Something else I wanted to share...

[Guest guest]

I found the following post on the dementiarescue board I'm also apart

of -- originally was written in May...

This is what I wrote in May in response to the original post:

Re: Reflection

- well said and thank you for this reminder. You are absolutely

right. There was a time when my mother was very close to the end (but

she came back) but I remember being so upset and crying to my

sister, " I'm not ready! I'm not ready! "

Which was the truth, who is ready? But I've learned from that moment

on to take each day as a gift and enjoy my moments with my mom. And

now, when the time is here, even though I won't be " ready " I'll be

thankful that my mother is no longer dealing with this terrible

disease.

Reflection

I sit and I listen to people as their loved one is knocking on

death's door and I realize that they aren't really crying for the

person, but for themselves. They are crying for the pain that they

feel of not being able to see them again, touch them again or hear

their voice again.

I watch them bow on their knees and pray to God to please take me!

But it isn't you that he wants as he has made his choice. Why can't

we be so lucky that when we make choices as he does, there is no

going back? Maybe that is why they were chosen instead of us, as they

too had made the right choices.

I listen to the silence of prayers, " Dear Lord, please help us

through this. " Shouldn't we really be thanking the Lord for taking

away their pain and suffering? We are now the ones suffering, but

that again is our choice as our loved ones would have not wanted us

to suffer for their absence. They would want us to remember how

they used to be, not the empty existence laying in that bed. They

would want us to continue down life's path remembering the good times

and the bad, as it is the bad that helps us to make better choices.

Now I stop and reflect when this is all over, what have I learned?

I have learned not to cry for them, but be happy and keep their

spirit in my heart. I have learned to not question the greater power

but rather wait until he chooses me. I have learned to listen to

prayer rather than ask " Why me? " I have learned to be humble and bow

in silence and reflect on the good times as one never knows when he

may choose you.