[Fwd: Re: OT - very good friend's grandson may have ASD - how to broach subject?]

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Oh , what a story about your little girl! If the

old psych is still alive when she grows up , she can send him a horse

head! to let him think his prophesy was fulfilled! sheesh.

How do we deal with this shit?

But thank you for your advice, and others as well. I think you are

all right - this boy is 4, he wont, absolutely will not be with other

children but next year (as they are not the home educating type) he

will be in school and under the scrutiny of someone hopefully who

will identify something.

But as you say, i think these grandparents know already, they have

had many children and grandchildren and would not have said to me

the " flags " unless they were worried.

The parents of this little boy would go ballistic, i know them very

well.

I sure dont want to turn their world upside down, but i guess its

gonna happen soon enough.

thanks people - made my decision

>

>

>

> Oh, I have been through this so many times...watching other

people's

> children and 'knowing' what is going on. There are soooo may of

these

> children about nowadays that it beggars belief. I always agonize,

> " Should I say something, should I not? "

>

> Looking back, I had to put two and two together myself with my

daughter.

> There were many hints from family and friends and also letters from

the

> school but I ignored them all. I definately was not ready to cope

with

> having a 'special' child but I did 'know' in my deepest of deepest

> things weren't quite right up in Denmark. When things got really

> desperate, no invites to parties, children moving their chairs en

masse

> from my daughter in the schoolroom, an innocent and unexpected

> valentines card with 'Sorry but you are like my friend who has a

brain

> virus', that reality suddenly knocked me sideways. I then took the

bull

> by the horns because I couldn't stand it any longer and took my

daughter

> off to a psychiatrist. I needed to know know if my daughter was

> normal....well...she wasn't...That was the day I hit the internet

and

> also phoned everyone in the world I thought could help....It

completely

> brought me out of my reverie.

>

> My advice.......just wait on the sidelines....As the grandson gets

> older, they will feel the outside pressure soon enough.......and

you can

> offer your advice then. They might even 'know' already but have put

it

> aside because they are in survival mode, just keeping it

> together...that's how I was.....

>

> I know you desperately want to help but I think the best thing you

can

> do is conserve your strength for your child. Once you get your

child is

> up and running which I believe you will, you can always point to

your

> child as an example of what can be achieved.

>

> BTW, You will be pleased to know that that 2 years later after the

> 'diagnosis', I phoned up the German psychiatrist who diagnosed her

and

> reported to him the incredible advancements in my daughter just

after a

> week on omega 3s and that at the time of the phone call, she could

be

> classified as being the 'average little girl'. It annoyed him no

end. He

> was the one that told me she should be on psych drugs permanantly

> otherwise she would tend towards criminal behavior. It was a great

day

> for me.

>

> hugs,

>

>

>

> bbrowne123 schrieb:

> >

> > I visited my good friends today and their 4 year grandson was

there. I

> > hadnt seen the boy in 2 years. They told me how he didnt know how

to

> > socialise, did not like " touching " certain things, and how he just

> > talks and talks without listening. I observed the boy for about

1/2

> > hour playing with my own child. He took hissy fit (the other boy)

when

> > my son took his ball, screamed louder than I think i have ever

heard a

> > child scream. He has a very advanced use of language for 4 years

old.

> >

> > He is not at school, he stays at home with grandparents most of

the

> > time as he likes them best.

> >

> > Oh dear, so many flags with this little one. I gave him an ice

lolly

> > (gf/cf) and he got some on his fingers and had to immediately go

and

> > rub it/wash it off. Had a distended belly too.

> >

> > what to do without scaring my friends too much? I worry they will

> > think, its just me, that I see ASD everywhere (which I do of

course

> > cause its there).

> >

> > advise please? ta

> >

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