Guest guest Posted May 1, 2006 Report Share Posted May 1, 2006 > > My therapist did suggest that I could start to improve my own >situation by changing how I respond to her. Right now though we're >in the backlash, the period of time where I've changed my behavior >to not always give her what she wants, and she is stepping up her >attacks. I have been there done that. She was very anxious and troubled when my responses changed. I refused to argue with her. I set limits like standing and telling her I was leaving when she started to raise her voice and accuse me of something. I think our arguments made her feel alive and in control. I just won't do it any more. Finally, we reached a point where she quit telling me many of her crazy thoughts and loaded it all onto my two sisters. It became possible for me to call her daily because I could control the conversation and keep it within 10 minutes or so. I felt like I was finally having some power over my own life. For the most part my end of it has improved, but there are still days its wears on me and I question myself. That's when I get back into my books. I am rereading Surviving a Borderline Parent right now. I have to keep myself on track. But the payoff is worth it. Dee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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