Re: Re: Knowing what you should be doing but not doing it/ Holding Lightly

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Does anyone know where the phrase: " Hold it

all lightly"originated from?

It's used so much in ACT, and yet I've never quite known where it came

from.

Thanks in advance (and thanks for the great posts everyone),

Joanne

C wrote:

Boom!!

Hee, hee, hee; ha, ha, ha; ho, ho, ho!

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Of course the problem is that sometimes

(often even) verbal rules are massively useful

so even if you learn how to let go of the rules

in your head in terms of their link to behavior,

you can't let go of them all 100%.

Your mind knows that, so it demands an accounting

("how do you know if this rule needs to be followed?

You need to figure that out!") and there you are, back to verbal rules

A safer route:

You can learn to hold ALL thoughts lightly, independently

of whether they are follow. Not to worry.

You do not become unconscious ... you still

are aware of lightly held rules

You can learn to distinguish the observer (or awareness itself)

from the process of thinking.

And if you do those two, life itself will begin to teach you when to

actually follow a rule and when not to, the way you learned to

catch a ball or to walk.

Note that it is the most important thing but

using that method you can even learn when it is safe NOT to take

thoughts lightly (e.g., fusion when watching a movie

is mostly harmless)

But note that these are process rules ... they are not substitutable

for the processes themselves. That you have to do, and then give

time for the seeds to take root

- S

Re: Knowing what you should be doing

but not doing it!

>

> You can describe the process that scoops out the space for that

new

way to be

> but you cannot give a verbal rule that will BE that process ...

because the point of the process is to move the logical mind over into

the passenger seat.

> Giving a verbal rule that will BE that process puts the mind back

into the driver seat.

> About the closest you can get to a verbal rule that will BE that

process is a paradoxical

> one - thus all those goofy Zen books eg "the key to enlightenment

is

this: do not believe this"

> (sounds of bombs exploding as the mind implodes and the writers of

such books laugh hysterically)

So then would a workable verbal rule be "don't buy verbal rules?"

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Joanne Hersh wrote: Does anyone know where the phrase: " Hold it all lightly"originated from? It's used so much in ACT, and yet I've never quite known where it came from. Thanks in advance (and thanks for the great posts everyone), Joanne We use the phrase " Hold it lightly" sometimes in Buddhist circles to describe bare awareness of a thought or perception.

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