Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 My husband doesn't believe that I am sick either. I am very strong so I fight the " tiredness " I feel, but I have lost over 50% of the volume of my hair in less then a year.In fact most of it fell out all at once back in August.He just isn't convinced nor does he care to get information on this. He thinks if I go have the explant everything will be back to normal, problem is I have low selfesteem and that is why I got the damn implants to start. There is no guarentee that I will get better after they are out either...I have silicone implants not saline. I hope I get better but I think he is going into this blind. Everytime I try to talk to him about it he gets very mad and we argue, and he refuses to get counceling with me. So do you have any suggestions as a husband?? I feel I just don't have the support I need. THANK YOU, > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this note > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run into > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, I > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been presenting > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or that > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in common. > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my own > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) penile > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I have > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a matter > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to deal > with this. Please keep in touch. > Karl > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 , Let's put it this way (I'm sorry to be so blunt) . . . You need to be looking out for yourself right now. Chances are very good your husband will come around when he sees you getting better . . . If you didn't get your implants out, sooner or later - with his attitude, he would tire of dealing with a sick wife and find an excuse to take off! Getting your implants out is your only choice for a healthy future. We'll keep praying for you and your husband. I know you're going to get through this! . . . Hugs and prayers, Rogene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Karl, Really nice to hear from you. Please tell Marcy that I'm thinking of her. My husband was skeptical as well, but he finally started taking me seriously. I don't know if it's a male characteristic to want to see proof when something like this happens or not, but I have noticed alot of the husbands take a while to get on board. I think we all wanted to believe that the FDA wouldn't allow doctors to put something in our bodies that would harm us, but unfortunately we've learned the hard way that this is not true. All I know is that I was healthy in May of 2005, and by June 2005 (a few weeks after getting implants) everything had changed. I had the implants in 6 months, and I've had them out for four months, and it's probably going to take me years to recover. Sis > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this note > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run into > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, I > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been presenting > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or that > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in common. > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my own > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) penile > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I have > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a matter > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to deal > with this. Please keep in touch. > Karl > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Karl, Thanks so much for standing up for your wife! . . . I hope you'll join us in spreading the word that implants aren't the thing that makes a woman sexy! When men start speaking out, the market for breast implants will start melting! BTW, problems with penile and testicle implants have been around for years . . . I'm afraid that men are just as hesitant to speak out about them as women were fourty years ago. They even have implant for pets - to improve their " self-esteem " after neutering! . . . Result? pets get sick too! Please give Marcy a gentle hug from all of us! Hugs and prayers, Rogene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 - Your husband sounds a lot like me when I was first introduced to this idea. Actually it sounds to familiar. I could probably tell you word for word what he said, because I probably said the same thing to my wife. First of all do not get discouraged. He will come around, it will take time. There is a chance that he will never come around but if he has a pair of ears and has a smigion of compassion he will start to listen. I feel that he is not validating your claim because he doesn't know how to deal with what is happening. Men by nature are fixers. They see a problem and they try to fix it. This is a problem that he can not fix himself. So he regresses and says, someone else do it then. Here are a few ways to get him involved with your recovery. 1. Write a list of all of your signs and symptoms. Go to the internet and print out the signs and symptoms so that he can see the similarities. 2. Explain to him that it is all right. You have finally found out what is wrong and now it is time to have them out and heal. You want his help and it is o.k. for him to not say anything at all. Just to be there and hold your hand. (Men have a tendency to want to say something. For me I say something stupid and even though my intention was good what I said came out not so good.) Explain to him that he doesn't have to say anything. 3. Admit that the implants were a mistake. By doing this there is nothing to argue about. " I got the implants, they made me sick, and now they have to come out. " What is there to argue about? #4 4. Money. It is the root of all evil. Do not let this be a time to all of a sudden put the brakes on your spending. It is amazing what we will justify spending on. Then something like this happens and we what to not spend money. Weird huh? Here is my approach. Marcy and I completely drained all but a few pennies in our savings. Guess what, I can make more money. They are out and now she has her body back. All I did was pay off the devil for her soul back. Now she is all natural, the way I wanted her to be in the first place. Now we can start recovery, living, and enjoying our lives once again. My list doen't stop here. My little fingers are ready to fall off. Here is the deal. There is no guarentee that by having them out will make you better. It should stop making you worse. I can only pray that it will work. But at this point what are your choices? Be strong!!! When I came back from Iraq last year I didn't want to talk. I