Guest guest Posted August 27, 2004 Report Share Posted August 27, 2004 Hi, , I am sorry that your social worker is so critical of you. She clearly does not have the understanding you need and deserve! My youngest daugther was diagnosed at seven and it was a tough time. There were a lot of things that we had to just understand because she was unable to cope with it all at once. I am reading " Freeing Your Child From Anxiety " by Tamar Chansky and it is wonderful. I know that your son's problems go beyond anxiety but this book touches on so many different things I wonder if it would help you. Tamar really explains different ways for small children to learn to control their thoughts and it also goes into a lot of detail about how to overcome compulsions and fears. One of our doctors put it on hold for me at a local bookstore and I was surprised at how good it is. I have read Tamar's other book on OCD for children and loved it but this one has new stuff in it as well. As for the rocks in the pockets, just throw them out. He clearly can't help himself and I wouldn't make a big deal about it. The suicide thoughts--I would talk to him about it and let him know that his brain is automatically going to a scary thought to try to make him do things and that it's okay. Let him know that he isn't going to hurt himself and that it is okay to tell you when he feels that way. My oldest daughter has thoughts of killing herself when she is really stressed and I let her know that it is sometimes a natural thought (!) when things are not going well. She is so afraid to think it that I know it just makes her think it more. Good luck and hang in there. Kelley in NV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2004 Report Share Posted August 27, 2004 Hi, , I am sorry that your social worker is so critical of you. She clearly does not have the understanding you need and deserve! My youngest daugther was diagnosed at seven and it was a tough time. There were a lot of things that we had to just understand because she was unable to cope with it all at once. I am reading " Freeing Your Child From Anxiety " by Tamar Chansky and it is wonderful. I know that your son's problems go beyond anxiety but this book touches on so many different things I wonder if it would help you. Tamar really explains different ways for small children to learn to control their thoughts and it also goes into a lot of detail about how to overcome compulsions and fears. One of our doctors put it on hold for me at a local bookstore and I was surprised at how good it is. I have read Tamar's other book on OCD for children and loved it but this one has new stuff in it as well. As for the rocks in the pockets, just throw them out. He clearly can't help himself and I wouldn't make a big deal about it. The suicide thoughts--I would talk to him about it and let him know that his brain is automatically going to a scary thought to try to make him do things and that it's okay. Let him know that he isn't going to hurt himself and that it is okay to tell you when he feels that way. My oldest daughter has thoughts of killing herself when she is really stressed and I let her know that it is sometimes a natural thought (!) when things are not going well. She is so afraid to think it that I know it just makes her think it more. Good luck and hang in there. Kelley in NV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2004 Report Share Posted August 27, 2004 Hi , (((hugs))) I'm just trying to read a few posts to catch up so didn't see your previous ones or replies received. I do recall one about all his collecting though. What other OCD behaviors does he have, is collecting the " big " one? I'm wondering if it's too big for him to be working on right now and that some more " minor " OCD thing can be worked on. Kids love to collect things but I well imagine OCD can get obsessive about it. My son (15) hoards but not so much anymore. He might not throw things away, but he no longer melts down or gets too anxious if I do. His wasn't any collections like rocks though, more that he would get candy or something and " save it. " He would eat it " some day " , which " some day " never came. Question - if, say for example, your son gets tired of collecting cards and changes to collecting rocks, how does he feel about your putting the cards up out of reach? Does it bother him at all since he's changed to rocks? I'm wondering could you have like 1 or 2 shoeboxes and tell him it " all " has to fit in there and then " no more " when full; or he has to get rid of some when full to fit in any new, etc. If he's obsessed with spending too much time on all this and avoiding all other things each day, setting aside some " reward " time to work with his " collection " might be an idea. Well, I have questions but no answers! Keep us updated on things! single mom, 3 sons , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and HFA/Aspergers > > and , > > Thank you both for your support and the ideas . I will definitely try to explain it to him that way. Unfortunately, we are just starting to treat his OCD with this social worker who is the only one I have found so far that is covered that has any experience treating OCD. My son doesn't understand OCD at all despite