Re: Had to Share - Anything is Possible

[Guest guest]

Diane,

I was getting ready to shut down the computer when I read your post. So, this

will be my last reply until I am up and running again. But, rest assured you are

doing the right thing. You have to be honest, with them and yourself. Some

people have trouble hearing the truth. In those cases you need to be

compassionate toward them. They suffer differently from you.

Our brains all work differently when it comes to receiving tragic information.

Yours is dealing with this differently than theirs. They (Family/friends) may be

more in denial because that is what the brain is doing to protect itself from

hurtful feelings.

You don't have to make them believe or feel the way you do. Continue to be

honest and open and and supportive. Show compassion for your extended family

also. They are hurting in a different way from you but will come around to your

view.

Just promise you will take care of yourself and Terry. The outside world's

feelings should be the least of your concerns.But I know its in your nature to

worry and care about many! Trust in God and Christ.

Peace & Love,

MaC

diane chandler wrote: Yea,

everyone keeps telling me I'm being ugly to her because I keep trying to get her

to understand that Terry is dying, that he won't get better, only worse. But, I

keep telling them that I will not sit by and watch him die and have her thinking

everything is hunky-dory right up until the moment he passes. What's harder, to

accept his death a little a at a time, or have it come as a big shock? I am

not one for keeping secrets. I think it is always best to be open and honest.

I will be praying for your cousin and her husband.

Hugs............

Diane

[Guest guest]

Thank you MaC.  I needed to hear that.

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To: livercirrhosissupport

Sent: Monday, December 22, 2008 12:16:06 AM

Subject: Re: Had to Share - Anything is Possible

Diane,

I was getting ready to shut down the computer when I read your post. So, this

will be my last reply until I am up and running again. But, rest assured you are

doing the right thing. You have to be honest, with them and yourself. Some

people have trouble hearing the truth. In those cases you need to be

compassionate toward them. They suffer differently from you.

Our brains all work differently when it comes to receiving tragic information.

Yours is dealing with this differently than theirs. They (Family/friends) may be

more in denial because that is what the brain is doing to protect itself from

hurtful feelings.

You don't have to make them believe or feel the way you do. Continue to be

honest and open and and supportive. Show compassion for your extended family

also. They are hurting in a different way from you but will come around to your

view.

Just promise you will take care of yourself and Terry. The outside world's

feelings should be the least of your concerns.But I know its in your nature to

worry and care about many! Trust in God and Christ.

Peace & Love,

MaC

diane chandler <dianechandler@ att.net> wrote: Yea, everyone keeps telling me

I'm being ugly to her because I keep trying to get her to understand that Terry

is dying, that he won't get better, only worse. But, I keep telling them that I

will not sit by and watch him die and have her thinking everything is hunky-dory

right up until the moment he passes. What's harder, to accept his death a little

a at a time, or have it come as a big shock? I am not one for keeping secrets. I

think it is always best to be open and honest.

I will be praying for your cousin and her husband.

Hugs........ ....

Diane