RE: Being alone/hypervigilance and cleaning

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Anon said:

> Last but not least, don't be afraid to engage in a little

> pavlovian training. For instance, every day when he got home

> from work, my husband used to strip down in the bathroom and

> leave his work clothes, along with his shoes, lying directly in

> the middle of the bathroom floor. He would then saunter off,

> put on some shorts and do whatever he wanted. Well, we have an

> old clawfoot tub in the bathroom, so I solved this by shoving

> his clothes (with wallet and keys still in the pockets) and

> shoes all the way under the tub every day. The next morning, he

> would have to get down on his hands and knees to retrieve his

> stuff, now covered with dirt, dust and cat fur (I mean, come on,

> I don't mop UNDER the tub!). That put an end to this behavior

> pretty quick.

>

I laughed at this one. Really funny! Good for you, Anon. << applause >>

My BP ex used to get out of the shower and call me to bring him a clean

towel. At first I did. If I told him to use the towel that's hanging on the

towel bar, he'd say he needed a clean one. I continued fetching the required

clean towel for a while longer, always reminding him that if he couldn't use

the towel he had used yesterday, then take a clean one WITH HIM into the

bathroom. He always 'forgot'. Then I suddenly became deaf. I ignored all

pleas and demands from the bathroom for that damn towel. Sorry, out of

earshot, didn't hear a thing. Never brought another towel to the lazy %$ & @