Re: What's Love Got to Do With It????

[Guest guest]

Hi Terry,

I really enjoyed your post - it gave me a good laugh about the kicks.

I too have a very snoopy spouse. He opens my mail, snail and email and

listens in on phone conversations. Even though I don't really have

anything to hide, it is still very annoying but I have learned to deal

with it like you. I now have the outlet of this list and he doesn't

know my email on Yahoo! I look at it as a kind of little secret game I

am playing sometimes - like the only place that he doesn't know about,

where I can be free to speak what I really feel and learn more how to

deal with his 'differences' in AS. Sometimes he comes in and starts to

look over my shoulder when I am writing someone on the list and I have

to hit the reduce button so he won't find out I am talking about him.

This is very sneaky behavior I know, but I feel justified somehow and

not very guilty. lol

Ann

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> Hello all!!!

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> So many interesting discussions of late, and I found them all

interesting. Received Tony Attwood's latest book from Amazon last

Friday, and the new book on AS and love is on order.

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> So I began to wonder what LOVE has to do with it?

> Love makes compromises. Over the years I have changed, but not all at

once, and I resist a wife's nagging that I change into what she wants.

People need to be accepted for who they are, and just as they are!

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> Whenever I felt myself getting overwhelmed I would hide in the

basement fruit cellar as a child or my secret places o be by myself. I

finally realized that I needed to tell my partner that I was getting

ready to explode, and that I needed to get away by myself for a few

hours.

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> I would read, listen to music or walk. Some times I would call a

friend, and get my mind off what is vexing me, talk about other matters

and calm down.

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> I have helped my children a lot with money. Wife constantly nags that

I give them NO more money so they will learn from their mistakes. BULL!

My dad helped all eight of his children, and I will continue to help my

daughters, granddaughter, and the 10 year old girl I sponsor through

Christian Children's Fund.

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> I enjoy giving gifts for not reason. I like giving books, films and

other gifts that teach. To me knowledge is nothing unless it is shared!

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> I expose my children, and granddaughter, to films and humor they would

NOT come across normally. My granddaughter is mixed, and much TV at her

home is Black oriented. Here she sees Tarzan, Sherlock Holmes, 3 Stooges

and The Marx Brothers.

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> All my children act out movie scenes and quote movie lines as

responses. They all enjoy The Marx brothers. The Lemonade Stand they

love, but pains me. Chico kicks the owner of the lemonade stand, and the

guy hollers, " I'll teach you to kick me! " Chico quips, " You no gotta

teach me I know how! " He kicks him again.

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> Alyssa really likes this scene more than the others. I get kicked at

least a dozen times when we play the Marx Brothers! If she sees any Marx

bros. video she starts the game. I did not know a 4 year old could kick

so hard. Love lets her get away with it.

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> I let everyone have their own pace, and never enter it. Wife opens

some of everyone's mail, and snoops through drawers. For what I do not

know, but it irks me to no end when she roots through things that are

not hers. Love has kept me from being physically or verbally abusive

even though I am pushed right to the brink!

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> Love is measured by control, and love that grows so much that it

becomes action is renamed as COMPASSION!

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> A few things to muse over.....

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> Best to all,

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> Terry Klasek

> Saint Louis, Missouri

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