soon realized that talking is a good thing. Sit your husband down, all alone, ask him what you have to lose? If he still has questions and doen't get it have him contact me personally. His first reaction is going to be, I don't want/need to talk to him. If he says this he needs to talk to me. How do I know this, I am a husband, remember. We are here to help!!! > > > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this > note > > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run > into > > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, > I > > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been > presenting > > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or > that > > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in > common. > > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my > own > > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) > penile > > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I > have > > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a > matter > > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to > deal > > with this. Please keep in touch. > > Karl > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Hi, I had silicone, and I had to detox my body to get better, but most of us with silicone get better after removal. Lynda At 04:30 AM 3/2/2006, you wrote: >My husband doesn't believe that I am sick either. I am very strong >so I fight the " tiredness " I feel, but I have lost over 50% of the >volume of my hair in less then a year.In fact most of it fell out >all at once back in August.He just isn't convinced nor does he care >to get information on this. He thinks if I go have the explant >everything will be back to normal, problem is I have low selfesteem >and that is why I got the damn implants to start. There is no >guarentee that I will get better after they are out either...I have >silicone implants not saline. I hope I get better but I think he is >going into this blind. Everytime I try to talk to him about it he >gets very mad and we argue, and he refuses to get counceling with >me. So do you have any suggestions as a husband?? I feel I just >don't have the support I need. >THANK YOU, > > > > > > > > > > > > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this >note > > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run >into > > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, >I > > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been >presenting > > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or >that > > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in >common. > > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my >own > > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) >penile > > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I >have > > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a >matter > > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to >deal > > with this. Please keep in touch. > > Karl > > > > > > > > > >Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given >by licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or >licensed health care professional before commencing any medical treatment. > > " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians >mislead you. Find out what the facts are, and make your own >decisions about how to live a happy life and how to work for a >better world. " - Linus ing, two-time Nobel Prize Winner (1954, >Chemistry; 1963, Peace) > >See our photos website! Enter " implants " for access at this link: ><http://.shutterfly.com/action/>http://.shutterfly.co\ m/action/ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 - Thanks for your reply. I wasn't going to do any posting but I felt it necessary since I heard that so many husbands sounded like me at first. Even though I am a RN I still was having a hard time dealing with the facts right in front of my face(It is a male thing)! Marcy is doing well. She is like a little princess laying in bed and ringing her bell(j/k). She has been my most favorite patient so far. I am glad that it is over and now we pray that she will get better. I will do what ever it takes to help her get her health back. There are no guarentees, but we can pray! Thanks for all of your support! Good luck and happy healing to all! Karl > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this note > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run into > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, I > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been presenting > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or that > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in common. > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my own > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) penile > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I have > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a matter > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to deal > with this. Please keep in touch. > Karl > > > > > > > Opinions expressed are NOT meant to take the place of advice given by licensed health care professionals. Consult your physician or licensed health care professional before commencing any medical treatment. > > " Do not let either the medical authorities or the politicians mislead you. Find out what the facts are, and make your own decisions about how to live a happy life and how to work for a better world. " - Linus ing, two-time Nobel Prize Winner (1954, Chemistry; 1963, Peace) > > See our photos website! Enter " implants " for access at this link: > http://.shutterfly.com/action/ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Sis- Nice to hear from you! You are right, males are different. We operate in a totally different way than females. When I was in Iraq I saw this first hand. It became apparent then and now I am a little more cautious about it now. I think the hardest thing for me was to empty the saving account on a maybe. Then it hit me. What the hell do I really have to lose? My wife. Thats when it was all clear. I would put myself in hock for her. So, what is money? Now I have her back and now she can heal. Maybe she will heal completely, but I would take knowing that she isn't going to get worse. I am happy that this is done and now we can focus on life again. Take care, Karl > > > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this > note > > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run > into > > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, > I > > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been > presenting > > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or > that > > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in > common. > > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my > own > > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) > penile > > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I > have > > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a > matter > > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to > deal > > with this. Please keep in touch. > > Karl > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Karl, I just responded to one of your posts but I don't think it went through to this post, I think it may have gone directly to your e- mail from my e-mail. I've got a couple of e-mail addresses, and use one specific one just for this site, but once in a while I don't notice that it's automatically filled in as my other account, and then it doesn't post. Anyway, what I wanted to say was how awesome it is to have a husband's perspective posted on this site. My husband wasn't a " believer " at first, either, he wanted an MD to tell him it was my implants, and he wanted tests run that would tell him for sure it was my implants. He said he thought I was just being neurotic. Your comment about paying the devil off for Marcy's soul back really hit home, and when I read that it made me cry. You are so right, even if it's your last penny, you can always make more money in time, but without health (or in your case without a healthy wife) you have nothing. Thanks so much for letting us into the " men's club " . We definitely need to understand things from a male perspective, and I know my husband is a fixer and if he can't fix it, he retreats. Sis > > > > My husband doesn't believe that I am sick either. I am very strong > > so I fight the " tiredness " I feel, but I have lost over 50% of the > > volume of my hair in less then a year.In fact most of it fell out > > all at once back in August.He just isn't convinced nor does he > care > > to get information on this. He thinks if I go have the explant > > everything will be back to normal, problem is I have low > selfesteem > > and that is why I got the damn implants to start. There is no > > guarentee that I will get better after they are out either...I > have > > silicone implants not saline. I hope I get better but I think he > is > > going into this blind. Everytime I try to talk to him about it he > > gets very mad and we argue, and he refuses to get counceling with > > me. So do you have any suggestions as a husband?? I feel I just > > don't have the support I need. > > THANK YOU, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --- In , " mkkinzy1 " <mkkinzy@> wrote: > > > > > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > > > > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > > > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this > > note > > > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > > > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run > > into > > > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her > finding, > > I > > > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > > > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In > all > > > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > > > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been > > presenting > > > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or > > that > > > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in > > common. > > > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my > > own > > > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) > > penile > > > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > > > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I > > have > > > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to > have > > > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > > > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the > most > > > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > > > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him > to > > > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer > questions > > > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a > > matter > > > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need > to > > > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > > > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on > her > > > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all > that > > > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to > > deal > > > with this. Please keep in touch. > > > Karl > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Karl Thanks so much for your post. It is always wonderful to see a husband supporting his wife . As you yourself mentioned, we need all the support we can get. You sound like a wonderful, caring husband and I applaud you. I know that you guys have been through alot of difficult times and it is my prayer that marcy will have a good recovery. I am glad that you recognize that it can be a long term process. I had mine out four years ago and I still continue to improve! Many hugs to both of you. Kathy > > or anyone else that is going thru this, > > My wife had her explant today by Dr Feng. She is actually laying > here beside me watching me write this note to you. I found this note > of interest to me because of what you said about your husband. I > found this a hard one to grasp. I am a R.N. and have never run into > anything like this before. When my wife told me about her finding, I > was less than convinced that this was the actual problem. To be > honest, I am still speculative. Here is what I do believe. In all > the postings and artilces that I have read, all the signs and > symptoms are the same, or very similar. My wife has been presenting > with all the same signs and symptoms as most people who post or that > she has spoken with. All of these persons have something in common. > They all have some sort of breast implant. I have been doing my own > research and have read articles of males that have (silicone) penile > implants starting to have the same signs and symptoms as well. > Something is wrong with this picture. Something so wrong that I have > completely drained all of our savings in order for my wife to have > the explant. I feel strongly about what I have read and the hell > that my wife has been going through. I may not have been the most > supportive husband at first, but even the most stubburn turns > sometimes. If your husband has any questions please direct him to > me. I would be happy to talk to him and hopefully answer questions > that he might have about the whole process. It is not just a matter > of explant. There is a life long healing process that will need to > be addressed. He will need to be " on board " in order to help you > through this. I couldn't imagine my wife trying to do this on her > own. You are going to need his support and the support of all that > surround you. My heart goes out to you and all people having to deal > with this. Please keep in touch. > Karl > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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