my trying to explain it to him. He is at the stage where he tries telling people when he gets in trouble that he has OCD and he can't help it. OCD doesn't make him hit his brother. That is just sibling stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2004 Report Share Posted August 27, 2004 Hi , (((hugs))) I'm just trying to read a few posts to catch up so didn't see your previous ones or replies received. I do recall one about all his collecting though. What other OCD behaviors does he have, is collecting the " big " one? I'm wondering if it's too big for him to be working on right now and that some more " minor " OCD thing can be worked on. Kids love to collect things but I well imagine OCD can get obsessive about it. My son (15) hoards but not so much anymore. He might not throw things away, but he no longer melts down or gets too anxious if I do. His wasn't any collections like rocks though, more that he would get candy or something and " save it. " He would eat it " some day " , which " some day " never came. Question - if, say for example, your son gets tired of collecting cards and changes to collecting rocks, how does he feel about your putting the cards up out of reach? Does it bother him at all since he's changed to rocks? I'm wondering could you have like 1 or 2 shoeboxes and tell him it " all " has to fit in there and then " no more " when full; or he has to get rid of some when full to fit in any new, etc. If he's obsessed with spending too much time on all this and avoiding all other things each day, setting aside some " reward " time to work with his " collection " might be an idea. Well, I have questions but no answers! Keep us updated on things! single mom, 3 sons , 15, with OCD, dysgraphia and HFA/Aspergers > > and , > > Thank you both for your support and the ideas . I will definitely try to explain it to him that way. Unfortunately, we are just starting to treat his OCD with this social worker who is the only one I have found so far that is covered that has any experience treating OCD. My son doesn't understand OCD at all despite my trying to explain it to him. He is at the stage where he tries telling people when he gets in trouble that he has OCD and he can't help it. OCD doesn't make him hit his brother. That is just sibling stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 ----- Original Message ----- > BTW, does depression go with OCD or is that a separate issue? *****Depression is a disorder in its own right, but people with OCD have a higher chance of having depression too than people without OCD. But it's not a given, my child has had OCD for over five years but has not had an episode of depression so far. We do keep an eye out for this though. Kathy R. in Indiana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2004 Report Share Posted August 30, 2004 Hi , oh you are not doing anything wrong. You can't punish away OCD compulsive behavior. If you've tried consequences repeatedly for a certain issue, and it has not changed your boy's behavior, then I'd bet my right arm it's OCD. The " consequences have no effect " has been a very definitive " test " around here over time, to differentiate between compulsion vs. poor behavior/choices. Yes collecting things is a normal childhood passion and lots of kids are hooked on the Pokemon cards, just as they are video games and so on. Just because something is " normal " doesn't make it exempt from compulsiveness in an OCD child. Many normal behaviors become compulsive: after all it's normal to wash hands, try to do well on homework, want to avoid getting sick, etc. etc. etc. yet these all and many more are common OCD compulsions, it's a matter of degree. My child had a bike-riding compulsion for Pete's sake, what's more normal for a kid than bike riding?? She also for years had a compulsion to only allow herself her second choice--so she'd be sitting there eating a cookie (instead of the popsicle she really wanted) or watching TV (instead of going to the pool), wearing her second-favorite outfit. I had a devil of a time communicating that compulsion to the therapist. If the social worker is otherwise doing a good job with your son, could you just agree to disagree on the collecting? Maybe you could set up exposures to reduce this sort of thing on your own. I found I pretty much had to do this anyway " in the moment. " For example, instead of throwing things away yourself behind the scenes, could you challenge your son to toss one item every day, maybe working toward a prize when all the glass or whatever is gone? This approach worked well with my child and her extensive dead marker collection. She was pretty young, I offered one mini Tootsie Roll for each marker she tossed. Some days she only got one or two, after awhile I had to think of a different reward since she was eating way too many Tootsie Rolls! Another hoarding issue that was really severe for awhile was picking up trash and so on from parking lots. When she would spy something in a lot, I would offer on the spot a toy or whatever in the store if she walked on by without picking it up. Sometimes she would stand in the lot for quite awhile, wrestling with the compulsion vs. her desire for whatever I had offered. These two compulsions were