Re: Getting examples of behavior from movies

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To all:I am a 56 year old man with Asperger's. My wife and I were having a mild argument, and I suddenly told her, critically, that people don't talk like that in movies. She responded that the people in movies don't have the neurological ailment she does, which makes her very jumpy and irritable in the morning. She's often said that because I was isolated from people most of my early life, until my mid-20s or so, I got most of my examples of human behavior, as many of the "stock phrases" I say, from movies and TV shows, which I readily admit. She believes this is a problem. Any comments?Raanan G

me here: raanan you said:I got most of my examples of human behavior, as many of the "stock phrases" I say, from movies and TV shows, which I readily admit

you need to be able to distuinguish between the two.

stock phrases can be learned with echolalia, and this is common enough amongst AS. you need to be able to distuinguish between this and examples of human behaviour.

i know enough to know thta most movies arent real, i have a stockpile of phrases that have been learned from movies.

the behaviours in them are for me, variable from real life enough to be able to distuinguish between the two.

repeating phrases is an AS feature. finding reality in behaviour in movies, is.....in my opinion not AS.

36 m diagnosed AS

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Raanan and Rhea

Hi and welcome to Aspires. My name is . I'm an NT married to an AS. I may have missed your initial e-mail to the group. How long have you been part of the group?

I noticed you're on AOL as am I. This stands out because it seems so few people on the list are. I've been a member since before the group went to Yahoo. I have been having trouble accessing the site in recent months.

I don't know if you still have any of your initial e-mails, but if you do and wouldn't mind could you send one to me?

I'm sure to have more questions if that's OK once I can find or read an earlier e-mail from you. BTW which one of you usually posts here? I tend to be the one in the family to post (Most often) however, my husband does read the e-mails & has been known to post as well, even though it's through this e-mail.

There are good people here with lots of helpful life experiences. If you've been here a while, sorry for preaching to the converted as it were.

Anyway, good to see another AOL couple.

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Sorry all, realized late this should have gone out private. That's what I get for reading 5 e-mails at once.

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Hi,I find that the family members with AS tendancies are addicted to TV and movies. The often quote passages from the movie over and over again until all of us are saying the same phrase in unison. I am convinced that they use their movie and TV watching as human studies. I believe they are watching to learn catchy phrases, cute retorts, facial expression that impress etc. Only thing is in real life the person spoken to doesn't know the script.Raanan and Rhea wrote: To all: I am a

56 year old man with Asperger's. My wife and I were having a mild argument, and I suddenly told her, critically, that people don't talk like that in movies. She responded that the people in movies don't have the neurological ailment she does, which makes her very jumpy and irritable in the morning. She's often said that because I was isolated from people most of my early life, until my mid-20s or so, I got most of my examples of human behavior, as many of the "stock phrases" I say, from movies and TV shows, which I readily admit. She believes this is a problem. Any comments? Raanan G

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I would say that was true for my husband a great deal. He has a photographic and I guess I would say, audiographic memory and he told me that he grew up adopting the mannerisms, speech, etc. of many male characters, especially those who seemed to go over well "with the ladies" and be successful. He would act a certain way and then I would find out later that he was modeling a movie or TV character (especially with much of his humor, which I used to believe was original till he admitted otherwise.) To this day he can recite the lines from any number of movies at whim and we have a collection of thousands of movies (first in VHS tapes, then as he upgraded, in DVDs of course) such that people borrow from us because they know there is almost nothing he doesn't have.

Re: Getting examples of behavior from movies

Hi,I find that the family members with AS tendancies are addicted to TV and movies. The often quote passages from the movie over and over again until all of us are saying the same phrase in unison. I am convinced that they use their movie and TV watching as human studies. I believe they are watching to learn catchy phrases, cute retorts, facial expression that impress etc. Only thing is in real life the person spoken to doesn't know the script.Raanan and Rhea <graanan315aol> wrote:

To all:I am a 56 year old man with Asperger's. My wife and I were having a mild argument, and I suddenly told her, critically, that people don't talk like that in movies. She responded that the people in movies don't have the neurological ailment she does, which makes her very jumpy and irritable in the morning. She's often said that because I was isolated from people most of my early life, until my mid-20s or so, I got most of my examples of human behavior, as many of the "stock phrases" I say, from movies and TV shows, which I readily admit. She believes this is a problem. Any comments?Raanan G

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I think my ex did this. Every time he got amorous, it was like I was reliving the losing end of a romantic comedy. He acted like he did not know how to entice me without demeaning me, and that got old really fast. Guys, to get your girl, do not do the things in these movies! I doubt any of them like it any more than I did! I do not need to be conquored every time someone loves me. I do not want a man who feels he can only be attreacted to me just after conquoring me. I want real love! Islah Umar wrote: Hi,I find that the family members with AS tendancies are addicted to TV and movies. The often quote passages from the movie over and over again until all of us are saying the same phrase in unison. I am convinced that they use their movie and TV watching as human studies. I believe they are watching to learn catchy phrases, cute retorts, facial expression that impress etc. Only thing is in real life the person spoken to doesn't know the script.Raanan and Rhea <graanan315aol> wrote: To all:I am a 56 year old man with Asperger's. My wife and I were having a mild argument, and I suddenly told her, critically, that people don't talk like that in movies. She responded that the people in movies don't have the

neurological ailment she does, which makes her very jumpy and irritable in the morning. She's often said that because I was isolated from people most of my early life, until my mid-20s or so, I got most of my examples of human behavior, as many of the "stock phrases" I say, from movies and TV shows, which I readily admit. She believes this is a problem. Any comments?Raanan G