Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I agree about not posting the particulars of someone's experience and appreciate the original author's professionalism to apologize. In the past, when I had a similar experience at another facility, I wrote a posting which invited interested therapists to write to me privately rather than on a public site. I have also had supervisors who were unethical and poor supervisors. However, they taught me some very valuable and hard lessons about recognizing when I was being manipulated and to assert myself in a respectful way without feeling guilty about doing so. A few things that were very helpful were: 1) not to take their shortcomings personally 2) to see them as having shortcomings and have pity on such miserable people 3) Shower them with lots of light to disarm their negativity and to protect myself 4) keep looking for another job so I didn't feel stuck 5) go to the gym/exercise/massage/have fun after work so that my day isn't centered around someone else's negativity. It's also helpful to ask if the position is a union one when going on an interview. When I had a supervisory position, those previous difficult experiences as a subordinate had a humbling effect.-- Shoshana AverbachMSW, LMSW, MA, MT-BC, LCAT, Accredited Healer healingnotes.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2008 Report Share Posted January 14, 2008 While I agree that learning how to deal with difficult supervisors can provide some valuable life lessons--both professionally and personally--I also feel that the honest sharing about one's experiences in a particular job is also valuable. Especially when the experience being described seems to involve more than just garden variety 'difficult' behavior on the part of this supervisor. While someone may willingly choose to pursue a position where they have heard negative things about a supervisor, at least they have the advantage of doing so with their eyes open and can perhaps prepare themselves accordingly. After all, knowledge is power. Hurwitz, MSW, MA, ATR, LPCStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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