Guest guest Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Her Abbiness... Yes, I can be her friend. I give myself permission to be her friend, but nothing more at this point. I figure - if things progress beyond friendship, that will happen at the right time. For now, I am focused on living a productive life with Asperger's and ADD. Nothing more, nothing less. Anything beyond that is icing on the cake for me. Yes, I have nothing to lose and I remember some of the great times as well last year. Could be a lot of fun, but just taking everything one day at a time - that is the best advice I could ever give myself. Challenged > > > (as if I am writing to Dear Abby, etc..) > > > > Dear Aspires-Relationships.... > > > > My most recent ex-girlfriend was talking with me on the telephone > > this evening. When she began telling me about some of the good times > > we had and such, I'm thinking, " I'm glad you enjoyed the times we > > had. " Then, she called me " sexy " and because that's how she always > > felt I was towards her. She went to apologize for saying that because > > she didn't want to give me conflicting thoughts. I get the idea she > > might be interested in wanting to get together with me sometime in > > the future. > > > > I've been replaying the conversation in my mind. This is the same > > woman I told y'all about that officially diagnosed me with both ADD > > and Asperger's. She told me that the reason she ended the > > relationship last year was because she was dealing with her lupus. > > When the ice had finally thawed between myself and her, we talked > > about once a week. I was comfortable with that. I have had the > > impression always that when she wanted to end the relationship that > > she was no longer interested in being more than riends with me. I > > have stayed with that line of thinking. Then she tells me this > > tonight. > > > > Also, she acknowledged that I was adjusting to a new area last year, > > so this contributed to some of how I was feeling (in addition to > > being diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's). I don't understand her. > > Why would she tell me about all these things? Why do I get the > > impression she is not over me yet? Is it even reasonable that the > > woman who officially diagnosed me with Asperger's and ADHD last year > > still loves me, as she told me? I don't know what I am suppose to > > think or feel. I don't know what is ok or not ok to think or feel. > > I have been doing so well on my journey with Asperger's and ADHD that > > what she said threw me in for a loop. > > > > I am not ready for more than friendship with anyone, including her > > and she told me she loves me. I went so far as to say in this group > > that I wasn't going to be involved in a romantic relationship for the > > next two years. I am staying with that and do not wish to even the > > least bit flexible with that (maybe I shouldn't think that way). I > > have known already that I want 2008 to be my Year of Discovery. This > > is a year for me, in which I have devoted to getting to know and love > > myself. > > > > Signed, > > Challenged in Chattanooga > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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