hard time with this ACT concept

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anyone else find it really difficult to accept thoughts and feelings, as just thoughts and feelings, and not what your brain tells you it is? i find this ACT concept really hard to follow. anyone have any tips for getting better at this? -russSubject: Re: Re: The Opposite Sex.To: ACT_for_the_Public Date: Friday, December 12, 2008, 1:50 PM

Thank you for that advice.

Robyn

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From: "darkestjourney" <rageforthemachine@ earthlink. net>

> It did and does take a lot of work to be intimate. A lot of work,

> pain, and crying. It makes me wonder if it is all worth it. Then I

> imagine what the last nine years of my life would have been like if I

> had just thrown in the towel and said it was too much for me to

> handle. Believe me it is worth it. There are a lot of nice guys out

> there. It is just sometimes were a little shy. Look for the quiet ones

> and you'll never go back.

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> > > > > > > > I know this is sort of off topic but I just don't know who

> > > > to ask

> > > > > > > about this stuff. I met someone on line. We have been

> > > > talking and I

> > > > > > > have just come through a divorce from an abusive person. I

> > > > was

> > > > > > > married over 20 years even though I did have a lot of men

> > > > friends

> > > > > > > over those years. My husband knew about it. And I had some

> > > > > > > attraction to one of them and wanted to leave my marriage.

> > > > But

> > > > > > > didn't. I should have left the abusive marriage a long time

> > > > ago.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Anyway, I am feeling like an emotional idiot. I don't

> > > know

> > > > how to

> > > > > > > deal with men now. I don't know how to get back into

> > > dating,

> > > > > > > especially with my issues. This person I met seems really

> > > > nice. He

> > > > > > > completely understands anxiety disorders but I don't know how

> > > > to act

> > > > > > > or feel or anything. Does anyone know how to learn to get

> > > > back into

> > > > > > > the world. My mind is saying alot of stuff. The one thing I

> > > > have

> > > > > > > learned through all this pain is to take things slow. I

> > > don't

> > > > ever

> > > > > > > see myself married again. Because it will take me years to

> > > > trust

> > > > > > > someone that much.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Of course my thinking mind wants to get a book on it. I

> > > > don't know

> > > > > > > what to do. Especially, when someone is attracted to me and

> > > > I don't

> > > > > > > know how I feel. I feel like I know nothing. I love chick

> > > > flicks

> > > > > > > and that is not a good place to get my information on dating

> > > > again.

> > > > > > > LOL

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Any help in this area is appreciated. I know it is off the

> > > > ACT

> > > > > > > topic. But maybe not.

> > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > Robyn

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