Helen, you opened another topic..LOL

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> I think it was someone on this list (I could be mistaken) who coined the

> phrase, " aspergated. " I used that word in one of the sessions in an

> attempt to confirm what the therapist was trying to highlight in terms

> of his observed behavior of me. He agreed that if aspergated meant

> mimicking AS factual, reason and/or logic in order to have more accepted

> and less confusing or argumentative dialogue with my husband, that is

> indeed what he suspects I have done over the years.

Hi Anita,

I'm trying to recall who said " Aspergated " first here. I think it was

a well-loved former member, Freya Schultz. This would have been back

at the beginning, around 2000. Another former member, a friend of

Newland's, piped up, " did you just say 'Aspergated?' " and

then said, " LOL, we have just coined a new term on ASPIRES! "

As the sound of it would imply, yes, " Aspergated " describes the

condition whereby the NT person begins thinking & communicating like

an AS person thinks & communicates. I have long theorized that NT

children who grow up with AS siblings and/or parents are more likely

to be " Aspergated " and as such, may pick an AS spouse because they

don't notice anything different, LOL.

I'm trying to remember where I read an article for parents to give to

teachers - it was eons ago - I'm thinking it appeared on Carol Grey's

(Social Stories) site or Dr. Steve Edelson's (Center for Study of

Autsim) site. In the article, it cautions teachers not to judge

parents for sounding " pedantic " as the parents would have had to

develop that communication style for the benefit of their spectrum children.

- Helen