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> Even though I have noticed this

> thought " as a thought " there is still a large amount of fear associated

> with this thought. How do you move from noticing it to being willing

> to experience it?

>

Tricky. Noticing it is a big first step. From there I tried just

sitting quietly on my own, with plenty of time, and just investigating

the edges of it.

I sometimes find even now I am unwilling to experience it, I want to

avoid it (eg by going back to bed), so then while lying in bed I might

think, well if I let myself feel it for just one second will I explode

and die? So then I can let myself feel it - ALL of it.

I also find that remembering that whilst I consider it to be a huge

bottomless void (of pain - your experience may be different), it is

still inside me, I can contain it and be bigger than it and expand

around it, it can have as much room as it wants, I can still contain

it. Sometimes ACT seems full of these sorts of paradoxes!

I have also found that the visualisation exercises (something like

p137 138 in the gooym & iyl workbook) have helped me feel a bit sorry

for it, and think of it as my poor little pain creature. If i try and

(mentally) stroke it it it scratches and claws me and tries to bite

me, but thats okay. So if you can work through some of the learning to

jump exercises again with this fear as the target (and just bring the

associated thought to mind again will probably help you find it!) it

may help.

If youre still seeing the therapist, he/she may be able to give a bit

more specific help

good luck

j

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