Re: mothers beating children /maria

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Hi,

During my first marriage I went through hxll. Two and a half years of verbal,

mental, physical abuse. What was weird was.... when I started going with him I

had felt a drawing to him. I felt comfortable with him. I've come to realize

that I felt this way because he was just like nada. It was just like home.

A year after I had left him and gone on with my life, I found that I would have

these horrible flashbacks. I began to remember things that had occured during

those years. I found that I would only remember these things because I WAS

getting healthier, stronger, better able to deal with the things that had

happened. Better able to decide how to put these things in a better perspective

and not freeze up. Maybe this is what is happening for you??? Warm thoughts,

Re: mothers beating children

>Date: Wed, 26 Sep 2001 16:23:35 EDT

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>Hi all,

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>I have an interesting reaction to reading about people having a hard(er)

>time

>coming to terms with/admitting/remembering/feeling embarrassed about the

>physical abuse. For me, that was the easier part to handle. The ourbursts

>and rages with physical abuse (often with a brush too, among other things)

>were somehow easier for me to take because it felt more concrete and I was

>much more sure that it wasn't normal and was wrong (although it remained a

>big secret from anyone outside the family). The verbal and emotional abuse

>felt more subtle, insidious, and less concrete in that it " didn't leave a

>mark " (albiet much more regular), so I always felt myself doubting,

>questioning if it was really wrong, assuming it was all my fault, taking it

>all in that I was really just an awful person, etc. Can anyone relate to

>that angle?

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>Aimee

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