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Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder

Maxine Aston has done extensive research on a condition called Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder (CADD). She is also one of my favorite authors and practitioners with respect to Asperger's and intimate relationships. Yes, emotional deprivation is physically painful to NT's. As I said in my earlier post this evening.....much to the chagrin of AS.........NT's feel every single aspect of a relationship including physical, emotional and intellectual. It's a package deal for NT's and if any one element isn't in what we might call normal ranges, it shakes them to their core and comes out as pure emotion. This goes for NT/NT relationships as well. My best friend threw up when she discovered her husband was cheating on her. It is the most perfect example of emotional to physical pain, I can offer that may be understood by AS and NT alike.Regards,Anita 55 NT Please see Maxine's web site for the full text of this and many other things.

http://www.maxineaston.co.uk/cassandra/Everything below was written by Maxine Aston.

"CADD is about emotional deprivation! My research strongly indicates that CADD can develop as a consequence of being in an intimate relationship with an adult with Asperger syndrome or a disorder that produces a low emotional/empathic quotient or ithymia, a Greek term meaning literally without words for feelings (, and Bagby 2001).The CADD sufferer experiences similar symptoms to those of the SAD sufferer. However there is a more damaging effect upon the CADD sufferer insofar as it is another human being, they probably love, who is responsible, usually unintentionally, for their emotional deprivation - this can be a partner or a parent. The fact that it is unintentional is only realised when the reason for their behaviour is discovered either by self-diagnosis or diagnosis by a professional. Living in a relationship where Asperger syndrome is undiagnosed or denied will often result in the non-AS partner being blamed. CADD is likely to be at it's height as the non-AS partner (whether male or female) find themselves in a position of not being believed by either the AS person or other people around them. It is these feelings of confusion, aloneness and desperation that have resulted in the name Cassandra being applied to the condition.

Emotional reciprocity, love and belonging are essential human needs, if these needs are not being met and the reason why is not understood, then mental and physical health may be affected. Awareness and understanding can eliminate this."