[Fwd: Re: OT - very good friend's grandson may have ASD - how to broach subject?]

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Oh, I have been through this so many times...watching other people's

children and 'knowing' what is going on. There are soooo may of these

children about nowadays that it beggars belief. I always agonize,

" Should I say something, should I not? "

Looking back, I had to put two and two together myself with my daughter.

There were many hints from family and friends and also letters from the

school but I ignored them all. I definately was not ready to cope with

having a 'special' child but I did 'know' in my deepest of deepest

things weren't quite right up in Denmark. When things got really

desperate, no invites to parties, children moving their chairs en masse

from my daughter in the schoolroom, an innocent and unexpected

valentines card with 'Sorry but you are like my friend who has a brain

virus', that reality suddenly knocked me sideways. I then took the bull

by the horns because I couldn't stand it any longer and took my daughter

off to a psychiatrist. I needed to know know if my daughter was

normal....well...she wasn't...That was the day I hit the internet and

also phoned everyone in the world I thought could help....It completely

brought me out of my reverie.

My advice.......just wait on the sidelines....As the grandson gets

older, they will feel the outside pressure soon enough.......and you can

offer your advice then. They might even 'know' already but have put it

aside because they are in survival mode, just keeping it

together...that's how I was.....

I know you desperately want to help but I think the best thing you can

do is conserve your strength for your child. Once you get your child is

up and running which I believe you will, you can always point to your

child as an example of what can be achieved.

BTW, You will be pleased to know that that 2 years later after the

'diagnosis', I phoned up the German psychiatrist who diagnosed her and

reported to him the incredible advancements in my daughter just after a

week on omega 3s and that at the time of the phone call, she could be

classified as being the 'average little girl'. It annoyed him no end. He

was the one that told me she should be on psych drugs permanantly

otherwise she would tend towards criminal behavior. It was a great day

for me.

hugs,

bbrowne123 schrieb:

>

> I visited my good friends today and their 4 year grandson was there. I

> hadnt seen the boy in 2 years. They told me how he didnt know how to

> socialise, did not like " touching " certain things, and how he just

> talks and talks without listening. I observed the boy for about 1/2

> hour playing with my own child. He took hissy fit (the other boy) when

> my son took his ball, screamed louder than I think i have ever heard a

> child scream. He has a very advanced use of language for 4 years old.

>

> He is not at school, he stays at home with grandparents most of the

> time as he likes them best.

>

> Oh dear, so many flags with this little one. I gave him an ice lolly

> (gf/cf) and he got some on his fingers and had to immediately go and

> rub it/wash it off. Had a distended belly too.

>

> what to do without scaring my friends too much? I worry they will

> think, its just me, that I see ASD everywhere (which I do of course

> cause its there).

>

> advise please? ta

>

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