Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 Any advice on will writing? A local firm has just rung and asked if we've received the will writing info they sent both of us. I did not know it had been requested, though partner has mentioned the need for us both to write a will.When we moved in together 5 yrs ago, my partner bought the house, but gave me 25% of it in law, as I had found it, was giving up my independence, and so on, When we discussed making a will, then he said he would not necessarily leave me the rest of the house if he died first, but would leave me a life interest in it. At the time, this upset me, as I couldn't see who else would NEED the house (which I love) more than I would! He has not got children and his parents were then elderly (now dead).So we put off the discussions. Now they are back. We have no children, just a few debts! I have heard from other NS partners that AS husbands/partners can make er, unusual will-writers (for example dividing up entire estate equally between eight friends) who don't always look at issues of need, being more concerned with absolute 'fairness'.My partner has a legal sort of mind, but I am worried I'll get emotional if it appears that I'm not going to be left the house, only the right to live in it. No-one can force anyone to leave them anything, I know. I don't want money so much as security. I've paid the bills on the house for the past five years, and I've worked hardfor it.I can feel myself getting emotional already. So will stop.Helena Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 what is the law in your state/country? You need to talk to a lawyer about this. That is the only way you will know your rights. In the US we have free legal help with these issues.. google for info. jkz who is without a will as well. Any advice on will writing? A local firm has just rung and asked if we've received the will writing info they sent both of us. I did not know it had been requested, though partner has mentioned the need for us both to write a will.When we moved in together 5 yrs ago, my partner bought the house, but gave me 25% of it in law, as I had found it, was giving up my independence, and so on, When we discussed making a will, then he said he would not necessarily leave me the rest of the house if he died first, but would leave me a life interest in it. At the time, this upset me, as I couldn't see who else would NEED the house (which I love) more than I would! He has not got children and his parents were then elderly (now dead).So we put off the discussions. Now they are back. We have no children, just a few debts! I have heard from other NS partners that AS husbands/partners can make er, unusual will-writers (for example dividing up entire estate equally between eight friends) who don't always look at issues of need, being more concerned with absolute 'fairness'.My partner has a legal sort of mind, but I am worried I'll get emotional if it appears that I'm not going to be left the house, only the right to live in it. No-one can force anyone to leave them anything, I know. I don't want money so much as security. I've paid the bills on the house for the past five years, and I've worked hardfor it.I can feel myself getting emotional already. So will stop.HelenaBe a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2008 Report Share Posted February 3, 2008 Best to go through an attorney if possible. I know there are things people can do online for wills. But there's no guarantee that they are valid that route. I'll give you some insight on what you have said. See below.... > When we moved in together 5 yrs ago, my partner bought the house, but gave me 25% of it in law, as I had found it, was giving up my independence, and so on, When we discussed making a will, then he said he would not necessarily leave me the rest of the house if he died first, but would leave me a life interest in it. At the time, this upset me, as I couldn't see who else would NEED the house (which I love) more than I would! He has not got children and his parents were then elderly (now dead). ** What you have said most likely means the following: A life interest means that if you will be allowed to live in the same house after your partner's death and then until your death. In accordance in his will, he can do whatever he wants with the house (give it to charity, his children, etc.). That is why I presume your partner wants to set up the house with as a *life interest* to you with the *remainder* (life interest with remainder) of it going to whomever he chooses to designate as the beneficiary of the house. Hope this gives you some idea, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2008 Report Share Posted February 3, 2008 Ummm sorry. Not sure why I went into details on that if you mentioned about it already and understood why you felt the way you did. My apologies. > > > When we moved in together 5 yrs ago, my partner bought the house, > but gave me 25% of it in law, as I had found it, was giving up my > independence, and so on, When we discussed making a will, then he > said he would not necessarily leave me the rest of the house if he > died first, but would leave me a life interest in it. At the time, > this upset me, as I couldn't see who else would NEED the house (which > I love) more than I would! He has not got children and his parents > were then elderly (now dead). > ** What you have said most likely means the following: A life > interest means that if you will be allowed to live in the same house > after your partner's death and then until your death. In accordance > in his will, he can do whatever he wants with the house (give it to > charity, his children, etc.). That is why I presume your partner > wants to set up the house with as a *life interest* to you with the > *remainder* (life interest with remainder) of it going to whomever he > chooses to designate as the beneficiary of the house. > > Hope this gives you some idea, > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 3, 2008 Report Share Posted February 3, 2008 , thanks. I did understand what a" life interest" in the property means, but I fell into a trap, and LOL did something I accuse my AS partner of doing. I ASSUMED that because if I died first (tho' I'm actually 15 yrs younger than him) I would leave my 25% of the house to him, then he would of course want to do the same! i.e. if he died before me, he'd want to leave his 75% share of the house to me, because I live there.Of course if he wants to leave it to Five Valleys Cat Rescue, he can! Just as long as they don't move more than 100 cats in BEFORE I die! (only joking!) Yes, we need to talk about it because the last proper conversation we had about it was 5 yrs ago, and yes, we need a lawyer, tho' sadly I don't think there's free advice in this country.HelenaF 43 NSEngland Re: will writing Best to go through an attorney if possible. I know there are things people can do online for wills. But there's no guarantee that they are valid that route. I'll give you some insight on what you have said. See below.... > When we moved in together 5 yrs ago, my partner bought the house, but gave me 25% of it in law, as I had found it, was giving up my independence, and so on, When we discussed making a will, then he said he would not necessarily leave me the rest of the house if he died first, but would leave me a life interest in it. At the time, this upset me, as I couldn't see who else would NEED the house (which I love) more than I would! He has not got children and his parents were then elderly (now dead). ** What you have said most likely means the following: A life interest means that if you will be allowed to live in the same house after your partner's death and then until your death. In accordance in his will, he can do whatever he wants with the house (give it to charity, his children, etc.). That is why I presume your partner wants to set up the house with as a *life interest* to you with the *remainder* (life interest with remainder) of it going to whomever he chooses to designate as the beneficiary of the house. Hope this gives you some idea, Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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