Re: Nada's voice in your head

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--- Anon Mous wrote:

[sNIP]

> That's not narcissistic, that's normal KO behavior!

> I think a

> narcissist would be the exact opposite! Whenever

> something goes

> wrong, I think it's all my fault (i.e., I take

> responsibility

> for it -- as in, I'm co-dependent). Then I proceed

> to shame

> myself for screwing up. When things go right, I

> assume it was

> dumb luck.

Yep. If a generic criticism goes out, I assume it's

about me. An example I like to use is that if my

company made an announcement that someone was stealing

office equipment, I'd think, " OMG! I think I

accidentally kept a binder clip from that stack of

paperwork I took home! " Whereas if they made an

announcement that everyone did a great job meeting a

deadline or something, I assume they're talking about

everyone else.

> Anyway, today one of my

> students gave

> me a copy of the letter he had sent in nominating

> ME, of all

> people.

Congratulations! That's awesome.

> I had to make a conscious

> effort to

> shut that voice up and replace it with positive

> comments:

Yep. I like the way Edith describes how her Nada lived

" rent-free " in her head. I can still hear my Nada's

voice in there, but I'm working on getting it out of

there.

Congrats again on that nomination! Yay!!

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