CETs and entrance tests along with the anxious > > parents. Oh! How I wish I could do something to help these poor souls! > > > > Kishore Shah 1974 > > > > PS: Thank you, dear Ophthalmologists of MGIMS for your kind > > compliments. I'll come up with a smiler after the CET results. That's > > a promise! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I would suggest getting daily sunlight of at least one hr without sunscreen, unless prone to burning. The sunscreen will filter out the " good stuff " from the sunlight, so perhaps a late afternoon if you can tolerate that. Early morning even better. Another thing is to try 30min/day of hard excercise, like jogging, weight-lifting, stationary bike, kickboxing video, etc. If you can't find time to do it " alone " then getting some cheap equip or video and doing it after bedtime is good. Also, make sure you aren't sitting up too late. I find that when I'm up past 12am I cannot deal well with the day -- not easy said if we have kids with night wakings. Another thing, get plenty of magnesium & B vits, helps us just like our kids. you could also try St. 's Wort or inositol. All that said, it sounds that you have a psychological root to your rut -- again, nothing wrong with that, but sometimes a therapy program can help more than any biological issue. Have you tried talking to a clergy or psychologist? There's nothing wrong with you at all, you are dealing with very real emotions and to not feel hopeless at times would mean you aren't human. Important thing, do something to help yourself, your beautiful daughter needs a healthy mom. Best gift to give her is you taking time to take care of yourself. HTH, Debi > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I would suggest getting daily sunlight of at least one hr without sunscreen, unless prone to burning. The sunscreen will filter out the " good stuff " from the sunlight, so perhaps a late afternoon if you can tolerate that. Early morning even better. Another thing is to try 30min/day of hard excercise, like jogging, weight-lifting, stationary bike, kickboxing video, etc. If you can't find time to do it " alone " then getting some cheap equip or video and doing it after bedtime is good. Also, make sure you aren't sitting up too late. I find that when I'm up past 12am I cannot deal well with the day -- not easy said if we have kids with night wakings. Another thing, get plenty of magnesium & B vits, helps us just like our kids. you could also try St. 's Wort or inositol. All that said, it sounds that you have a psychological root to your rut -- again, nothing wrong with that, but sometimes a therapy program can help more than any biological issue. Have you tried talking to a clergy or psychologist? There's nothing wrong with you at all, you are dealing with very real emotions and to not feel hopeless at times would mean you aren't human. Important thing, do something to help yourself, your beautiful daughter needs a healthy mom. Best gift to give her is you taking time to take care of yourself. HTH, Debi > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I would suggest getting daily sunlight of at least one hr without sunscreen, unless prone to burning. The sunscreen will filter out the " good stuff " from the sunlight, so perhaps a late afternoon if you can tolerate that. Early morning even better. Another thing is to try 30min/day of hard excercise, like jogging, weight-lifting, stationary bike, kickboxing video, etc. If you can't find time to do it " alone " then getting some cheap equip or video and doing it after bedtime is good. Also, make sure you aren't sitting up too late. I find that when I'm up past 12am I cannot deal well with the day -- not easy said if we have kids with night wakings. Another thing, get plenty of magnesium & B vits, helps us just like our kids. you could also try St. 's Wort or inositol. All that said, it sounds that you have a psychological root to your rut -- again, nothing wrong with that, but sometimes a therapy program can help more than any biological issue. Have you tried talking to a clergy or psychologist? There's nothing wrong with you at all, you are dealing with very real emotions and to not feel hopeless at times would mean you aren't human. Important thing, do something to help yourself, your beautiful daughter needs a healthy mom. Best gift to give her is you taking time to take care of yourself. HTH, Debi > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 HI ya. I am going to let you know what I did to get out of the rut like you were in, it may or maynot work for you. BOth of my girls have autism the younger is higher functioning then the older one, but she is still high functioning compared to some. They are both teenagers and the oldest one is graduating next week. There were times I would get so bummed out and depressed that I would get migrianes. My doctor gave me something for my migrianes and told me to get involved in something that your kids aren't involved in. I spend about 2 hours a week sewing or doing something that is for me. You don't have to take pills or spend lots of money. Even if you just walk around the block a few times it helps. That is what I did to help. I know how depressing it can get. Annie From: Diane To: Autism_in_Girls@...: Sat, 28 May 2005 17:34:48 -0000Subject: Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 HI ya. I am going to let you know what I did to get out of the rut like you were in, it may or maynot work for you. BOth of my girls have autism the younger is higher functioning then the older one, but she is still high functioning compared to some. They are both teenagers and the oldest one is graduating next week. There were times I would get so bummed out