Alone Together

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Dear Helen,

Yes, I have read it. It is very good. Even though every relationship is different, the author gives some very helpful tips to all of us with AS/NT marriages. In the process of telling the story of her relationship with her husband and raising their 2 children, she enlarges on topics that are important to all of us: how to communicate more effectively, how to prevent melt downs, how to deal with the problems of raising children, etc. It is an easy read and very interesting. I highly recommend it.

Ann

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I broke through again this evening. For the longest of time, I have

only been able to say " I love you " to my mom, relatives, and anyone I

was involved in a relationship with but never to any friends. Like

most people who have Asperger's, there's potential developmental

issues and the inability to communicate well. Until tonight, I

had " head knowledge " of knowing what the various types of love were

but the " heart knowledge " wasn't all there.

Well tonight.. that changed. I was talking with a female friend of

mine this evening who I had known for two years. She wanted to tell

me, " I love you " , but knew I had been going through a bunch of issues

in my life and did not want to confuse me any more than I did. In

the nature of setting boundaries and such, I thanked her for the

friendship I shared with her this whole time. But, then, I took a

chance/risk/whatever and said, " Please know in the context of

friendship that I don't want what I am about to say to be taken in

any other way but other than friendship. Cali, I love you, because

of how much your friendship has meant to me during the past few

years. Yes, I know you love such and such and have a tremendous bond

with him. However, I want to let you know that in the context of

friendship that I love you because of how much your friendship has

meant to me. "

I went on to tell her how difficult it was for me to tell her that.

She just smiled at me, and said, " I considered myself honored that

you felt comfortable enough to share this with me. I've been wanting

to tell you for a while I love you too as friends, and am very

grateful for the friendship we share. " I just smiled back and we

hugged each other. As I sorted all of this out mentally, I began to

realize that people do love each other as friends and not just as

relatives or those we are involved with intimately.

I count this as an immense blessing in my life, to know that over the

course of time that I find the words " I love you " much easier to say

because I will better know the boundaries in which to say them.

A big thank you everyone who has been here to see me discover things

in my journey as I discover more and more of them.

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> Dear Helen,

> Yes, I have read it. It is very good. Even though every

relationship is different, the author gives some very helpful tips to

all of us with AS/NT marriages. In the process of telling the story

of her relationship with her husband and raising their 2 children,

she enlarges on topics that are important to all of us: how to

communicate more effectively, how to prevent melt downs, how to deal

with the problems of raising children, etc. It is an easy read and

very interesting. I highly recommend it.

> Ann

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