Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Oh my Karl, You have my crying. Wow, what a guy you are! You wife is one lucky lady, that's what I know! It just touches my heart to know that there are still kind, sensitive, caring, loving men out there who see us as more than a pair of breasts. I married one, too, but I thought I got the last one! : ) Your words are very healing not only to me, but I am sure to our whole group. We have felt such pain from this whole issue, and alot of that pain has come from men...from the many male plastic surgeons who perform this surgery, to the many doctors who tell us we're not sick from implants (of course, there are women too, but most of them are men), to the manufacturer's and defenders of implants at the FDA and in our government....so many men telling us lies. How good it is to hear you speak out in support of us and on our side. We hear so little from men on this forum. Thank you so very much for taking the time to write. Can I ask you to hang around and write every once in awhile? It feels so good to get the male perspective. When all is said and done, I think we women really do love our men LOTS and LOTS, as much as we suffer pain from them! I love it especially when they are our knights in shining armor! ( Of course, I love happy endings to fairy tales.) Oh and Karl, let me say from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for serving in our military. Thank you for serving in Iraq, and for giving up so much comfort for the sake of others. How can we ever thank men like you enough? God bless you, Patty > > To all- > > My name is Karl. My wife (Marcy) has had breast implants for 6 > years. Yesterday she had them removed and now starts the healing > process. > > Six years ago my wife approached me about breast implants. I tried > everything I could to talk her out of getting them. I am one of the > males in this world that is not totally fixated on female breasts. > My feelings on breasts are, if they are there great, if not, great. > I will submit that many men that I know put a lot of emphasis on the > size of breast. However, I feel that there are more men out there > that don't place so much emphasis on breasts than men that do. Here > is my arguement. Have you ever talked to a person that has had a > blemish on their face. No matter how hard you try not to look, your > eyes go right to it. Breasts (in my opinion) are much the same. Men > see them hanging out in their face, and you get the picture. > > I asked my wife why she wanted to get them when her husband has no > interest in bigger breasts. She said that it was for her self > esteem. I now know why she got them. They were not for me. They were > for everyone else to see. Why? Why were they not for me? I am her > husband, wouldn't she want to get them for me? NOPE! How does that > work? > > Six years later... > Marcy had been literally falling apart at the seams. Now she comes > to me and tells me that the very thing that made her feel better > about herself is now killing her. Now we have to spend 3 times the > amount of money to put them in to take them out. Wow, how am I > supposed to feel? Well let me tell you something. I just want my > wife back. It doesn't matter how I feel. Should've, could've, > would've. The most important feeling right now is the want for my > wife to get better. There is no going back. So we can only go > forward. I feel that this will bring us closer. Maybe now she will > understand that I love her just the way she is. > > My message to you... > If there is one thing as a male that I hope that I can pass along to > you is, you are beautiful the way you are. You may think that when > you catch a man looking at you that they are focusing on your > breasts. Chances are your husband, or significant other, might just > be admiring you for you. > > What I am seeing... > One of the most interesting things that I see on this posting site > is that all of you are strong. Stay strong. There are some females > that have lost everything. Some do not have support. Some of you do > not know what to do. Here is a list of things to remember: > > 1. Stay strong. > 2. Talk about your feelings. > 3. Never lose site of why you signed on to this site. > 4. Do not give up. > 5. Lean on others, this is the time to actually take up the offer. > 6. Stay positive. > > I feel funny giving advice since I am a male. However, I have been > walking through hell with my wife. I want you to know that there are > people out there that care. I can validate your feelings. This is > for real. Now it is time to start healing. > > Good luck to all. > Happy healing. > My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you! > Sincerely, > Karl > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Thank you so much Karl, I think you have all of us crying . . . You're a good man! . . . You give us all hope. Marcy is a very lucky man. And thank you for serving our country. I pray for your safety and the safety of all our wonderful soldiers. God Bless, Rogene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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