the first that my child successfully bossed back, two years before we had an opportunity for professional therapy. Good luck , Kathy R. in Indiana ----- Original Message ----- > My son's social worker told me today she does not believe his preoccupation with his collectable cards is OCD. She thinks it is normal boy stuff and I just haven't set clear enough limits. I could scream. I have set limits. Many times over the last 3 years he has been fixated on these trading card games. I try not to be too harsh at first for fear that my harshness will just exacerbate the situation (i.e., taking everything away at the first slip up will just cause him to lie and sneak around). When that doesn't work, the punishments get harsher and harsher, each time lots of explaining what the rules are and how to get the cards back. > > Nothing I have done works. Eventually, it just goes away on its on, usually to be replaced by something else. She thinks the candy was the same thing. She isn't getting it. He stopped worrying about candy when he started focusing on these cards. Now that he doesn't have the cards anymore and all his searching through people's drawers (even relatives drawers in their separate houses) has not produced any cards, now he can't stop collecting rocks and filling his pockets. Rocks aren't new either. I am forever taking rocks out of his room and putting them back outside. They aren't even attractive and he just leaves them all over the floor. He gets very upset when I throw them outside. I have tried to set limits on this too. Sometimes he even brings home pieces of broken glass " because it is pretty " . I don't care how pretty it is, it is sharp. > > Why is it that for all other areas, I can set limits and establish rules and consequences and they work. When it comes to collecting (and hoarding), my rules and consequences never work? Why does that mean that I am doing something wrong yet again? I am so sick of being blamed for the things my son does. I can tolerate it from know it all strangers but not from someone who should know better. I bust my behind to be a good mom for this child. I have read many books and tried the stuff that makes sense. Most of the time it works but not for this. If it is so easy to fix then why is it no one I know has any suggestions for how to help him with this? > > Thanks for listening. > > R. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2005 Report Share Posted July 20, 2005 Lynda; It's not been scinetifically decided exactly what causee lipodystrophy, but if possible try to get a regimen with the newer nukes that spares the PI's. Sanford Sanford M. Gross, OD, FAAO Associate Professor Illinois College of Optometry 3241 South Michigan Ave Chicago, Illinois 60616 >>> " Lynda " 07/20/05 6:38 PM >>> I found out today I need to go back on medication.I have been off of them for almost a year. Could someone please tell me the best drug regiment that will not make my Lipodystrophy worse again. My body is finally gaining the weight back including my face, and I don't want it to get bad again. Greatly appreciate the help Lynda Welcome to our PozHealth group! If you received this email from someone who forwarded it to you and would like to join this group, send a blank email to PozHealth-subscribe and you will get an email with instructions to follow. You can chose to receive single emails or a daily digest (collection of emails). You can post pictures, images, attach files and search by keyword old postings in the group. For those of you who are members already and want to switch from single emails to digest or vice versa, visit www.yahoogroups.com, click on PozHealth, then on " edit my membership " and go down to your selection. The list administrator does not process any requests, so this is a do-it-yourself easy process ! Thanks for joining. You will learn and share a lot in this group! NOTE: I moderate, approve or disapprove emails before they are posted. Please follow the guidelines shown in the homepage. I will not allow rudeness, sexually explicit material, attacks, and anyone who does not follow the rules. If you are not OK with this, please do not join the group. Forward this email to anyone who may benefit from this information! Thanks! In Health, Vergel (PoWeRTX@...) List Founder and Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2005 Report Share Posted July 20, 2005 Lynda; It's not been scinetifically decided exactly what causee lipodystrophy, but if possible try to get a regimen with the newer nukes that spares the PI's. Sanford Sanford M. Gross, OD, FAAO Associate Professor Illinois College of Optometry 3241 South Michigan Ave Chicago, Illinois 60616 >>> " Lynda " 07/20/05 6:38 PM >>> I found out today I need to go back on medication.I have been off of them for almost a year. Could someone please tell me the best drug regiment that will not make my Lipodystrophy worse again. My body is finally gaining the weight back including my face, and I don't want it to get bad again. Greatly appreciate the help Lynda Welcome to our PozHealth group! If you received this email from someone who forwarded it to you and would like to join this group, send a blank email to PozHealth-subscribe and you will get an email with instructions to