and depressed that I would get migrianes. My doctor gave me something for my migrianes and told me to get involved in something that your kids aren't involved in. I spend about 2 hours a week sewing or doing something that is for me. You don't have to take pills or spend lots of money. Even if you just walk around the block a few times it helps. That is what I did to help. I know how depressing it can get. Annie From: Diane To: Autism_in_Girls@...: Sat, 28 May 2005 17:34:48 -0000Subject: Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 HI ya. I am going to let you know what I did to get out of the rut like you were in, it may or maynot work for you. BOth of my girls have autism the younger is higher functioning then the older one, but she is still high functioning compared to some. They are both teenagers and the oldest one is graduating next week. There were times I would get so bummed out and depressed that I would get migrianes. My doctor gave me something for my migrianes and told me to get involved in something that your kids aren't involved in. I spend about 2 hours a week sewing or doing something that is for me. You don't have to take pills or spend lots of money. Even if you just walk around the block a few times it helps. That is what I did to help. I know how depressing it can get. Annie From: Diane To: Autism_in_Girls@...: Sat, 28 May 2005 17:34:48 -0000Subject: Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I cried ALOT, I still cry sometimes when I see other NT girls. My is 9 and I have been crying for 7 years, on and off of course!!! You do not need medications for things that are natural like this. What great advice so far from these other moms. And I think just writing about it and " talking " about it has already helped you. I will pray for your strength. Bridget Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I cried ALOT, I still cry sometimes when I see other NT girls. My is 9 and I have been crying for 7 years, on and off of course!!! You do not need medications for things that are natural like this. What great advice so far from these other moms. And I think just writing about it and " talking " about it has already helped you. I will pray for your strength. Bridget Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I cried ALOT, I still cry sometimes when I see other NT girls. My is 9 and I have been crying for 7 years, on and off of course!!! You do not need medications for things that are natural like this. What great advice so far from these other moms. And I think just writing about it and " talking " about it has already helped you. I will pray for your strength. Bridget Depressionok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use something. I would like to try the alternative route, any recommendations????Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Sometimes when life is too hard for me I to take long fast paced walks and work it off by forcing self to do much energy things like the walk or doing yard work things. I to also be to go to park and swing and pump of legs and arms hard very hard to work it off. Or I to go to comfprt zones of play or places. Espeically like to be near water and such to calm of me. I to sometimes go to the zoo as it is of distracting to me of the life things that haunt me and bring me to a fixation place that brings me happy and comfort feelings. I to try to avoid things that trigger emotions of sad, fear or other emotions that might trigger to me bad inside feelings. Sondra > > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Sometimes when life is too hard for me I to take long fast paced walks and work it off by forcing self to do much energy things like the walk or doing yard work things. I to also be to go to park and swing and pump of legs and arms hard very hard to work it off. Or I to go to comfprt zones of play or places. Espeically like to be near water and such to calm of me. I to sometimes go to the zoo as it is of distracting to me of the life things that haunt me and bring me to a fixation place that brings me happy and comfort feelings. I to try to avoid things that trigger emotions of sad, fear or other emotions that might trigger to me bad inside feelings. Sondra > > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Sometimes when life is too hard for me I to take long fast paced walks and work it off by forcing self to do much energy things like the walk or doing yard work things. I to also be to go to park and swing and pump of legs and arms hard very hard to work it off. Or I to go to comfprt zones of play or places. Espeically like to be near water and such to calm of me. I to sometimes go to the zoo as it is of distracting to me of the life things that haunt me and bring me to a fixation place that brings me happy and comfort feelings. I to try to avoid things that trigger emotions of sad, fear or other emotions that might trigger to me bad inside feelings. Sondra > > > ok, I think I need something, I'm falling into a rut and crying alot > > lately, especially seeing " nt " girls and knowing that she will never > > be like them, blah,blah,blah, its getting to me lately and I could use > > something. I would like to try the alternative route, any > > recommendations???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 I tend to clean a lot when I'm upset about stuff. Lol, Hubby wants me to get upset more often! Debi -- In Autism_in_Girls , " sondra " <hfa2@c...> wrote: > Sometimes when life is too hard for me I to take long fast paced > walks and work it off by forcing self to do much energy things like > the walk or doing yard work things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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