Re: New Bok~Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships

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Sounds good to me, .. thanks for the info on the book. I may be

getting that for me.

I have a weblink I looked at this morning, it it could be added

somewere in the group would be wonderful. Bunch of resources with

Asperger's/autism can be found at:

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/index.php/cat/autism

I'll see what my income tax refund will be first before getting a few

of these books.

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> Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships

> What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really WantLove, Sex and

Long-term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really

Really Want

> Hendrickx

> Foreword by M. Shore

> Paperback, ISBN: 9781843106050, 144pp, February 2008, £13.99, $19.95

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> BIC: JC JBJC9 VFPD

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> description contents

> What are the motivations and desires behind relationship choices

and sexual behaviour? Are they very different for those with Asperger

Syndrome (AS) than for anyone else? Does having extreme sensitivity

to physical touch or an above average need for solitude change one's

expectation of relationships or sexual experience?

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> Many people on the autism spectrum have limited knowledge of how to

establish or conduct sexual relationships: drawing on extensive

research with people on the autism spectrum, the book openly explores

such questions. For the first time people with AS discuss their

desires, needs and preferences in their own words. AS attitudes to

issues such as gender, sexual identity and infidelity are included,

as well as positive advice for developing relationships and exploring

options and choices for sexual pleasure.

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> This accessible book is an invaluable source of information and

support for those with Asperger Syndrome and couples in which one or

both partners has Asperger Syndrome, as well as counsellors and

health and social care professionals.

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[Guest guest]

Sorry about that.. I meant - if the link could be added somewhere in

the group, I (along with others) will be very appreciative of that.

Thanks,

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> > Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships

> > What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really WantLove, Sex

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> Long-term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really

> Really Want

> > Hendrickx

> > Foreword by M. Shore

> > Paperback, ISBN: 9781843106050, 144pp, February 2008, £13.99,

$19.95

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> > BIC: JC JBJC9 VFPD

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> > description contents

> > What are the motivations and desires behind relationship choices

> and sexual behaviour? Are they very different for those with

Asperger

> Syndrome (AS) than for anyone else? Does having extreme sensitivity

> to physical touch or an above average need for solitude change

one's

> expectation of relationships or sexual experience?

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> > Many people on the autism spectrum have limited knowledge of how

to

> establish or conduct sexual relationships: drawing on extensive

> research with people on the autism spectrum, the book openly

explores

> such questions. For the first time people with AS discuss their

> desires, needs and preferences in their own words. AS attitudes to

> issues such as gender, sexual identity and infidelity are included,

> as well as positive advice for developing relationships and

exploring

> options and choices for sexual pleasure.

> >

> > This accessible book is an invaluable source of information and

> support for those with Asperger Syndrome and couples in which one

or

> both partners has Asperger Syndrome, as well as counsellors and

> health and social care professionals.

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[Guest guest]

Good afternoon!, thank you kindly for alerting me to this new book!!! I ordered it yesterday from Amazon along with Tony Attwood's newest book and foure Sherlock Holmes books.I am looking forward to reading the book to see how much more I can "fill in the holes" of knowledge about myself. I have learned quite a bit through trial and error over the decades, but need to understand more.I did have it perfect sex wise for three months in 2002, but I still do not know what went wrong that ended it!! It was the best sex of my life, and I did not know until then how great sex could be!The sensitivity issue is VERY important! My sense of touch is very acute, and it driven to heights when certain fabrics are encountered. That alone keeps from needing viagra or similar suppliments.Again, thanks for the head's up, and I will be reading one asap!!Cheers to all!!!!!!Terry