follow. You can chose to receive single emails or a daily digest (collection of emails). You can post pictures, images, attach files and search by keyword old postings in the group. For those of you who are members already and want to switch from single emails to digest or vice versa, visit www.yahoogroups.com, click on PozHealth, then on " edit my membership " and go down to your selection. The list administrator does not process any requests, so this is a do-it-yourself easy process ! Thanks for joining. You will learn and share a lot in this group! NOTE: I moderate, approve or disapprove emails before they are posted. Please follow the guidelines shown in the homepage. I will not allow rudeness, sexually explicit material, attacks, and anyone who does not follow the rules. If you are not OK with this, please do not join the group. Forward this email to anyone who may benefit from this information! Thanks! In Health, Vergel (PoWeRTX@...) List Founder and Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2006 Report Share Posted November 17, 2006 Acupuncture sounds like a good option. Have you gone to a macro counselor before? Is there one nearby that you could consult with? If it's an inflammatory condition, maybe avoid things that would inflame it more (nightshades, sweets of all kinds until it improves, vinegar, possibly gluten, etc) and then go for more sea veggies, greens, and beans like azuki and black soy beans, shiitake mushrooms and daikon to clean your blood... Your thumb is the lungs/large intestine meridian. > Hi.. > I have been trying to heal my thumb area from an injury to no avail and am open to any suggestions. I saw an Orthopedic physician today and I allowed him to take some x-rays and for a layman's term, I have what is called a trigger thumb. Much pain and where my knuckle is, that area locks. > > Dr. said I have two choices mega cortisone injections and if that does not work, which he doubts it will, then surgery. I was an operatiing room nurse at one time, and I rejected both suggestions, as I have seen this surgery twice and it was not a success. He gave me a brace to wear, which is similar to one I have. > > I have been treating this area for awhile now, and it is not becoming any better.. Any suggestions? Appreciate any input on this.. have pain where the bone is and when the thumb knucle locks. > > Thanks > Diane M/Florida > > > > > --------------------------------- > Sponsored Link > > $200,000 mortgage for $660/mo - 30/15 yr fixed, reduce debt, home equity - Click now for info > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 6, 2008 Report Share Posted December 6, 2008 We are reviewing all of our standards of care and care plan guides.. Looking for feedback on bathing the normal newborn.(not hypoglycemic) All answers would be appreciated! Thanks 1. How old is the infant at first bath? 2:Is the initial bath done in the labor room, nursery or on Mother/baby or postpartum? 3. What about c/s infants? do they go to recovery room with mom, or to a nursery? Are they bathed in nursery or postpartum? 4: if you would do a baby bath on a stable baby after the first breastfeeding, how likely is the mom to comprehend a teaching bath demo vs. just watching the baby have its first photo op bath? Or do you have a separate time that a bath demo is given to mom, like on the next day in the room or in a discharge class? Thanks, LaurieMake your life easier with all your friends, email, and favorite sites in one place. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted March 12, 2010 Report Share Posted March 12, 2010 ,  Im sorry about your lack of sleep. Teething, we use tylenol, baby oregel and we even give him a cold washcloth to chew on, in bed or walking around, we really don't care, as long as our little man is happy ; )  I wouldn't take the brace off.  We had Eli as a little surprise baby, he is 14 years younger than what used to be our youngest child. HA!  We had bought a house a couple years before Eli arrived and he has had to stay in our room because our extra room is downstairs..too far away from mommy!! We have an air clearer on when we sleep and when he naps to help with some " white noise " and he sleeps really well with it on!  Just some ideas : ) I hope he starts sleeping through the night soon! judy : )    It's been about 2-3 weeks now and Thaddeus has been getting up in the night. Sometimes it's just once sometime he's doesn't really go back to sleep. I'm thinking it's his teeth but I really don't know. He was ok when his first teeth came in but this is killing me. I can't see anything comeing in but I can see the gums are going clear like they will becommin in atleast the fang and moler on one side poor man. I've tryed everything now and don't k ow what to do. Tonight we were up at 4 am and he kids was fussy for a few min and drank maybe 2 oz and now went right back to sleep... Any suggestions?? Also we live in a one bed place so I'm wondering if he hears me moving and it wakes him up?! Or if it's a growth spurt or something ?! He has had his brace for about 6 weeks and he was ok with it when he first got it but do you think something could be bothering him? Could it hurt? I really don't want to leave it off for a night but I might have to I guess to see it it's that... I really don't know what going on with him but I really need to get some sleep b4 I go crazy lol. Thanks mom to Thaddeus 13 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2010 Report Share Posted March 12, 2010 ,  Im sorry about your lack of sleep. Teething, we use tylenol, baby oregel and we even give him a cold washcloth to chew on, in bed or walking around, we really don't care, as long as our little man is happy ; )  I wouldn't take the brace off.  