Guest guest Posted November 14, 2000 Report Share Posted November 14, 2000 I was very intrigued by this response (below). In my individual therapy, my therapist trusts me to bring whatever I feel is pertinent to the session and we'll work with it (it always seems to work out very well). My marriage counselor has a decidedly different approach - she's a big fan of " homework assignments. " Like Rita, I have always hated this, and while I never proudly announced that I would not do them (you go girl), I managed to squirm out of most of them one way or another (it helps that my husband doesn't like doing them either!). I never understood why I didn't want to do them. Were they pushing my boundaries? And if so, was it a good push or a bad push? And if it was a good push, why was I resisting so mightily when I'm so eager to go at stuff normally? Rita brings a new (and appreciated) perspective to this. Maybe I interpret my homework assignments as my therapist saying - " I (meaning my therapist) will decide what is and is not important here, and I will decide what we will work on. " The implicit message being that the way *I* think and feel is not important (hello Monster Mommy, so *good* to see you again). Can we say trigger? Whether that's truly her message, or just my distortion is something I'll have to think about.... --Anon > > In a message dated 11/7/00 1:03:22 AM, WonderrKid@a... writes: > > << And, we've got one topic on the table already -- authority. >> > > Yo O's, > > I have a giant problem with authority. When I first started seeing >my therapissant, Dr. S. in '90 he gave me a list of directives to >do. I told him that I did not take directives from him because I've >been told what to do by my mother for my whole life. He kept trying >to give me assignments and then would ask if I did them in the next >sesssions. I would deliberately and proudly announce that I would >not, and will not take orders from him. I told him that it stemmed >directly from my mom and *control*. I cannot stand to be controlled >or bossed around. > > Rita Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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