We speak a different emotional language.

[Guest guest]

But we look like you, we speak the same language, maybe went to the exact same schools. You *know* us, right? So you marry us, right? We should behave like you do, right?No, wrong. We "speak" a different "emotional" language.

Bill:

I am totally with you here and others. No arguments. BUT, here is the million dollar question? Can someone with AS and I know many do, provide the emotional support needed to maintain a relationship? What about the ones that cannot? How can anyone say that someone should live without emotional support that needs it to grow and flourish? You cannot blame someone with NS for wanting or craving this life as they need this like they breath air. Just curious any more than one can say the one with AS is providing emotional support the best they can but might seem like they aren't. Either they are or not? Who is the Judge? The one with AS or the one on the receiving end???

Where is the middle ground for someone with NS that needs this sun light with a partner with AS who has no need and is happy with out the light? Not trying to offend, just trying to understand? A partnership or marriage is earned on both sides and it is not a right of law or passage. One can not force NS or AS on another person. Most folks come to support groups due to bad or hurtful behavior seeking awareness, understanding and above all support.

Question: How do we separate those with AS that appear to have no empathy or remorse for their behavior that hurt others with those that stand before the criminal courts and present the same? How do we know the difference as like you and I and others have said before there is no real test for AS? If the courts can't see a difference, how can you expect families and others to see what you do? With all do respect and not trying to pick a fight, just trying to understand.

Does this make any sense? Starting a 4 day vacation with a glass of wine. Happy Super Bowl to all you Sports fans/USA tomorrow.