The Opposite Sex.

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I know this is sort of off topic but I just don't know who to ask about this

stuff. I met someone on line. We have been talking and I have just come

through a divorce from an abusive person. I was married over 20 years even

though I did have a lot of men friends over those years. My husband knew about

it. And I had some attraction to one of them and wanted to leave my marriage.

But didn't. I should have left the abusive marriage a long time ago.

Anyway, I am feeling like an emotional idiot. I don't know how to deal with

men now. I don't know how to get back into dating, especially with my issues.

This person I met seems really nice. He completely understands anxiety

disorders but I don't know how to act or feel or anything. Does anyone know how

to learn to get back into the world. My mind is saying alot of stuff. The one

thing I have learned through all this pain is to take things slow. I don't ever

see myself married again. Because it will take me years to trust someone that

much.

Of course my thinking mind wants to get a book on it. I don't know what to do.

Especially, when someone is attracted to me and I don't know how I feel. I

feel like I know nothing. I love chick flicks and that is not a good place to

get my information on dating again. LOL

Any help in this area is appreciated. I know it is off the ACT topic. But

maybe not.

Robyn

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Peace -j

P. Forsyth, Ph.D.

Associate Professor of Psychology

Director of Clinical Training

Director, Mindfulness & Acceptance Research Program /

Anxiety Disorders Research Program

University at Albany, SUNY

Department of Psychology

Social Science 369

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Albany, NY 12222

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