Thru one mans eyes.

[Guest guest]

To all-

My name is Karl. My wife (Marcy) has had breast implants for 6

years. Yesterday she had them removed and now starts the healing

process.

Six years ago my wife approached me about breast implants. I tried

everything I could to talk her out of getting them. I am one of the

males in this world that is not totally fixated on female breasts.

My feelings on breasts are, if they are there great, if not, great.

I will submit that many men that I know put a lot of emphasis on the

size of breast. However, I feel that there are more men out there

that don't place so much emphasis on breasts than men that do. Here

is my arguement. Have you ever talked to a person that has had a

blemish on their face. No matter how hard you try not to look, your

eyes go right to it. Breasts (in my opinion) are much the same. Men

see them hanging out in their face, and you get the picture.

I asked my wife why she wanted to get them when her husband has no

interest in bigger breasts. She said that it was for her self

esteem. I now know why she got them. They were not for me. They were

for everyone else to see. Why? Why were they not for me? I am her

husband, wouldn't she want to get them for me? NOPE! How does that

work?

Six years later...

Marcy had been literally falling apart at the seams. Now she comes

to me and tells me that the very thing that made her feel better

about herself is now killing her. Now we have to spend 3 times the

amount of money to put them in to take them out. Wow, how am I

supposed to feel? Well let me tell you something. I just want my

wife back. It doesn't matter how I feel. Should've, could've,

would've. The most important feeling right now is the want for my

wife to get better. There is no going back. So we can only go

forward. I feel that this will bring us closer. Maybe now she will

understand that I love her just the way she is.

My message to you...

If there is one thing as a male that I hope that I can pass along to

you is, you are beautiful the way you are. You may think that when

you catch a man looking at you that they are focusing on your

breasts. Chances are your husband, or significant other, might just

be admiring you for you.

What I am seeing...

One of the most interesting things that I see on this posting site

is that all of you are strong. Stay strong. There are some females

that have lost everything. Some do not have support. Some of you do

not know what to do. Here is a list of things to remember:

1. Stay strong.

2. Talk about your feelings.

3. Never lose site of why you signed on to this site.

4. Do not give up.

5. Lean on others, this is the time to actually take up the offer.

6. Stay positive.

I feel funny giving advice since I am a male. However, I have been

walking through hell with my wife. I want you to know that there are

people out there that care. I can validate your feelings. This is

for real. Now it is time to start healing.

Good luck to all.

Happy healing.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you!

Sincerely,

Karl