Guest guest Posted February 10, 2006 Report Share Posted February 10, 2006 I totally understand your venting. for me it was an emotional hell. I loved my new shape, and what it did for me mentally, sexually, but not physically. this cute hour glass body that was once working out and running marathons now couldn't function and take care of herself let alone her family anymore. one thing that I have learned is that you will find what you are looking for. if you want to look for confident, sexy, feminine woman who have large breasts you will find them, if you look for confident, sexy, feminine, healthy woman with small breasts then you will find them too. be careful what you are looking for. I agree with what someone said about looking at the health magazines, yoga, etc. you will find very fit, long, lean, healthy, confident small chested women who are just as beautiful. even stars like nichole kidman, cameron diaz, debra messing, brooke shields, I took pictues out of these magazines and hung them in my closet for quite awhile, so when ever I got dressed and felt discouraged I saw the pictures to remind me of the different types, and looks of beauty. I was so angry with my body, why me, it seems like everyone under the sun was perfectly healthy and fine with implants why couldn't I be? be kind to your body. start to challenge those negative thoughts about being unattractive, not desirable, not feminine, unworthy. I have also learned that if I focus on only my breasts in being whats attractive, sexy, feminine, I dig a deep pit for myself. step back from the mirror, look at your whole picture, are there other things that could make you feel the same way with out putting 2 septic tanks in your chest. high heels, pedicure, curly hair, eyelash extensions. I am sure this sounds really stupid- let's see do I want an hour glass shape or curly hair? duh! but over time and a little bit at a time you can build your confidence, your self worth and self esteem back up. I think I just had to really hit bottom before getting mad enough to push off and go up. I am worthy of being happy, and healthy, I am worthy of being just as confident, as sexy as the gal next to me with the 2 two time bombs in her chest. Re: I am so down!! I don't have any great advice. I am right there with you. I go on Monday to meet with a PS for the 2nd time with plans on scheduling my explant, assuming it will be done the right way. I have loved my hour glass figure that I have right now. I keep reminding myself that I have been too sick to feel good about myself and don't ever go out anymore where anyone would see my figure. I am tired of not living, so I know my only alternative is getting my implants out and trying to get healthy again, so I can live. I am really scared about how I will look after my explant. My breasts were VERY droopy and small before I had implants -- I know they will be smaller and most likely droopier. It is hard for me to already feel sick and then know that I am going to be adding something else to deal with now. Please remind yourself that you are not alone and that you are a strong woman for going thru all of this. Hugs, MK , "typesxxxy" <typesxxxy@...> wrote:>> Hi Ladies,> > I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to vent to. > Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra > shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward to bra > shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy > anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in the > dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to leave. I > was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a little > loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged. I > probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2006 Report Share Posted February 10, 2006 Great letter, you are absolutely right. When I decided against getting implants, I had to learn how to love my body the way it is, not the way I wanted it to be. My yoga teacher helped me tremendously. The person we are, is the person inside of us, not our physical body. Our body deserves love and care for what it is, not what we want it to be. Even our knees can be sexy with the right frame of mind. I felt like my small chest was happy and relieved to stay what it is. The gym I train at has mostly implanted women. I wear my jog bra and workout tops proudly, I am still natural and healthy. I may not have the hourglass shape they have but I do have a naturally beautiful shape, the one I am supposed to have. Kenda > I totally understand your venting. for me it was an emotional hell. I loved > my new shape, and what it did for me mentally, sexually, but not physically. > this cute hour glass body that was once working out and running marathons now > couldn't function and take care of herself let alone her family anymore. one > thing that I have learned is that you will find what you are looking for. if > you want to look for confident, sexy, feminine woman who have large breasts > you will find them, if you look for confident, sexy, feminine, healthy woman > with small breasts then you will find them too. be careful what you are > looking for. I agree with what someone said about looking at the health > magazines, yoga, etc. you will find very fit, long, lean, healthy, confident > small chested women who are just as beautiful. even stars like nichole > kidman, cameron diaz, debra messing, brooke shields, I took pictues out of > these magazines and hung them in my closet for quite awhile, so when ever I > got dressed and felt discouraged I saw the pictures to remind me of the > different types, and looks of beauty. I was so angry with my body, why me, it > seems like everyone under the sun was perfectly healthy and fine with implants > why couldn't I be? be kind to your body. start to challenge those negative > thoughts about being unattractive, not desirable, not feminine, unworthy. I > have also learned that if I focus on only my breasts in being whats > attractive, sexy, feminine, I dig a deep pit for myself. step back from the > mirror, look at your whole picture, are there other things that could make you > feel the same way with out putting 2 septic tanks in your chest. high heels, > pedicure, curly hair, eyelash extensions. I am sure this sounds really > stupid- let's