KlasekSaint Louis, Missouri

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Hi , I have just read the chapter in Aspregers in Love, by Maxine Aston, on AS women. It appears that their comments are pretty similar in a lot of ways to NT women who are maried ot AS men. It also turns out that all six of her AS women subjects were married or are married to AS men. On the other hand, the rest of the AS men were all married to NT women, and Tony Attwood describes the women whom they choose as "Extreme NTs". that leads me to the following questions (all are overgeneralizations, and I know that there are individual people who are counterexamples- but I mean "as a general rule", for all of this): (1) Do AS men really want AS women at all? If they do not want us, we should definitely look for NTs who do. I know at least one AS

single man who seems to prefer NT women, for sure. (Yes, it is a small sample space.) (2) In 2008, is it still the case that NT men prefer women woh are not terribly intellectual, and do not desire to give their wives a chance to engage with them in that kind of stimulating conversation? Maybe, AS women, it is safe to consider a man you love if he happens to be NT. (3) Are AS women in need of help, to keep an NT/ AS relationship in tact, when she is AS? I believe we could use a lot of help here, and do not know of one single reference that will address this issue. , is this book a help to me and other AS women considering the chance tha we may marry an NT someday? (4) Are trhere any AS/ NT couples on this list where

she is AS and he is NT? Half a couple? If so, please share what works for you. (5) Are there any NT men (or women) here who have concerns about this idea? I know that ToM is easier for me to learn than direct non-verbal communication skills, and I would be quite willing to try. I believe that my mother was AS and that my father is NT (my mom passed away years ago), and that marriage eventually broke up after 16 1/2 years. I know that my parents would have been glad of this list. Her issues were different from mine, and I have still not been able to break it to my did that I am AS- maybe after I am tested soon, I will be able to do that, and ask him more. Still, I am asking him plenty, and disclosing a little at a time. Thanks for reading this, Newland wrote: Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really WantLove, Sex and Long-term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really Want HendrickxForeword by M. Shore Paperback, ISBN: 9781843106050, 144pp, February 2008, £13.99, $19.95 BIC: JC JBJC9 VFPD description contents What are the motivations and desires behind relationship choices and sexual

behaviour? Are they very different for those with Asperger Syndrome (AS) than for anyone else? Does having extreme sensitivity to physical touch or an above average need for solitude change one's expectation of relationships or sexual experience? Many people on the autism spectrum have limited knowledge of how to establish or conduct sexual relationships: drawing on extensive research with people on the autism spectrum, the book openly explores such questions. For the first time people with AS discuss their desires, needs and preferences in their own words. AS attitudes to issues such as gender, sexual identity and infidelity are included, as well as positive advice for developing relationships and exploring options and choices for sexual pleasure. This accessible book is an invaluable source of information and support for those

with Asperger Syndrome and couples in which one or both partners has Asperger Syndrome, as well as counsellors and health and social care professionals.

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[Guest guest]

Terry.. I hear you very much, very much. I understand everything

you're saying and all. Sex can be most wonderful within a very

loving relationship with someone. I am not afraid of even admitting

that.

However, I am curious to what what Hendrickx found out from her

research. I grew up reading all I could about Alfred Kinsey, Shari

Hite, and other sexologists and their research about sex with men and

women. Now, that I have fully accepted I have Asperger's/ADHD, I am

curious to know about all these other things. Actually, I e-mailed

Ms. Hendrickx and had a question for her that intrigues me about her

research on Asperger's and sex and seeing how that compared with

Kinsey's research with the American general public and sex.

Yeah, I know all this stuff I learned in my research methods class in

grad school is starting to come back to me now. Am curious to know

if she used a qualitative, case study approach of if it was more

quantititative, research study approach. Actually, this whole topic

is becoming more and more of major interest to me.

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> Good afternoon!

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> , thank you kindly for alerting me to this new book!!! I

ordered it yesterday from Amazon along with Tony Attwood's newest

book and foure Sherlock Holmes books.

>

> I am looking forward to reading the book to see how much more I

can " fill in the holes " of knowledge about myself. I have learned

quite a bit through trial and error over the decades, but need to

understand more.

>

> I did have it perfect sex wise for three months in 2002, but I

still do not know what went wrong that ended it!! It was the best sex

of my life, and I did not know until then how great sex could be!

>

> The sensitivity issue is VERY important! My sense of touch is very

acute, and it driven to heights when certain fabrics are encountered.

That alone keeps from needing viagra or similar suppliments.

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> Again, thanks for the head's up, and I will be reading one asap!!

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> Cheers to all!!!!!!

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> Terry Klasek

> Saint Louis, Missouri

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