off subjec t ~ Another disorder EBS (Empty Bed Syndrome)

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Hi LDN Gang This group, and reading your posts, helped me to

recognize EBS and write this ezine article. ~Hugs~ Russ:))

EBS (Empty Bed Syndrome) Mystery Writer Unmasks, Identifies

Troublesome Disorder…

It's 4:15 A.M. and I've spent hours sitting before my computer,

working on my website, reading e-mails, responding to messages in

various chat groups, and generally delaying the act of sleep. I

acknowledge that I am now exhausted. Part of the evidence is in the

fact that I forgot to put the water into the coffeemaker for my last

pot of stay awake. Since there's no hot caffeine barrier to wash

away this foul nicotine taste, I might as well go to bed. This start

of an ezine article, paragraph will be on the screen to greet me

when I awaken.

6:17 A.M. I'm wide awake.

Well, sure enough, here is the self-imposed, writing project. Born

in a delusionary fatigue, it was barely a live birth. Now, if I am

to be the proud parent, I must nurture it and watch my scattered

brainchild grow.

OK, a quick trip to the Internet knowledge-base store. It's an open

24-hour place close by. I hope to find information on sleep

disorders. Perhaps, Empty Bed Syndrome (ESB) is already classified

or listed as something else? Nope! It doesn't appear to be unless

it's hidden within those helpful " See a doctor for depression or

mental problems " covert implications.

If I'm going to solve this sleep disorder, I'll have to find a

solution myself then. First, I'd better honestly examine my relevant

data.

Age: 58

Sex: Male

Status: Single

Orientation: Straight

Location: Vancouver, Washington USA

Physical: 5'6 " /158 lbs/ Mostly gray, curly hair/ big smile/ MS

(Multiple Sclerosis)

Mental: Never accused of being too bright/Positive, unstoppable

Attitude/ Happy/ Loves to Laugh

Number of children: 4 (16-yr-old-daughter moved in unannounced on

New Years Day)

Relationship desired: Long term/Marriage

Self-examination: Well, I avoid going to bed. Ever since the lady of

my last relationship move with me into a larger apartment, and she

acquired her own bedroom, I haven't been able to sleep more than a

couple or three hours at a time. I didn't even notice until she

returned to live closer to her own children because she had an odd

sleeping pattern which I'd adjusted to over the course of nearly

three years.

When I think about it, I realize that it's not so much being in a

marriage or long-term relationship that I really want. It's having

an affectionate female who wraps her admiring arms around me or

invites my loving limbs to entwine hers.

Solution: Find an affectionate female, to share my queen size bed,

one who does not make excessive demands that take away time from

pursuit of my Internet, humanitarian interests. Yet, she must be

able to express affection when we are up and in close proximity too.

Said companion must be willing to put off some immediate

gratification in exchange for long-term rewards. Find pleasure in

assisting loving man with a mission, while encouraged to achieve her

own important goals.

Discussion: I hardly think that this ESB is unique to me. Too many

people, both male and female, are on-line at the same weird hours

that am I, for some of them not to suffer this same affliction.

Likely, no one else has actually identified the Empty Bed Syndrome.

Take the ENS (Empty Nest Syndrome), for example. We have all heard

about it. Yet, having shared close relationships with loving mothers

who, through no fault of their own, were separated from their first

loves (their children), I know first hand how all-consuming the

emotional impact of ENS on a good woman is. The personal loss of

affection for their mate is but one aspect.

BHS (Broken Heart Syndrome) was officially classified as a cause of

death by the medical profession recently. While more men than women

fall victims to this, and die earlier as a direct result, it is none-

the-less a very real, recognized problem. I've even posted an

article about it in the " Other Health Issues " section of my website

http://MilesBooks.com. Probably, my selfishness has inoculated me

and affords me protection from this one.

So, it is not difficult for me to conclude that EBS (Empty Bed

Syndrome) is also a condition that deserves a name, some additional

recognition, and study.

Russ Miles author of mystery/thriller novel FOR SALE BY OWNERS:FSBO

(available thru most booksellers) writes ezine articles about real

estate, health issues, and a variety of interests. Disabled by MS

(Multiple Sclerosis), Russ feels one person with vision and

commitment can favorably impact many persons who wish to accept the

truth. Comments: MilesRuss@.... Personal website:

http://MilesBooks.com.