Re: Re: Noticing Yourself Noticing ?/correction

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Yep, so was mine. Very, very confusing to a child and still confusing as an adult. However, maybe you could stop pretending that it can't hurt you and just accept that it does hurt you and that hurt is a normal response but not a reflection of your value. Sounds good, but when you're up to your ass in alligators, one just wants to survive any way they can. It's tough to deal with people who are mentally ill, especially when they are your parents. I hope someone jumps in with some advice. I so feel for you.

Helena

Re: Noticing Yourself Noticing ?/correction

I should have written that my mother is VERY loving one minute and VERY angry the next and what most people would call a control freak. Is living in the moment and observing your (angry, confused?) feelings not just another way of putting what I did? In other words trying to pretend it couldn't hurt me as I could distance myself from it all?Louise> If I were in a dangerous or life-threatening situation it would be > easy to walk away but living with someone who is very angry at one > minute and very manipulative and bitter and angry another minute and > who is your mother is not the sort of dangerous situation I could > feel justified in walking away from!