Guest guest Posted January 7, 2008 Report Share Posted January 7, 2008 Thank you for sharing that, . I have a number of books on ADHD that it's time for me to buy some books on Asperger's this year. Very intersting observations, since I felt the faithful part would be right on target with AS/AS. However, there's much more to a relationship/marriage than simply being faithful to one's partner. > When I am in a very loving relationship, I feel safe and > secure (much like I was last Sunday when I openly shared with my > congregation about Asperger's and ADHD). > > > > --- > > > Recent Activity > > 3 > New Members > > Visit Your Group > Yahoo! Health > Fit for Life > Getting fit is now > easier than ever. > > FruitaBü Group > A Parent´s Place > to share ideas on > family cooking. > > New business? > Get new customers. > List your web site > in Yahoo! Search. > > > > . > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2008 Report Share Posted January 7, 2008 , I agree that we must deal with the problem of finding the right mate by what works for us. Unfortunately, as we have talked about before on this list, many of the behaviors that cause problems with communication only seem to show themselves after the marriage has been going on for a few months or even years. That is even common in NT/Nt marriages when the bloom has faded. Look at Liz - 7 and counting! We don't want to throw in the towel everytime things get rough. The same thing will usually show up in the next relationship, or some form of it. Ann > > Dear Princess: > > I am not sure anyone can make a blanket statement that AS Female + NS Male is better or worse than a NT Female + AS Male. I think it depends on the combination and chemistry of the two parties involved and no 2 human beings are the same. With that said, some have reported that an AS female + NS male has worked better due to gender, cultural differences + the nature of some with AS. I live in the USA so my culture of my country might be different than others. I know several AS woman married to NS men that have wonderful relationships. Due to AS, they don't seem to place the emotional demands on their partner that many NT woman do. They are strong, independent and that can be very charming and attractive for some men. Not all AS woman are like this. I think it is case by case. Maybe it is just utilizing your strengths and finding a partner that works for YOU? It that is the case, neither label matters outside of trying to figure out why it works or does not work?????? I think we tend to get hung up on labels and should be looking more at behavior of why or why not the relationship is not working for one or both partners and what partners can do to improve it. > > Just me. Others? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2008 Report Share Posted January 7, 2008 That's why I am giving myself at least two years before getting myself involved in another relationship. My divorce has been official since Friday the 13th of September 2002 (I picked that date on purpose because I don't believe in superstitions) LOL. I want to make sure that I have taken care of myself first and have gotten my ducks lined up before thinking of anything much more than that. I am learning more and more to be my own best friend, which I think is critical. Critical, because if you don't love yourself first, how can anyone possibly love you? That's " heart knowledge " speaking to me, not " head knowledge " as once so often did in the past. I will know when the time is right for me to be in another relationship in the future. As things are now, I am enjoying this time in doing things I would not have in the past. One of the things on my list is to be going up on " The Most Overlooked Place in America " - the Incline Railway leading up to the top of Lookout Mountain. Towards the top of the railway is the steepest part at about a 73 degree angle. I say more power to me for doing this and for having fun in the process. As I mentioned in an earlier post, 2008 will be my " Year of Discovery " . Along with discovery comes exploration and adventure. > > > > Dear Princess: > > > > I am not sure anyone can make a blanket statement that AS Female + NS > Male is better or worse than a NT Female + AS Male. I think it depends > on the combination and chemistry of the two parties involved and no 2 > human beings are the same. With that said, some have reported that an AS > female + NS male has worked better due to gender, cultural differences + > the nature of some with AS. I live in the USA so my culture of my > country might be different than others. I know several AS woman married > to NS men that have wonderful relationships. Due to AS, they don't seem > to place the emotional demands on their partner that many NT woman do. > They are strong, independent and that can be very charming and > attractive for some men. Not all AS woman are like this. I think it is > case by case. Maybe it is just utilizing your strengths and finding a > partner that works for YOU? It that is the case, neither label matters > outside of trying to figure out why it works or does not work?????? I > think we tend to get hung up on labels and should be looking more at > behavior of why or why not the relationship is not working for one or > both partners and what partners can do to improve it. > > > > Just me. Others? > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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