Re: [modoasis] Clarification

November 15, 2000

>From: WonderrKid@...

>Subject: [modoasis] Re: Introduce Myself

>Date: Tue, 14 Nov 2000 18:52:58 EST

>

>Hi Anon,

>

>Welcome to ModOasis, our email support group for the NonBP adult children

>of BPD parents.

>

>You wrote:

>

><<>I first learned about BPD several months ago when my marriage counselor

>(are you surprised I'm in marriage counseling?) mentioned that it sounded

>like my mom had it (that sounds weird - like it's a virus you catch!). It

>took a crisis to light a fire under my butt, though.

> >>

>

>So you, too, married a BPD. We KOs (Kids Of BPDs) have a tendency to do

> >that-- ie, to get involved in relationships with those whose >backgrounds

>are similar to those who in our family of origin (FOO).

>

>Edith

I'd like to clarify that my husband does not have BPD. He certainly has his

flaws, as do I (especially with the BPD upbringing). So, my reference to

marriage counseling was more along the lines of - " I grew up with a BPD

mother, no wonder it's difficult to have a good marriage relationship. " My

husband is actually a wonderful man (thank goodness), and has demonstrated

remarkable patience and understanding for the things I struggle with.

I have in the past, however, certainly been involved in romantic

relationships with BPs. I thank my lucky stars I managed to choose the man

I'm now married to, because I was definitely still buried in BP land at the

time.

Love to all,

Anon

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