Re: Productive Discussions-Explosive Exercise

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Tom,

I am inspired by your post please do not apologize for something that is

life changing and from the heart.

I found your post thought provoking and I feel if you had only posted

the link, the message of inspiration would have been lost.

Thank you for sharing what you have learned about how the mind

" distorts " and a book to back it up.

I believe this book will help many people with many things. This is

soooo much bigger than about " posting " .

I am going through a body image problem right now. When I look in the

mirror I see someone much bigger than

who I really am. I am thankful for this post not only for me but also

for so many clients that are going through what I am at this time.

Please continue to share what you have learned because if it has

effected you positively then usually there are more people out here

searching for what you have learned.

Again, THANK YOU!

Sharbett Burkett

Tampa, Florida

USA

Re: Productive Discussions-Explosive Exercise

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Tom,

You have nothing to apologize for a far as I'm concerned. I thought

your post quite perceptive. It's easy to get emotionally vested in

one's position. Objectivity is very difficult, even though that's what

science is supposed to be about, it's still not difficult to skew data

to fit our preconceived perceptions, particularly when the data

doesn't jive with our experience. I'm looking forward to reading the

book. I just wish I didn't have such an already lengthy reading list.

Thanks for your input,

W.G.

Ubermensch Sports Consultancy

San Diego CA

> >

> > In Cordelia Fine's excellent book, " A Mind of It's Own: How Your

> > Brain Distorts and Deceives " , chapter 4 is entitled The Deluded

> > Brain: A slapdash approach to the truth. Fine explore how the

> brain

> > carefully selects information to uphold its beliefs rather than

> > search objectively for information. We all have this trait wired

> > within us. This has a great effect on how many of us post

> > (particularly those with non-scientific backgrounds) on forums.

> >

> > If someone disagrees with what I have posted, my first instinct is

> to

> > prove them wrong. In the past I have spent a lot of time and

> effort

> > supporting my posted beliefs. After reading Fine's book, I have

> > developed a new approach. I will suppress the urge to attack and

> > careful read the post. I will also read the research that the

> person

> > or another member on this site has provided. If I do not

> understand

> > it, then I will ask questions.

> >

> > Often I gain new insights and am able to change an old outdated

> > belief. Sometimes I feel it is appropriate to stick to my guns.

> In

> > that case, I will do what the best debaters do: make sure I could

> > argue the opposing point as well as my own.

> >

> > We all see the world through different rose colored glasses. But

> if

> > we try someone else's on for a while, we may find the different

> view

> > enables us to learn and grow.

> >

> > Let us all continue to learn and teach each other in 2008.

> >

> > Tom Rankin

> > Mt View, CA

> > USA

> >

>