We had Eli as a little surprise baby, he is 14 years younger than what used to be our youngest child. HA!  We had bought a house a couple years before Eli arrived and he has had to stay in our room because our extra room is downstairs..too far away from mommy!! We have an air clearer on when we sleep and when he naps to help with some " white noise " and he sleeps really well with it on!  Just some ideas : ) I hope he starts sleeping through the night soon! judy : )    It's been about 2-3 weeks now and Thaddeus has been getting up in the night. Sometimes it's just once sometime he's doesn't really go back to sleep. I'm thinking it's his teeth but I really don't know. He was ok when his first teeth came in but this is killing me. I can't see anything comeing in but I can see the gums are going clear like they will becommin in atleast the fang and moler on one side poor man. I've tryed everything now and don't k ow what to do. Tonight we were up at 4 am and he kids was fussy for a few min and drank maybe 2 oz and now went right back to sleep... Any suggestions?? Also we live in a one bed place so I'm wondering if he hears me moving and it wakes him up?! Or if it's a growth spurt or something ?! He has had his brace for about 6 weeks and he was ok with it when he first got it but do you think something could be bothering him? Could it hurt? I really don't want to leave it off for a night but I might have to I guess to see it it's that... I really don't know what going on with him but I really need to get some sleep b4 I go crazy lol. Thanks mom to Thaddeus 13 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2010 Report Share Posted March 12, 2010 IF it's his teeth you may try and find Hylands teething tablets. These are great and we used them all three of our kids. You can usually get them at walgreens or walmart in the pharmacy area. They are all natural and melt in there mouth. WE used them with a combination of tylenol, motrin and orajel. Hope this helps. Rochelle > > It's been about 2-3 weeks now and Thaddeus has been getting up in the night. Sometimes it's just once sometime he's doesn't really go back to sleep. I'm thinking it's his teeth but I really don't know. He was ok when his first teeth came in but this is killing me. I can't see anything comeing in but I can see the gums are going clear like they will becommin in atleast the fang and moler on one side poor man. I've tryed everything now and don't k ow what to do. Tonight we were up at 4 am and he kids was fussy for a few min and drank maybe 2 oz and now went right back to sleep... Any suggestions?? Also we live in a one bed place so I'm wondering if he hears me moving and it wakes him up?! Or if it's a growth spurt or something ?! > > He has had his brace for about 6 weeks and he was ok with it when he first got it but do you think something could be bothering him? Could it hurt? I really don't want to leave it off for a night but I might have to I guess to see it it's that... I really don't know what going on with him but I really need to get some sleep b4 I go crazy lol. > > Thanks > mom to Thaddeus 13 months > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2010 Report Share Posted March 12, 2010 IF it's his teeth you may try and find Hylands teething tablets. These are great and we used them all three of our kids. You can usually get them at walgreens or walmart in the pharmacy area. They are all natural and melt in there mouth. WE used them with a combination of tylenol, motrin and orajel. Hope this helps. Rochelle > > It's been about 2-3 weeks now and Thaddeus has been getting up in the night. Sometimes it's just once sometime he's doesn't really go back to sleep. I'm thinking it's his teeth but I really don't know. He was ok when his first teeth came in but this is killing me. I can't see anything comeing in but I can see the gums are going clear like they will becommin in atleast the fang and moler on one side poor man. I've tryed everything now and don't k ow what to do. Tonight we were up at 4 am and he kids was fussy for a few min and drank maybe 2 oz and now went right back to sleep... Any suggestions?? Also we live in a one bed place so I'm wondering if he hears me moving and it wakes him up?! Or if it's a growth spurt or something ?! > > He has had his brace for about 6 weeks and he was ok with it when he first got it but do you think something could be bothering him? Could it hurt? I really don't want to leave it off for a night but I might have to I guess to see it it's that... I really don't know what going on with him but I really need to get some sleep b4 I go crazy lol. > > Thanks > mom to Thaddeus 13 months > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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