see do I want an hour glass shape or curly hair? duh! > but over time and a little bit at a time you can build your confidence, your > self worth and self esteem back up. I think I just had to really hit bottom > before getting mad enough to push off and go up. I am worthy of being happy, > and healthy, I am worthy of being just as confident, as sexy as the gal next > to me with the 2 two time bombs in her chest. > Re: I am so down!! > > > I don't have any great advice. I am right there with you. I go on > Monday to meet with a PS for the 2nd time with plans on scheduling > my explant, assuming it will be done the right way. I have loved my > hour glass figure that I have right now. I keep reminding myself > that I have been too sick to feel good about myself and don't ever > go out anymore where anyone would see my figure. I am tired of not > living, so I know my only alternative is getting my implants out and > trying to get healthy again, so I can live. I am really scared > about how I will look after my explant. My breasts were VERY droopy > and small before I had implants -- I know they will be smaller and > most likely droopier. It is hard for me to already feel sick and > then know that I am going to be adding something else to deal with > now. Please remind yourself that you are not alone and that you are > a strong woman for going thru all of this. > Hugs, MK > , " typesxxxy " <typesxxxy@...> wrote: >> >> Hi Ladies, >> >> I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to vent > to. >> Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra >> shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward to > bra >> shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy >> anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in the >> dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to > leave. I >> was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a > little >> loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged. > I >> probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. >> > > > > > > > Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by > licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health > care professional before commencing any medical treatment. > > " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you. > Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a > happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, two-time > Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace) > > See our photos website! Enter " implants " for access at this link: > > http://.shutterfly.com/action/<http://.shutterfly.co > m/action/> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2006 Report Share Posted February 10, 2006 I agree with everyone here - my natural body is so much more beautiful than my implanted body and my health is a beautiful thing to have as well. I just really felt horrible trying on those bras, they were so unflattering. I love my "new" body, my new figure, that I feel great about. I just did not feel good trying on the bras, they just fit me so horribly and they made my boobs look egg shaped, not natural. I was just so excited, today is and I's 6 year anniversary and I was really hoping to have a new bra/panty set to share tonight. Thank you all for being so supportive - I appreciate your words so much. By the way I love the idea of hanging small women in your closet!! auntsisnj <auntsisnj@...> wrote: I think the only thing I liked about having those blasted boobs was the bra part of it, otherwise I felt self-conscious in my clothes and was always trying to hide them. Since I only had them for 6 months, I don't think I ever bonded with them, so being small again is like being "me" again. I definitely understand where you're coming from, though, because when I first had them out and got dressed in the hotel, it was quite a change - however I'm 3 months post op now and I feel good about how I look. I haven't gone bra shopping yet, I'm back in the bra's that I wore before implant - I saved them because deep down I knew I wasn't going to keep them. I think what might help is to remind yourself about what you didn't like about the implants - the pains you were having, the feeling that you were too big or unnatural, and hopefully in time you'll be able to go bra shopping without getting upset.Sis > Hi Ladies,> > I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to vent to. > Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra > shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward to bra > shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy > anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in the > dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to leave. I > was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a little > loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged. I > probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. > > > > > > > ---------------------------------> Autos. Looking for a sweet ride? Get pricing, reviews, & more on new and used cars. > > Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care professional before commencing any medical treatment. > > "Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you. Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a happy life and how to work for a better world." - Linus ing, two-time Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)> > See our photos website! Enter "implants" for access at this link:> http://.shutterfly.com/action/> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 11, 2006 Report Share Posted February 11, 2006 Thank you, Kathy! It's been tough getting here but I'm glad to be here now. You are absolutely right, feeling strong and healthy does make me feel good. I don't look in the mirror in disgust or need a plastic surgeon to fix what I don't like because I like it all now. That isn't to say that I don't wish more changes at the gym though. Kenda > Kenda > You have a very healthy attitude towards your body! And making > yourself strong and healthy probably goes along way to feeling good > about yourself! I know I always feel better when I feel that I am > strong. > Hugs, Kathy > > > > > > > >>>> >>>> Hi Ladies, >>>> >>>> I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to > vent >>> to. >>>> Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra >>>> shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward > to >>> bra >>>> shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy >>>> anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in > the >>>> dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to >>> leave. I >>>> was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a >>> little >>>> loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged. >>> I >>>> probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. >>>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice > given by >>> licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or > licensed health >>> care professional before commencing any medical treatment. >>> >>> " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians > mislead you. >>> Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about > how to live a >>> happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, > two-time >>> Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace) >>> >>> See our photos website! Enter " implants " for access at this > link: >>> >>> > http://.shutterfly.com/action/<http://.shut > terfly.co >>> m/action/> >>> >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2006 Report Share Posted February 12, 2006 That is healthy thinking Kenda! It reminds me of Rogens's list suggestion. Things one can change and things one cannot. We can all change some with healthy eating and exercise, but we cannot change our genetics. I admire you Kenda! Kenda Skaggs <skaggs@...> wrote: Thank you, Kathy! It's been tough getting here but I'm glad to be here now. You are absolutely right, feeling strong and healthy does make me feelgood. I don't look in the mirror in disgust or need a plastic surgeon tofix what I don't like because I like it all now. That isn't to say that Idon't wish more changes at the gym though. :)Kenda> Kenda> You have a very healthy attitude towards your body! And making> yourself strong and healthy probably goes along way to feeling good> about yourself! I know I always feel better when I feel that I am> strong.> Hugs, Kathy> > > > > > > >>>> >>>> Hi Ladies,>>>> >>>> I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to> vent>>> to. >>>> Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra>>>> shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward> to>>> bra >>>> shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy>>>> anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in> the>>>> dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to>>> leave. I >>>> was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a>>> little >>>> loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged.>>> I >>>> probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. >>>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice> given by>>> licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or> licensed health>>> care professional before commencing any medical treatment.>>> >>> "Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians> mislead you.>>> Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about> how to live a>>> happy life and how to work for a better world." - Linus ing,> two-time>>> Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace)>>> >>> See our photos website! Enter "implants" for access at this> link:>>> >>> > http://.shutterfly.com/action/<http://.shut> terfly.co>>> m/action/>>>> >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2006 Report Share Posted February 12, 2006 Thank you, , that is very sweet of you to say. It has taken years in the gym and eating the way I believe I should to feel this way. Realizing that implants weren't safe went a long way toward accepting my body the way it is. Also realizing that I nearly poisoned myself trying to " improve " my body was pretty upsetting/disgusting. Kenda > That is healthy thinking Kenda! > > It reminds me of Rogens's list suggestion. Things one can change and things > one cannot. We can all change some with healthy eating and exercise, but we > cannot change our genetics. > > I admire you Kenda! > > > > Kenda Skaggs <skaggs@...> wrote: > Thank you, Kathy! It's been tough getting here but I'm glad to be here now. > You are absolutely right, feeling strong and healthy does make me feel > good. I don't look in the mirror in disgust or need a plastic surgeon to > fix what I don't like because I like it all now. That isn't to say that I > don't wish more changes at the gym though. > > Kenda > > >> Kenda >> You have a very healthy attitude towards your body! And making >> yourself strong and healthy probably goes along way to feeling good >> about yourself! I know I always feel better when I feel that I am >> strong. >> Hugs, Kathy >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >>>>> >>>>> Hi Ladies, >>>>> >>>>> I just need a shoulder to cry on, someone who understands to >> vent >>>> to. >>>>> Today is my 4 week post op date - woo hoo! I decided to go bra >>>>> shopping and it just brought me down. I was looking so forward >> to >>>> bra >>>>> shopping and now I don't want to go again. I didn't even buy >>>>> anything. I tried on 5 different style bras and as I stood in >> the >>>>> dressing room on the verge of tears, I decided it was time to >>>> leave. I >>>>> was a B pre BA - now I am barely an A it seems. The A cup was a >>>> little >>>>> loose on the left side! I just feel so down and so discouraged. >>>> I >>>>> probably need to go to VS and get properly measured. >>>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice >> given by >>>> licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or >> licensed health >>>> care professional before commencing any medical treatment. >>>> >>>> " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians >> mislead you. >>>> Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about >> how to live a >>>> happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, >> two-time >>>> Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace) >>>> >>>> See our photos website! Enter " implants " for access at this >> link: >>>> >>>> >> http://.shutterfly.com/action/<http://.shut >> terfly.co >>>> m/action/> >>>> >>>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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